How far are you willing to go for a first date?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

There’s this cute handsome 26 year old - I’ve been talking to, he’s going to fly from another state to visit my city and have a date with me.

I feel nice knowing that distance is not an issue for him because he is that interested in me, but I also think, what if we like each other, another long distance relationship would be a disaster for me.

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+1 y

Nothing intimate is going to happen haha

We are just going on a date.

But I have a feeling I might like him, because he has a really nice personality and is also quite handsome.

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+1 y

Haw far are you willing to go - like a distance!!!

Not anything sexual.

I mean - distance. Like miles, km… Gosh.

[Pegases]

Men that go above and beyond like that are typically desperate. That's not to say it isn't a nice gesture, but that's the sort of thing you do for a woman that you've already vetted, not a woman you've never even been on a date with. Men with money don't waste money on dates, hints why we have money to spare. So if you're on the fence already, do the both of you a favor and call it quits. It's not fair to him for you to already consider a long distance relationship a disaster, meanwhile he's willing to fly to see you.. He's a simp, and would rightfully so be embarrassed if he knew how you felt about long distance relationships.

[Summeroflove]

Well. See how the date goes. If he’s flying in flaking now would be shitty. If you don’t see a future don’t waste his time or your time either and be upfront and honest.


Wish you the best

[Jennz6]

I think that you should go all out, all the way sweetheart so that he doesn’t ever want anyone else but you for the rest of his life 💯all the way. Sock it to him 💃

[Jennz6]

Thank you for the MHO

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I didn’t choose it. GaG chose it.

[Paige90]

Depends on the guy and what I think about him. I have had sex on the first date but that's rare.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Cool…

I meant distance though haha, like how far, literally.

[Paige90]

500 miles

[Paul09]

Tough to answer. Haven't really experienced that. Thinking about it, I dont see how that eve happens, to meet someone from so far away. And to go on a date so far away, which has a huge chance of not working out. Sounds very expensive. Not more than hour away I guess...

[Girlygirl97l7]

General rule is a kiss however of there been a long build up and I think he serious and he flew in. That may earn a bj but not sex

[Girlygirl97l7]

I'm so sorry probably like a 2 hour drive if I really like him !

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I meant distance… Like how far, how many km away…

[NostalgiaSenpi]

If I could afford it, I'd go all the to Eastern Europe or the Philippines, so basically the whole world, if I thought I'd actually have a life partner as a result.

[Still-alive]

I can’t do LDR’s any more. So maybe within a couple hours at most for me is how far I’d travel.

i definitely don’t recommend doing long distance

[Still-alive]

Maybe like 100 miles or so is how far id be willing to travel

[smilelots]

Drive or fly as far as you feel is right for you , in the end it may be just what you needed..

[Guy13]

Assume this went well.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

This one is today. Yesterday’s date was with the German guy.

But not sure it went that well. Cause unlike the first time this time we just kissed on a cheek and briefly hugged and he said he had a nice time and would like to meet again next week…

This time I didn’t really flirt that much, we talked for about 4 hours had a dinner and drank wine.

Today we talked more honestly, last time we met we flirted all the time. This time I was more nervous and wasn’t that flirty.

He said he felt amazing connection between us the first day we met, he enjoyed talking with me a lot and then when we danced, he just couldn’t stop thinking that we matched so well, with vibes, energy, even the rhythm of our bodies was the same and he felt like he had that rare kind of situation when he matched with someone both, on an emotional and physical level.

Yesterday I had worked from 8 to 8 and was really tired and a bit nervous when we met. I worry that it wasn’t as good as it could have been or it could be much better. I wasn’t that energetic as the first time we met.

[Guy13]

Spring Renaissance has Sprung... Love

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I had no less date offers in winter :P

But I was recovering from a break up and I turned down all of them.

How does that answer my concern? The German guy has a trip to another city this weekend I am sure he is in no lack of having fun himself.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I like him though, that’s why I was nervous. I don’t usually feel so nervous on dates because I don’t usually like anyone like that to feel nervous.

[Guy13]

The Strehmel probably is a stud muffin. I assume you are expecting to get burned, right…. What’s he do for a living.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I think the first time I wasn’t feeling nervous because I thought he was so handsome I just could enjoy that evening and not think about the tomorrow, cause I thought he was too handsome to be someone’s boyfriend.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yes he is. He is so handsome and attractive.

He likes me as well, he has mentioned a few times how insanely sexy and pretty I am and that I have the kind of female figure you can’t see in Asia. Like he said I am a real female hahaha

He also said the first time he thought maybe I wasn’t that interested in him, so he was a bit thoughtful before he asked me out.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

He is working for a German company here in China, he trains other employees.

[Guy13]

I see. How far are you from Chaingrah and Chiangmai border with Thailand.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Far.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

So, what do you think, how do I know if the date was successful?

[Guy13]

I see. 1 hour to Singapore 🇸🇬 ✈️ for me. Taiwan 🇹🇼 I’ve done but not mainland China

[Guy13]

I’m not there now though….

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

You don’t answer my questions 😝

[Guy13]

You're so very charming to speak with that I forgot the question long ago.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

You’ve not been acting like yourself the past week, hope you are okay haha

[TacosRAwesome]

The whole country is about 30km so I guess 30km.

[dinojames22]

Best answer ever

[Jamie05rhs]

Anywhere in the US or the civilized part of Canada. (I would not travel to the polar ice caps; sorry.)

[LiamJHayden]

Maybe a hug if I really like her. I won't kiss till a third date. Anything beyond that takes knowing someone.

[In_Trance]

that's too far. I'd estimate a 1 hour radius at the most

[msc545]

I have traveled from SF to Mexico City for a date...

[Alex8736]

i had someone from Brooklyn fly to Boston to see me so anything is possible 😁

[Auf_schweden_ya_doma]

Would totally drive across several continents

That's loco, more like yeah that's my medicine

Nothing to lose meeting someone

[Anonymous]

20 miles. I might stretch that up to 50 if I feel really good about it.

[iSensei]

It can be a disaster after long time

[iSensei]

I say this distance anyway…

[SnowedIn]

An hour or an hour and a half drive.

[eagle1951]

50 miles

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Thanks… I think you are the only one who answered my question exactly, everyone else thought I meant something sexual. All I meant was distance.

[TrillXHippy]

Well that’s not gonna last

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Well yep I guess so too

[Pete671]

I'd go round the world if it felt right,,,

[Anonymous]

Uranus...

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Bravo, what an original joke!

[Opinion Owner]

... Uranus is no joke

[magiusX26]

just plain no

[Anonymous]

10 miles.

[EaterPeter]

Not too far.