If a girl asks why I get nervous does she know that I like her?

[Anonymous]

My coworker who is a woman has asked me this like 3 times now.

[MaazHussain]

It's possible that your coworker may suspect that you like her, but there's no way to know for sure without more information about the context of her questions. It's also possible that she's just making casual conversation and genuinely curious about why you get nervous. If you're interested in her and would like to pursue a romantic relationship, you could try expressing your feelings and see how she responds. However, if you're not sure about her feelings or prefer to keep things professional at work, you could try changing the subject or politely redirecting the conversation.

[Asker]

I have no clue what she wants.

[coachTanthony]

Doesn't matter what she thinks. You like her then just ask her out.

[Asker]

But i want signs from here before i ask her out.

[coachTanthony]

As long as there are no signs of disinterest then just go for it. We can't always get signs.

[Truthatanycost]

For the most part, attraction is something that in most cases has to be built by the man. Once that has been done then it takes on a life of it's own. Asking out a woman before attraction has been built gives her no reason to even bother.

[Asker]

@Truthatanycost i dont think attraction for the most part is only built by a man. It takes two people to build a relationship.

[Truthatanycost]

Most men in general find women attractive just from seeing them, most women in general do not find men attractive just from seeing them. There are exceptions but for the most part the man needs to initiate it, build it or spark attraction. Then the woman continues. I was not referring to building a relationship, I was only talking about building the spark that begins the rest of it.

[Anonymous]

She isn't sure why you do so she's asking you

[Asker]

She has also asked me if i have a crush on a coworker.

Something tells me she knows

[Opinion Owner]

She might be confused about your feelings. Give her clarity

[Asker]

I am a bit scared of telling her that i like her. Im waiting for signs from her but i think i might have gotten one today.

Me, her, and her girl friend were outside the office and they were talking. She came up to me and pulled me towards her and put her hand on my tummy while saying nothing and just looking at me.

Is this a good sign?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, it's a sign too. You can make a move on her. You can tell her that you like her confidently but don't look like you're forcing her because girls usually pull away when they sense a guy might be moving too fastly. So calm down and with confidence, tell her that you like her and listen her response. Based on her response, you can understand how to move forward next

[Asker]

Telling her i like her is a bit too strong in my opinion. I’m not sure if i can do that.

I am not even sure if her touching me was a sign. I asked my sister and she said girls dont touch guys on the tummy in a friendly way.

[Opinion Owner]

Touching was an unconscious sign that she likes you. You can go ahead. Telling her that you like her at the start will be better even if it looks strong. Because if you're expecting a relationship with her, you need to let her know your intentions from the starting itself. If she doesn't know how you feel, she may assume that you might be interested in some other girl and may move on. So without doing any late, take a chance and tell her that you like spending time with her so she will understand your feelings. Doing late in letting her know your feelings will only make you lose chances if she doesn't understand your feelings and decides to move on with some other guy who might show her interest

[Asker]

Alright, i will tell you what happens tomorrow.

[Opinion Owner]

Sure

[Asker]

so nothing really happened the past 3 days. She has started to eat lunch with me. Everyone else goes outside to eat while i am in the office kitchen and sit there to eat. Noe she has started to join me, so its just me and her and the others are outside.

She says hi to me, how i am doing. And then she makes small talk asking me about where i graduated from, what my hobbies are, and what i want to do in the future.

She has also asked me if i went to an all boys college, i said no. Then she asked me why i blush and get nervous around girls. I didn't say anything and just gave a smile.

[Opinion Owner]

It's obvious that she likes you. This is the right time you can open up to her about your feelings without doing any late. If you do late, she might think about you as a player. So as soon as possible, let her know your feelings. She's waiting for you to make a move because girls usually don't like making first move while expressing their interest

[Asker]

I honestly can't tell if she is interested or just being friendly. What makes you think so?

[Opinion Owner]

Even if she's friendly with you, according to her actions she looks interested in you who might be looking forward to relationship with you

[Opinion Owner]

I can clearly understand that she's interested in you. If a girl just wants to be friends doesn't always asks you questions about your love life

[Asker]

Okay, ty, ill tell u how it goes.

[Opinion Owner]

sure

[Opinion Owner]

Did it work?

[Asker]

It’s the weekend right now. Will know tomorrow or so.

[Opinion Owner]

Okay

[Asker]

So i have kind of tried to ask her out.

She joined me again in the kitchen to eat lunch and she said hi and how I’m doing. I said hello and said that I’m fine and i asked her how she is. She said she is also good

We were making small talk related to work. Then i said that when i was new here it was hard to sit for multiple hours because there was nothing to do work wise (first job and i was on training period). She said she could tell by looking at my behavior.

I then said that now it is way better because i have actual work from clients and that time flies by fast due to that.

This is where i tried to ask her out. I said that the weekend is boring because there is nothing to do and that I’m more happy at work. She said “that’s right”. After that i had no idea what to say without making it weird.

I’m not sure if she understood what i tried to say. What do you think?

[Opinion Owner]

She can't understand by your indirect hints. By the way you explained, it was looking like you're interested in work rather than simply wasting the time and she agreed with your opinion but that isn't looking like you're asking her out. You need to make your intentions clear to her so that she can understand what you're trying to tell her. You can tell her that you like spending time with her and see how she responds. Based on that you can know if she's interested in you or not. And slowly start spending more time with her and open up your feelings about relationship to her if she responds positively to the first question

[Asker]

Oh i see. I hopes i was obvious enough but it seems like i wasn’t.

The thing is that it’s so hard to be direct. I’m 25 and haven’t ever dated or done anything else.

[Opinion Owner]

I understand, but getting courage itself is hardest at the beginning but it will be worth it if you can do it. Also you need to make sure that you need to express your feelings confidently to her instead of saying nervously. It's very important to be confident while you express your feelings to her. Also don't take much time in expressing your feelings to her because if someone else might approach her soon and if she accepts him because she might not know your feelings earlier, you might lose your chance. So you should not do any late to express your feelings. If you're too afraid, start by flirting with her such as telling her that you like spending time with her and check her response. If you get any positive response you can know how to take it forward

[Asker]

Okay i see. Thanks

[Opinion Owner]

Did it work out?

[Asker]

To be honest i haven't told her. I don't know i can't do it. She seems to initiate convos and it’s small talk everytime but thats about It.

[Opinion Owner]

According to what you've mentioned, I understand that she's trying to give you clues about her interest on you but waiting for you to make the first move. Asking her right away might be scary for you or her so start with flirting. Flirt as much as you can and then express her your feelings directly. I hope this helps

[Opinion Owner]

Take 2 or 3 days to flirt, then on 4th day you can express your feelings to her if she shows any positive responses during first three days. This can possibly work

[Asker]

Oh i see, thanks.

But there is a huge issue. I asked my friend about her and she told me she has a boyfriend. I got sad when he said that. Then he told me that her current boyfriend is “casual” and she isn't taking the relationship seriously.

Why would she do that?

[Asker]

By “why would she do that” i mean why she would do that stuff to me while she already has a boyfriend.

[Opinion Owner]

If she had a boyfriend already, it's best for you to move on from her. As for your concern, it doesn't matter why she done that but I can assure you that if she isn't loyal to her current boyfriend and if she cheats on him with you, and if you accept her she will not stay loyal with you either. She can leave you when she finds a better man. Some girls I don't understand why but they do cheat on their boyfriends because they might get bored with them or if they find someone better they'll dump their boyfriend to get with the other. You absolutely need to stay away from these kind of girls. But there can also be some girls who does friendships with guys out of their relationships just to fill their emotional voids which they might not be getting from their current relationships. So to fill that void, they flirt, talk with other guys to pass their time. You should not get any feelings on these girls because they will straight away reject that guy if he proposes her. They just flirt, emotionally connect as close friends to fill their emotional voids. You can friendzone them if you want but don't go with a relationship with them as it's never suggested and never works out well as you expect it to be. If you really want to be in a happy and fulfilling relationship, you should find a girl without any ex boyfriend. It will most probably works the best as in most cases they won't cheat but stay too loyal

[Asker]

I see, yea thats a huge negative thing of her to do. it sucks but oh well.

I’m just not sure if she wanted to fill her emotional void, why she would touch me. Weird

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, it's a negative thing. According to her, I can't exactly judge but it might be due to one of two reasons. Firstly she might be close with all guys the same way considering them as just close friends. Secondly she might not be getting physical affection from her current boyfriend so she might be looking elsewhere from other attractive guys to feed her ego. There might be even a chance that she might fit bored by her current boyfriend and looking to get with someone more attractive and she might be thinking to replace her boyfriend with a more attractive man like you which is not even a good thing. If the reason is first case, there's nothing to worry but in all of these 3 cases it will be better for you to distance yourself with her closely and put her in friendzone so that she doesn't get hurt but in the context of relationship talks, flirting don't give her much attention and avoid those at all the costs to not let her cross any boundaries

[Asker]

I see. I have asked a few friends of mine who know her and they told me that she has never touched them like that.

Either way it doesn’t matter like you said.

[Opinion Owner]

Okay. Then you still wanna be with her despite she have a boyfriend?

[Opinion Owner]

I can sense attraction of her towards you by the way of touching as a girl who have feelings only will do that maybe in expectancy of something (either platonic friendship or relationship). Yes your friends are right touching isn't common. Either girls or boys touch only the girls they're interested in

[Opinion Owner]

* Either girls or boys touch only the girls or boys they're interested in

[Asker]

No i dont want to be with her. Its sad but a girl who does this isn’t someone i want to be with.

Question for you, would u touch a guy like that if u didn't like him?

[Opinion Owner]

No, I don't touch a guy in a flirty way unless if he's my boyfriend

[Guy13]

Probably and she wants you to ask her out. C'mon, man-up and do it.

[Smartgirl_hey]

A girl who wants him to ask her out will never ask him questions like this. Instead she understands. It's clear that she doesn't know why he does get nervous. He needs to open up his feelings confidently so she understands

[Guy13]

@Smartgirl_hey Sounds like a single girl talking. Ask the woman out. If she says no she regret and pine about it for the next month.

[Asker]

@Smartgirl_hey if she understood, how would she act?

[Smartgirl_hey]

If she understood clearly and if she likes you too, she would be giving hints about her interest on you already

[Asker]

@Smartgirl_hey is it a hint if she asks me if i have a crush on a coworker and if she asks me if i have a girlfriend? She asked me that on separate days

[Smartgirl_hey]

She might be curious to know about your relationship status or she might feel that you might have a crush on some other girl. She may probably be interested to know about these before she assumes she might have a possibility to be yours. It's the starting stage of interest she have on you now. Be clear with your feelings and let her know about your feelings so that she understands and gets confidence enough to show you back her interest if you can assure her insecurities

[Asker]

@Smartgirl_hey today something happened, just happened 10 minutes ago.

We were standing outside. Me, her, and her girl friend. They both were talking and i was standing behind them. The girl i like turned to me and pulled me towards her which caused us to be really close to each other. She then started to put her palm of her hand on my tummy and didn't say anything. Her friend was behind her and i think she noticed that.

Why did she do that?

[Smartgirl_hey]

May be she likes you too. She might have felt comfortable with you

[Asker]

@Smartgirl_hey I’m so not sure if she was being friendly or was flirting.

I asked my sister and she told me that she wouldn't touch a coworker who she barely knows and hasn't talked to much (3 months) and who isn't a really good friend

[Smartgirl_hey]

I can understand that she likes you too. Even if she was friendly, you can assume that she may have some sort of close feelings with you and she may be feeling comfortable by getting close to you

[Asker]

@Smartgirl_hey sorry what does “close feelings” mean?

[Smartgirl_hey]

Like you mean something to her. Might be someone she wants to connect on a deeper level. That might be as friendship or as a relationship. Only she knows. Asking her about it will help

[Asker]

@Smartgirl_hey I’m a bit confused about it because i barely know her and i dont think it’s appropriate to touch someone on the tummy if you dont know them well enough.

I mean how would you feel if a male coworker of yours who you barely spoke to touched you like that and came really close to you?

Even if you liked him, wouldn't it be way too much given you dont know him well enough?

[Smartgirl_hey]

Well, it is. But when someone likes you, they will show it according to their way. Some people are more obvious when they are extroverts but some people are introverts like you who might be shy to make a move. Might be she's extroverted than you. By either ways, it should be a sign for you that she likes you too. If you like her still, express her your feelings

[Asker]

@Smartgirl_hey i see, would you personally do it to someone who you aren't interested in? Touch a guy there as a friend i mean

[Smartgirl_hey]

I won't do that. But every girl is different. I know girls who get so close to a guy they're interested in

[Asker]

@Smartgirl_hey i see. Well i will copy paste this from another reply if thats fine:

She has started to eat lunch with me. Everyone else goes outside to eat while i am in the office kitchen and sit there to eat. Noe she has started to join me, so its just me and her and the others are outside.

She says hi to me, how i am doing. And then she makes small talk asking me about where i graduated from, what my hobbies are, and what i want to do in the future.

She has also asked me if i went to an all boys college, i said no. Then she asked me why i blush and get nervous around girls. I didn't say anything and just gave a smile.

[Smartgirl_hey]

She likes you and might be waiting for you to open up

[Asker]

@Smartgirl_hey hmm so i should tell her how i feel?

[Smartgirl_hey]

Yeah

[Anonymous]

Could be. But it could be that she's trying to put you on the defense. Some women just get a kick out of trying to emasculated guys. Hold your ground man.