When a girl says she needs time after a break-up?

[Anonymous]

I have met a girl from an app. It was really fun date, lasted over 3 hours. In the beginning of the date she told me that she broke up with someone after 8 years of relationship, two months ago and I am her first date since then. It was her decision and she told me that she talked about it because she felt like she was doing something wrong but she hadn't.(because of the ex boyfriend). the date lasted 3 hours+ and it was really fun for both of us. two days later I tried to invite her to meet but she told me she didn't there yet. she told me she need more time to overcome and to feel comfortable with that, I suggested that we can take things easy but she prefer not to. I asked her if It's ok for me to try in the future to invite her again. she told me ofcourse it's ok and she said that if she will feel better she won't be shy to reach me. I don't like to give up but she told me she know that, but she said that she is sure that I understand her and give her a little time. I asked couple of times if she didn't like me? or is just matter of time because of the relationship? she told me it's really just a matter of time and she hope it will over. what do you think? for now I don't talk to her at all and I respect her wish. how long should I wait? should I have a chance? She told me that I really impressed her.

[PrettyPriya]

You wait as long as it takes her to be over her previous relationship. That is something that is different for everyone. Sounds to me like she should have waited to start hanging out if she was not ready and needed more time. That is on her.

That is the right idea though. Be respectful and give her the time and space needed. You don't want her to jump into something with you when her heart and head are not in the right place. That isn't going to be fair to either of you.

Just keep things simple for now, get to know her the best you can and be patient. Eventually, she will be ready to move on. I would say keep things really casual as to not come off as pushy or anxious. Everyone deals with breakups at different paces. You don't know if it was a really bad breakup.

Pushing someone into something too quick will backfire and she will resent you for it. I think you have the right idea to just wait. There is not a time limit on that.

[Asker]

Yea but how long to wait?

[Asker]

by the way, I asked her in the whatsupp if is that really the relationship and she needs time or she just don't have the right connection with me.
she told she just need time.

[awkwardddgirl]

how long has it been since they broke up? are they still in contact?

[Asker]

two months, but the ex still trying to reach her.

[awkwardddgirl]

honestly I would suggest you to not wait and find someone else ik it's hard but it's for the best , even if you start dating you won't be sure if she is over him because 2 months is not enough to move on from such a serious relationship

[Shamalien]

Give her space and take it slow

[Iron_Man]

How much time

[Asker]

two months.

[In_Trance]

She's not interested

[Asker]

she can tell me