Was I being rude?

[Anonymous]

A long time friend (10+ years) told me I was rude for this interaction, among other things. We had made plans to hang on Mon the previous Fri. They said me not saying anything about time or place until day of Mon morning and saying I'd let her know when I got of work was rude. Was I? (I'm in blue).

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She mentioned it was rude to have her on standby since I didn't know when I was getting off and that I took too long to respond

[WaterIsland]

I don’t think so. Something came up (work I’m assuming?). You told her that. And then the decision was made to reschedule. You maybe could have taken her up and agreed to reschedule earlier. But that is really tough for her or anyone else to argue in this case.


If it happens frequently with you, I could understand. But purely based on the question you weren’t rude.


Now, her being disappointed or sad at the situation, is fine and understandable. She might have been looking forward to spending time with you. But that doesn’t mean you were rude.


Some people wouldn’t have even communicated at all. And that would be rude. You gave her plenty of heads up.

[jennifer_bloom]

I think it's rude to cancel on somebody who shows up one hour later then you wanted them to if they tell you ahead of time that they will be one hour late. I once had a friend agree to meet me at a certain time and then when five minutes before I arrive at the place after arranging my ride to the mall, she told me, she would be 20 minutes late. I consider that rude. If it happens once, it could be an emergency, but she did this over 40% of the time we hung out. One reason I did not want to be her friend and only entertained her as a connection cause she kept harassing me with unsolicited text messages when every body else in her life rejected her as a friend too.

[Anonymous]

I don't see anything rude here.

[Jmmmfi4]

I don't think so