Why do I only get hit on by guys who aren’t serious and never the sweet ones?

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The only guys that approach me ever are guys on the street who are cocky enough to approach me in front of other people but all my friends are dating guys who are sweet and humble who would never approach women they never met on the street. They’re so serious that some of my friends are engaged…it really hurts my self esteem that the sweet guys don’t like me

What should I do to get those guys? I already work out and think I have a good body and I think I’m pretty but should I wear more makeup to look prettier so I can get their attention?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's important to remember that attraction is subjective and there is no one-size-fits-all approach to finding a partner. It's possible that the guys who approach you on the street may be more confident or outgoing, while the guys who are more reserved may be less likely to approach someone they don't know.

It's important to focus on being true to yourself and developing a strong sense of self-worth, rather than trying to change yourself to fit someone else's idea of what is attractive. Wearing more makeup or changing your appearance may attract some people, but it's important to prioritize your own comfort and self-expression.

Instead, focus on developing your own interests, hobbies, and passions, and finding ways to meet people who share those interests. Consider joining clubs or groups related to your interests, or attending events and activities where you can meet like-minded people.

It's also important to be patient and to approach dating with an open mind and heart. Remember that finding a serious and sweet partner takes time, and it's important to prioritize your own well-being and happiness in any relationship.

Mantinziza · Accepted Answer

Ill answer your question with the way I personally see it.

I don't make moves on women in any public setting for 1 of 3 reasons. 1 being the lowest reason 3 Being the biggest reason. And generally 2 or all 3 reason's combine in me me not doing it.

1. She is with a guy and i can't tell if it's her boyfriend or not, so I just assume it is because i don't want to start a problem.

2. We are actually talking, and I'm crossing my fingers she asks me out because I prefer a forward, (non biased, non old school mentally of havin men take the first move) or decisions and personally I don't want to be with a women that can't be empathic and think for herself.

3. There's a massive chance that she will think I'm a creep and/or mace me and/or call the cops and get me arrested for a trumped up sexual harassment card that will undoubtedly favor the women in court.

Those are my reasons, i don't. Personality I find dating assbackwards and illogical as hell. Women want men to make all the moves in a society that demonizes and punishes men for making a move.

megabamse · Answer

Good and sweet guys often don't make the move. They often are shy and think they don't have the chance or at least are to "hurt" to try anymore. They often know their Worth and like the stability they have. And to risk that seams often to them "to risky". Also many see these sleesy men and think that is what woman wants and they know they are not like that. So i got a suggestion for you. In the future go to sosial stuff, not just parties. Go to game nights, pickinc what have you that a friend is doing and lots of other people will be at, or at least a few you don't know that well. Then don't pay attention to the loud people that jumps around and have no issue being the senter of attention. Look for the guy that is a tad bit to the side, still part of everything but don't talk that much. Still looks like he is enjoying himself there. Go and talk to that guy, keep in mind he won't always know what to talk about. A shy guy, can often be a hidden gem that have his life together, and just needs a partner to be less shy. They often are smart and funny, are often caring and soft spoken, often a down to earth guy. They will last you longer then the loud in the middle of attention guy. It's time for the ladies to make the first move. But don't go full on flirting, be natural, show genuine interest. But these guys don't want a arm candy, and by that i mean a lady that has more selfies then pictures on their phones. Give it a go.

Anonymous · Answer

My wife. I've a big dick and she's a very small woman to begin with and was a virgin when I married her. She was very nervous about sex and was intimidated by the size of my penis. First time we we tried her vagina wouldn't accept my dick, I couldn't even get the tip in and I prematurely ejaculated trying to get it in, foreplay didn't help. It took about a week of trying and we just gave up until a week after coming back from our honeymoon we were sleeping together on a hot night, she was topless. I was awoken to her dry humping my leg in her sleep, so I rolled her over and pulled her panties to the side and slid the tip in to her soaking wet vagina and she woke up. She was so tight but as I thrust deeper and deeper it slid all the way in, I started thrusting and she asked me to stop because it was hurting her but I pumped a further 30 seconds until I came. That was really the start of our sex life, we kept trying and bit by bit our sex life improved with her being able to accommodate me more snd more easily until eventually it didn't hurt. We also experimented with different postions and foreplay. She started masturbating as well on her own and eventually was able to orgasm and orgasm with me.

Lionman95 · Answer

Because you might use the wrong strategy. Just focusing on your physical aspects will only attract the guys that are players since those are the guys that are more self confident. The sweet and serious guys are probably met at parties or in social groups and are attracted with character traits like being funny or being a girl a guy can have a great time. They are less likely the guys that ask you out in the streets but are more likely to befriend you first and later on turn that in a relationship.
Maybe ask your girlfriends where they met their boyfriends to find places where guys you´re looking for mingle.

Gent207-2 · Answer

Resting bitch face? Possibly

Intimidated by looks? There is a phenomenon where one's beauty by societal standards actually backfires (Need a pic for that one).

Your likes and interests? Athletics tend to have a high concentration of those type of guys.

Last and not least, who you hang with can also chase away potential good mates. Not going to lie I am curious what you look like

serious · Answer

That is because nice and sweet guys don't have the same level of confidence as compared to men who are cocky, arrogant and well built.

As for nice, sweet guys the woman has to make the move, at least in the initial stages whereas women just keep waiting for such guys to make a move which does not normally happen. There maybe some exceptions and I am not referring to them.

Sleeper07 · Answer

It's a misconception that guys who aren't serious won't become serious later on. That being said you should be glad if they communicate with you that they aren't looking for anything serious, that's called being honest.

Adam1978 · Answer

It's a number game, cooky people keep an high count so your more likely to get them in your life than the good and sweet who much more selective who they approach. If they approach at all.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

Maybe you should take the initiative and actually do the approaching.

Anonymous · Answer

The sweet ones like you but are naturally shy and overthink things. They are afraid to approach and admire from afar. Try meeting them halfway by starting a conversation.

magiusX26 · Answer

very likely you do sonething that gives you more of a "hoe" vibe than serious dating material vibe.

Why do I only get hit on by guys who aren’t serious and never the sweet ones?

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