I try to be mindful of her, like for instance we argued yesterday because I’m not as available to hang out as I was when single. I keep telling her to ask me ahead of time instead of the day of so I can plan. She’s mad that we didn’t have to plan before, but things have changed. Now that I’m in a serious relationship and practically live with my boyfriend, I’m usually already busy with him and would need a heads up with my friend, even if it’s just a day ahead. She urges me to do things like ditch, cancel, or some other toxic thing and my problem is she would never do such things herself. She’s so boy crazy that her life outside of the guy hardly exists, even her own kids.
I’m not exactly asking for advice on that situation, but it did make me wonder how normal this is? Is it a selfish thing? Is it out of love? Like you’re advising someone you care for but wouldn’t do the same?
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