What do you think she wants?

[LoydMill3]

So I’ve been seeing this girl for some time now, and I really like her, and she knows that, and I know she likes me to, or at least that’s what she told me. We aren’t together, and that is because she wants to get to know me better/more, and she has never been in a relationship before and I respect that she wants time. We hang out about once a week if both of us are free, and we watch movies, go out to eat, okay video games, party, or just cuddle. I feel like she is scared to kiss me while we hang out, but I always get a goodbye kiss from her. I don’t know if she is scared or shy to kiss me when we hang out, but that’s okay to, I’ll give it time, and maybe I need to get better at showing what I want. But when we plan to hang out, I am always the one to ask if she wanna do something, she always says yes, or if she doesn’t have time, she reschedules. I can remember one time she asked me to hang out, but that was for a double date with her friend. And not long ago, her bsf invited me to her birthday party, so we could hang out more. So I know that her friends wants us to hang out, but she never really asks me to hang out. Not long ago I asked her what we are, and she told me that we aren’t together, but we aren’t just friends either, I don’t know what to call it in English, but it almost the same as dating, a little bit more than that. I think that’s good…? But these last two days, she has been a little distant, and “ghosting” me, not for long or anything, but that’s not like her. And I am not proud of stalking her on snap map, but it happened…, I know it’s not a big deal or anything, but I really don’t know what she wants anymore.

[PrettyPriya]

I am a bit confused by one thing in the details section. "I feel like she is scared to kiss me while we hang out, but I always get a goodbye kiss from her." I don't understand what you mean she is scared to kiss but then kisses you.

Other than that, it sounds like she does not know what she wants right now and is hesitant to commit. You will have to make a choice. You can either give it more time or call it quits. That is going to be up to you. If you think that you cannot go further without a commitment, you can tell her that.

It is going to be an ultimatum and if she still will not commit, it is over. That is a gamble and one that you will have to be comfortable with if it does not work out. If you really do like this girl, you can give it more time. It really depends on how important the commitment part is.

For me, after a certain period of time, it would be important to me. I don't think I could go on with someone that gives the mixed signals.

[LoydMill3]

It’s hard do write in English and actually make it make sense to you guys. So what I meant in the start is that, we both are a little bit shy, but I am sure that if I just did it, and didn’t overthink anything, it would go great. But I don’t wanna be to pushy or anything, and she might just wait for me to make the first move

[PrettyPriya]

Ah, I understand. Yes, you don't want to be too pushy. However, at some point, she will have to commit to a relationship or not. It is all about how much time you are willing to give her to decide.

[LoydMill3]

I see.
I might just be overthinking it all. The last days that she has been distant and giving mixed signals, she has been on an all girl cabin trip with her friends. So it could just be that she has been focusing on them and been distant by accident. And because of that, I’ve felt like she’s been sending mixed signals to me, I don’t know…

[PrettyPriya]

Oh, if she is on a trip with her girlfriends, that is a HUGE factor. When I go on holiday with my husband, I basically shut everyone else out. That is our time to just relax and enjoy together. I would not overthink it if she is on a trip.

[LoydMill3]

Okay, it helps a lot. Maybe I should have said that in the start😅

[PrettyPriya]

Yeah that is a big deal. She is going to be busy trying to make the best of the time she has away with friends. I used to do those trips when I was younger with just the girls. It was all about maximizing our time together since it is hard to plan and organize those things.

[LoydMill3]

Okay, thanks a lot

[PrettyPriya]

No problem. Take care. 🙂

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you’re pushing her and it has made her uncomfortable. Sounds like things where good until you started to push things.
Give her the space that she is making, it’s her boundary she is putting down.
If u don’t want to be respectful of her boundary then you need to move on.
What’s the big rush anyhow? If things are good then leave them be.

[Guy13]

She is waiting for you to act. She will not take this relationship from more than friends but not a couple. you will have to make those moves. YOu are close to be friendzoned so you better make this move quickly.

[BigBlueEyes343]

You need to talk to her.

[In_Trance]

Chill... or you're going to fuck this up