How do you know if a first date went successfully?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

It went less smoothly than the first time we met each other, cause I was a bit nervous. We talked a lot, for almost 4 hours.

We have kissed to each other before, but today we just hugged and kissed on a cheek and he said he’d like us to meet again next week.

The first time we met, we had an amazing Chemistry, this time both of us were a bit restricted kinda.

We didn’t flirt as much as we did the first time, we mainly talked about things honestly.

[OlderAndWiser]

"we mainly talked about things honestly." That sounds like the sign of a successful first date.

[Still-alive]

As long as he keeps wanting to see you id say its going well.

“he said he’d like us to meet again next week.”

so this is a positive sign. If he doesn’t say something like this after the date that could be a bad sign.

so you’re good 👍🏻 :)

[weysally]

the first date could have been more like infatuation, the second time you and he has had more tie to think what things were good on the first date, now maybe a third date could decide where you go from now

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yeah, the first meeting was definitely like an infatuation, we just couldn’t stop talking and flirting and touching.

This time we were more reserved…

[Jennz6]

The most he will get from me is a Blowjob.💃

[Still-alive]

Lol sounds great

[NathanDavis]

because it went for six to eight hours... lol

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Guess 4 hours not enough haha, but I went home early because I had to wake up early the next day.

[NathanDavis]

how did it go?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

That question is about the German guy I liked, It went much better than the second one but I was colder than at our first meeting, because when we first met, we couldn’t stop touching each other and I didn’t want to give him wrong impressions about myself, so I acted more reserved the 2nd time we met.

We talked about a lot of things. He messaged me he wants to meet again next week, when he is back from his trip but hasn’t messaged anything else.

Let’s see.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

That being said, I figured he might be a type of guy, who always flirts and always meets new girls and is not unhappy to just enjoy one night stands.

So, I don’t put that very close to my heart, If he won’t want to meet again, I’ll just assume he and I are looking for different things.

[NathanDavis]

might be the type of guy that meets a different girl on every trip...

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I wouldn’t be surprised haha, when we talked about how I felt shy after we kissed a lot on the first date, cause with my ex it took him 3 months of dating to finally get the courage to kiss me haha.

Then he said “if you knew my past, for you I might be a fuckboy, I am just a normal person though”

then he said he is happy to know it took my ex 3 months to kiss me and it took him just 6 hours.

[NathanDavis]

"four you I might be"

that sounds a bit like gaslighting... lmao

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Lol, I took it the way he meant it, that means he has had a lot of girls in the past and since I only had one partner, he might come off as a f*ckboy that’s what he meant I think.

But at this point, I don’t care much about a man’s past. My ex fiance was a virgin when he met me and I was virgin too. When he broke up with me you know what he said? “I feel like we’ve already been married for years. The distance between us cleared all my feelings to you. I loved you, you were the world to me, but not anymore. I have only had one girl in my life - you. I want to explore more.”

So, what good did it do to me that he was an innocent virgin when I met him? Nothing. I guess, this time it can be someone who has had slept with enough girls to know what he likes, what he wants and that he doesn’t want to explore more because he has already done that in the past.

[NathanDavis]

just be careful and use protection... STD's are still a thing

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I am not going to sleep with him anytime soon, I don’t feel sexually attracted to men unless I have strong feelings for them.

And I think by then, I will know if he is safe to sleep with.

[NathanDavis]

that's a very wise choice (=

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

That’s not just a choice. I can’t really do the other way. It’s a part of my personality, very deeply rooted.

After 6 months since break up I have a weird phase when I party all the time, but there are some things I can’t change, as much as I might flirt, I just can’t sleep with someone I don’t have feelings for. It’s something impossible to happen.

I think sex is a manifestation of love, so only should be shared with someone you love and who loves you back.

[NathanDavis]

yes, totally understandable... since I've done it the same

and you're right is not a choice, just the way it is and feels right

[msc545]

Sounds good so far!!!

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Really?

I am just nervous. What sounds good about it?

The first day we met things were much more intense and flirty between us, today we talked like old friends lol.

[Paul_in_Indy]

If it ends with breakfast.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

That means you stayed together that night?

I am just a flirt 💀 But when it comes to really doing something, I think taking things slow is begger.
I don’t think waking up next to them after a first date is an attractive idea.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

*better

I just woke up and making mistakes.

[rachel776]

if you can't keep your hands off each other

[In_Trance]

you get a second date..

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

So, he said he would like to meet again next week when he comes back from a trip.

I don’t know we talked quite well, it’s just we didn’t flirt half as much as the first day and I looked much better today. But I was a bit shy and nervous today.

[EaterPeter]

If second dare is bahhed within first 48 hours

[EaterPeter]

Bagged *

[Bklynbadboy12]

When he ask you for a second one