What should I do about this?

[Anonymous]

So I pulled a background report on my boyfriend and it turns out he had some pretty extensive criminal history up until 2012. Including selling drugs!! He told me that he used to be an alcoholic and he has been sober for about 4-5 years now he also is going to AA meetings he told me he never did drugs but he didn't tell me he was selling them.

[Guy13]

You are a smart woman and now it is time to do the interrogation portion of your CIAing.

Why you lie? What's your credit score? Where are your court records and if not sure call your attorney and get me copies. I want to see the whole file.

Oh, you been married before cause it will show up on the credit we will be doing in 30 minutes together... I want you to see mine too. Anyway, Married?

Any other surprises like a Baby Daddy Registry that I don't know about? Now is the time to come clean with all of it.

We are basically starting over like we just met because who I thought you were and who you are do not match. I need to see that you care.

[Asker]

I'd want to obtain copies before asking him. I have the case record numbers for all of the arrests. He did tell me about his kid. The credit check might be a good idea though.

[loveslongnails]

How old is he, if this all stopped 11 years ago? What were the charges? If it was selling marijuana, who gives a shit?

[Asker]

Selling cocaine
40

[loveslongnails]

He's 40, and you're what - 24? Forget this dude. What are you "thinking"?

[Asker]

not sure

[loveslongnails]

Let me help you - You're taking on a huge risk. Forget the alcoholism thing for a moment, I'm not going to hold it against a guy who's changed his life in that way. The age gap is a real concern at this point in your life.

[Asker]

Yeah I get that but I really like him and I don't really know what to do anymore.

[loveslongnails]

You proceed with your eyes WIDE open and do not let him take advantage of you in any way -- not sexually, financially, mentally, emotionally or physically. You shouldn't let ANY man do that to you, of course, but you have to be especially cautious of this particular situation.

[Asker]

Yeah for sure

[Anonymous]

Don't throw away a nice car because it needed a tune up.

You get to choose your life but there is strength in what he overcame.

[Asker]

Well I'd rather not throw him out lol

[EmmaMary]

Just how have you managed to get your hands on anyone's background reports?

[Asker]

I know a person

[EmmaMary]

Right... A totally illegal act. smh

[Asker]

well technically no

[EmmaMary]

How do you make that out?

[Asker]

good question

[Zandoval]

Just know you're walking on thin ice.

[boggboss]

Do what u want lol