How much is luck involved in dating?

[rabbitzzz]

Is it all about looks. What about right place, right time. Societal conditions etc?

[Guy13]

Strategic planning is how one finds a "date or spouse". Luck is the excuse for the ill prepared. Strategic planning entail have one's professional and personal life in such a way that she can envision, "he's preparing for family, I think he is husband material-I can see his thinking and actions are kind of in alignment, and etc.

It is on the individual and of course local engagement, within 30 miles, is a necessary component. These digital dating farces are inevitable headed to the trash heap of wasted time and energy. Utilization of "duh resources" , such as meetup. com, is necessary for an implementation plus it is local... who cares if it not perfect. From those relationships come the "I know someone that would be good for you." A friend network, whether professionally or personally is paramount.

To me, luck is for the whiners, blamer, and the Momma boys whose Mom said you are perfect as you are and have to deal with rejection for the first time in their lives...

[rabbitzzz]

Sometimes you plan. But your plan fails.

[Guy13]

Yeah, no one said theoretical when applied works out ideally but a woman can tell the difference between the luck and plan guys.

[lightbulb27]

There is luck, timing, skill, environment. You are't gonna find many dates walking around Antarctica, you have a good chance in other areas, if you have social skills.

I think dating skill and communication skill and emotional health is under rated. I was successful economically for a long time, but had no dates. Frustrated at times, it was a lot due to me.

It's frustrating for both sexes when they can't get what they want or they try and get turned down. Women get turned down more than you might think, or bomb out. I think both sexes are often left "holding the bag".. e. g. kinda "what happened", whats wrong with me, all too often.

[rabbitzzz]

What you have bad luck and have to work as a scientist in antarctica?

[lightbulb27]

We'll, ya could end up freezing ya butt off donig penguin research...
Seriously though, when there are dark clouds hoving over your life, the problem is you, not someone else. You have to look hard into your life, find the teachings, beliefs that are screwing you... causing you to make bad choices, putting you in the places that aren't beneficial, and making changes in what you believe, retraining yourself.
Otherwise, life keeps repeating same processes...
Hope is wonderful and essential, as is faith. But alone, it is not a plan nor action. Action is required.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Luck is just random chances and that can be quite a bit, some people seem to have tons of great luck and meet great people, some have tons of bad luck and keep getting taken advantage of.

Then again, appearances are not always true.

Some people don't believe in luck, but I do because I've seen people who seem to have a golden pot of great luck, everything they do turns out well and they never had any thing hard in life, while others, it is constant challenge after challenge.

Some say those with good luck, that it isn't luck, that it is god watching out for them.

Regardless of why, it does happen. I have a co-worker who has literally won 3 different events, a jet ski, a snow mobile and a car.

How the hell does someone WIN three different contests without some sort of good luck, when the odds are slim to begin with?

If that can happen to him, for winning stuff, then clearly it can happen in dating.

[Gummy_Cluster]

I talked to a male friend about that.

Gummy: Why are you so lucky with the women?

Mike: 99% tell me to fuck off. How is that lucky?

Good point.

Rejection meant nothing to him. Much like Tommy Edison inventing the light bulb, he was just eliminating possibilities.

Is that an easy mind set? Obviously, not. Could anyone do that? Only in theory.

[Chazmatazz269]

The question might have something to do with the inverse. Do you believe 99% of men tell 100% of women to “fuck off”?
If you haven’t considered that, you shouldn’t be responding in part the way you did.

[Gummy_Cluster]

@Chazmatazz269

A guy posted this. I assume he's not looking for other guys. And why would they tell 100% of women to fuck off? Don't tell me how to respond to questions. Just do me a favor and block me. Do it right now.

[Chazmatazz269]

YOU posted that, CLAIMING a man did so. Post proof to the contrary. Feel free to block me, liar.

[Gummy_Cluster]

@Chazmatazz269

You want me to post proof of what a guy in high school said? LMAO
Post proof you have a brain.
He always got girls, and he said it wasn't about luck. Why would I lie about that? I was trying to send a positive message. The message was that when you get bucked off a horse, a real cowboy gets back in the saddle. So sorry that hurt your feelings. Mike was from Alaska, and had no fear of girls. But he always had one on his arm. When I answer questions, I just try and help. Why does that upset you? If you reply I will block you. My brain can't handle people like you.

[Vegasrunner]

@gummy_cluster He hit the nail on the head. Women are just a numbers game,

[Gummy_Cluster]

@Vegasrunner You're smart enough to understand that. The other guy got offended. It's the same as looking for a job. I worked with a guy who finally passed the bar exam. He posted about a thousand resumes across the country, and got a job. You can't just give up after a few rejections.

[Orion76]

I wouldn’t quote a high schooler and expect good feed back anyway lol

[Gummy_Cluster]

@Orion76

I never told the moron that this happened in high school. He just demanded I provide proof that it was said. I realize there are some really stupid people on this site, but for God's sake, give me a break. Proof? lol It's good advice, but he will probably just bitch about not getting dates.

[Orion76]

Oh about him saying 99 said no? That was his experience and his answer it’s nothing that should offend anyone lol

[Orion76]

And it’s because guys ask all the time if a girl says yes to every guy she asked you guys should be concerned with your relationships 😅

[Gummy_Cluster]

@Orion76
It's hard to imagine he would take offense to that, but he's blocked. I can't deal with that level of stupid.

[Orion76]

@Gummy_Cluster there always that but some people here actually managed to ruin my day. do I delete the app and go back to my bubble living in denial? It’s quite terrifying knowing you are living among people with the same mentality I’m talking about ignorance, prejudices, hate, cultural insensitivity and sperms.

[Gummy_Cluster]

@Orion76

One click of the mouse solves that problem.

[Vegasrunner]

@gummy_cluster TY. I don't think @Chazmatazz269 understands what you're saying. Since we're giving out compliments, you did an impressive job of seeking out information from your friend listening to the information retaining it and then framing it in a context that was (in my opinion) EZ to understand. Edison's quote about learning 99 ways that didn't work is one of my favorites. Out of couroisity what is your background in? Either educationally or Professionally.

[Gummy_Cluster]

@Vegasrunner

I don't know how anyone could not understand my message. It's about not giving up. It took Edison hundreds of tries before he invented the light bulb.

[Orion76]

I guess you you are right

[Vegasrunner]

@gummy_cluster Not everyone reads or studies the past. What Chazz hears is the 99% rejection and is unable to focus on anything else. He thinks you're making fun of men by bringing up the guys failures. He doesn't realize you're simply telling people that you shouldn't give up.

[Gummy_Cluster]

@Vegasrunner

But how would I give him proof? I talked to my brother on Sunday, but I don't have proof.

[Vegasrunner]

@gummy_cluster TBH I wouldn't waste your time trying to provide a random person on a social media platform w/ proof. Even of you showed him a video of the guy saying the exact same thing u told him, he would find a way to discredit it. I don't think @Chazmatazz269 wants proof, he just wants to argue. I don't know why u shared your message but it helped me, and hopefully that has value to you. You're never going to please everyone, and the other thing that I learned from this site is that some people are more concerned w/ being right to let the truth get in the way and that sounds like this guy.

[Gummy_Cluster]

@Vegasrunner
I'm glad it helped you. You're right, he just wants to argue like so many others on this site. I once gave my opinion on religion, and some guy wanted to argue. I just told him to go argue with someone else.

[coachTanthony]

Luck is always a good thing but if you aren't putting yourself out there in order to find someone then there is no amount of luck in the world that will help you.

[Saramad_Hill]

How much luck is involved in dating? A bit.
But luck isn't the be all end all.
If you take time to work on your appearance, hygiene, etc... Those improve your base chances to meet someone.
Staying on your own all the time hurts the chances of meeting someone.
I don't believe in soul mates or anything. It's entirely possible to die alone, though that usually requires an active effort.
But dating in 2023 is rough. I also don't really use online methods so there's that. I feel like luck really matters. But even if your chances of meeting someone every day are 1/400, you'll probably meet a candidate eventually.
But forget about luck and dating. Work on yourself and learn to be happier without someone else. If they eventually come, great. If not, at least you impressed your peers with the ultimate version of you.

[Anonymous]

There is no such thing as luck, only love and light.

Understand transcendence is the birth of wonder, and of us. You are perfect as you are.

Where there is delusion, serenity cannot thrive.

Eons from now, we dreamers will believe like never before as we are re-energized by the matrix.

You've heard it that there is a cause for every effect, know that luck is not involved but rather your reality is manipulated by the tranny drag funeral rituals.

Lust in delight and namaste.

-Guru Pervecreep

[melanieeeB]

It's not all about looks, it's about attraction and chemistry and you don't have that with everyone and more with the minority of people you meet and after that character and compatibility is also very important cause just cause you're attracted to someone, doesn't mean you two fit together... so yeah there is luck needed to find someone who fits in all categories

[Paul09]

It sure does seem like a lot of luck. To meet that one that you actually connect with. Or to even find a date is lucky , to me anyways. I have no luck. I've liked so many , very , very rarely ever get a like back. So luck if I like a real woman, over a ghost profile? Then after that , it becomes about skills.

[Nikki1989]

Right time and place. This is why people that are very active socially have more luck with dating. It is unlikely you will meet anyone sitting on your couch looking at a dating app.

[rabbitzzz]

What if you are unable to be active socially because of the type of job or place you live in?

[PrincessBunBuns]

Right place and right time isn’t just luck, I think it’s fate! It’s always fate meeting people in your life, they’re meant to be there at that specific moment to enrich your life. Because luck doesn’t make you break up, fate does.

[SCARRED]

luck or the draw or ypu and that persion clicks
if not there are fish in the sea anyway
just go for it just don't govr up
SCARRED

[FilmGuy93]

You can definitely stack the odds in your favor, but dumb luck seems to play a pretty huge part of it.

[TheSpaceGnome]

It's mostly random chance. People could fix that, but they would need to stop hiding from eachother out of paranoia.

[TacosRAwesome]

A decent amount. I mean looks and personaliry matter but finding your person is highly based on luck and opportunities.

[AdithyaR]

I personally believe it's about fate, either one is destined to find someone or one is destined never have that.

[Orion76]

Luck is definitely a factor but then you have to use your head.

[Orion76]

@Gummy_Cluster we need track Mike Down have him put it paper and notarize it😅 but I really like your one click technique

[Gummy_Cluster]

Thank you.

[Orion76]

@gummy_cluster You Bet 😊

[LiamJHayden]

There might be some good fortune in running into compatible people, but one has to be able to capitalize upon those opportunities.

[Jltakk]

Luck like with many life changing circumstances, certainly plays a role, can't lie there. Sometimes the right pieces have to fall into place in order for something to trigger.

[TheSimFans]

It mixed some luck, good looking and has good skill and having confidence.

[Chthou95]

Luck is definitely a factor if you're a guy in the dating world

[Adaeva]

It is 10% luck and 90% looks, smarts, and talent.

[Chazmatazz269]

Zero, if you’re not desperate or an idiot.

[loveslongnails]

Zero, if you don't believe in luck!

[Anonymous]

Luck is an unambitious man's best friend

[lottiebannotie]

I think right time right place is massive

[In_Trance]

0 Luck. It takes no luck at all.

[MessofConfuzzled]

I think luck is a factor no doubt

[Anonymous]

mixture of all the above

[Anonymous]

a lot!