Is it ok to give up on dating as a guy?

[Anonymous]

Im saying this up front. I do not hate women. Im just very frustrated with the dating scene and the way marriage is becoming a joke. I talk to women with respect and do not ever harass them. Men and women both have issues with themselves and each other. I'm just tired of the pain of getting rejected. I know it's part of dating but for some people like me it can really start to affect you. I'm not going to lie I'm 6ft 300lbs. But I look bulky not fat. I don't have to buy my clothes at a special store or anything. I'm average in looks. I have a master's degree in library science and work my ass off at a job I love. it's just too frustrating and depressing to keep trying. Getting your hopes up just to be destroyed again and again is just self inflicted torture. I'm no masochist so I'm giving up. It's a trend I've noticed lately men giving up on dating. Too much stress, too much pain and way too much stigma about men from women. Is it ok to give up on it? No one I see is happy, people get involved with each other and break up all the time, people get divorced all the time, even multiple times. Love is meaningless it's all about money , looks and social status. It's too hard for men and women.

[XHopelessRomanticX]

It’s completely up to you to decide whether you give up or not. But when I read your post, I get this gut feeling that you’re not truly ready to give up, you’re just tired. And it’s okay to be tired, and angry at the world for what society has turned into.
It’s also okay to keep going and keep looking for wonderful, even if it seems like wonderful never shows up. But don’t forget that wonderful can show up in the ordinary.
Maybe your perfect girl isn’t the smoking hot babe with a hundred other guys fawning over her. Maybe it’s the quiet one who’s often overlooked. Maybe it’s not the girl who works hard to achieve the perfect body, but the one who works hard to perfect her favorite pie recipe. Maybe it’s not the one going out to clubs, bars, fancy restaurants, or the mall. Maybe it’s the one volunteering, or going to the library or to church. The one who goes on walks in the park, buys her clothes from thrift stores, visits her parents, works a 9-5. Even the most ordinary person can be someone’s most wonderful.

[Anonymous]

It is not okay to give up. Hit the gym and lose extra fat and there will not be any problem. As it is for a guy women also prefer fit partners.
Giving up is not an answer, you don't want to become an incel (which is a trend lately), or a man's version of a cat lady. That is not a happy life to live it's lonely. Good luck

[cth96190]

I understand.
I gave up and went MGTOW monk 22 years ago.
I took the view that the ‘exciting’ bad boys could have the women. They deserved each other.
A man can be kicked in the guts only so many times before he concludes that the juice is not worth the squeeze.

[Asker]

I'm not trying to be rude but how at your age do you deal with the loneliness? Should I indulge in my hobbies and pursue my own personal happiness?

[cth96190]

@Asker
Pursuing your interests and investing money, instead of squandering it upon females, would be a good start.
I suggest that you also join a gymnasium, hire a personal trainer and consult a dietitian.
Simple fact, you cannot be the weight that you are and not die.
Along the way to an early grave, you will become a type-2 diabetic. Think blindness and a slow death, one amputation at a time, as your body works toward an agonising death by multiple organ failure (the kidneys usually cross the line first).
I do not cope well with a permanently empty and broken heart, but I do a few things.
I remember the bitchy rejections. I remember the sneering derision. I remember the two girls who pretended to be in relationships with me, so that they could break my heart for shits and giggles.
I remember the girl who murdered our baby in her womb, because she decided that she wanted another man. She had been seeing both of us at the same time. Neither of us knew that the other existed.

[Guy13]

Yeah, it is good to step back from it every once awhile for like 3 months….

[Anonymous]

Yeah, but I wouldn't. Instead I would just get VERY selective in your efforts. I virtually never ask women out. My philosophy is if they really want to go out with me they'll make the effort. And I do my best to make that as easy as possible for them. Given the changing culture I think it is incumbent upon us as men to even things up. Let's give women full equality.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it gives the good guys more of a chance.

[Asker]

I am one of the good guys.

[LazerBean]

Yep, feel free to do so.

[moviedude714]

Unfortunately the desire never goes away