Was my reply rude or fair?

[Anonymous]

I just lost a chance with a possible good match. He texted back saying he's not going to call me again after the way I answered and it was a call wishing me to have a good afternoon. I replied ''Ok bye''. This is what happened:

I get a sudden call during my working hours, I don't even recognize the number and when I said ''hello'', he replied ''hey my love''. I replied ''Who's this, who's this I'm working''. In addition, I've been lovebombed before, had to discard guys that were after sex, had been harassed by a couple guys that wouldn't stop calling and saying sweet names and come from having bad luck.

He got upset I replied in that manner. I didn't even know it was him calling. Can you blame me? Was I really rude or fair?

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+1 y

Luckily he's not the only one. I've already set up a date with someone else tomorrow. I'm trying all my options at this moment.
I got discarded for my rude answer but after getting lovebombed so much, getting harrassed and not recognizing the number can you blame me?
Plus I don't like getting called suddenly.. inform me at least. I was working.

[Changiis07]

I mean you could have said who is this and waited to see what they said but no I can't blame you because it was an unknown number. Plus he said he won't be calling you but you can call him

[Asker]

It's ok. I have another date set up for tomorrow. He's no the only guy I'm talking to. I lost him and that's ok by me. I don't fight for anyone anymore.

[Changiis07]

Dang stand your ground girl! :)

[Asker]

Yeah I'm different nowadays. I was forced to change and be more radical, more assertive and even outspoken. The once sweet, innocent girl that would give chances after chances is gone. I'm still kind but will be straight forward when I have to.
I think he could've asked if I'm available before calling instead of suddenly calling.

[Changiis07]

You're right and same here. Have to get straight to the point that way you aren't wasting your time

[Jamie05rhs]

Both. Rude and fair.
by the way, you could always just apologize and explain what happened and try to work it out. If you get into a relationship you're going to have to do that type of thing anyway, because people do occasionally have misunderstandings.

[Asker]

If he was my only single option then I can see myself immediately apologizing. I've got a date set up with someone else tomorrow and currently talking to a couple other guys. I'm going to start going outside more on the weekends, put mysef out there.

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay. Suit yourself.

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks for the MHO.

[serious]

Yes it was a bit rude/blunt but it was fair also

[Asker]

I've changed so much. I'm becoming more direct, blunt and not impressed at all by sweet words a man can say. In fact I hate sweet words and pet names. I'm now looking for actions mainly.

[serious]

Good.

[Anonymous]

During work it can be annoying so it’s not really rude but you don’t like sex? Most guys want sex eventually so if you don’t like it then you shouldn’t be trying to date men

[Asker]

I had a ''deja-vu'' moment too. I've been through so much that sweet talking (or getting called pet names) can be irritating to me.
I love most guys want sex but the point for me is sex with commitment, with someone that'll give me kids. I'm looking for the serious life time commitmet. I don't want to be dating and be someone's girlfriend just for fun.

[Asker]

If I were married and had a child, then I wouldn't mind having sex frequently. But it bothers me when they're just focusing on sex and no commitment.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh ok, that makes sense especially for your age since you’re right at the age where you would be having children before it’s too late. I don’t have one night stands and leave after getting sex , I’m looking for a relationship too

[Asker]

yes indeed. Thank you for understanding.