Guys, why do I never get hit on?

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*I do not mean to sound narcissistic at all in this! I am grateful for my looks and the kind people who compliment me!!* I get complimented by a lot of girls on a pretty regular basis—whether it be on my features or outfits, but outside of compliments from the same sex, I NEVER get hit on by guys. which makes me feel awful. I can drive, I'm on top of my school academically, and I'm very athletic and musically trained. I'm pretty introverted but I'm not afraid to talk to someone or compliment someone. so for the guys... I guess my question is why I've never been hit on? I've never been needy or begging for a relationship but maybe I come off short or mean? I hope not :(

DiegoO · Accepted Answer

There are many factors to consider.

1. DemographicsIf you live in a small town, there is a smaller chance of finding a good partner. Why? Less people to flirt with and a tight race with others who looks for the same.2. The clothe you wearIs important to wear close, consistent with your age and mindset. If you dress like an older person, people your age will assume you're bored. Wearing close that makes you look younger, may make people think you're immature.3. How you communicate. Communication build trust or mistrust. Not knowing to communicate will build mistrust. 4. You express deep insecurity That's a turn off for most of us. A girl who isn't sure of herself will not contribute to a healthy relationship.

ChrisMaster69 · Accepted Answer

It could be your (what seems to be ) drive and determination that makes you sort of intimidating or discouraging to guys in your peer group.

I know a lot around then are not hugely confident and asking or hitting on someone who comes over accomplished and intelligent can be hard for them.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Maybe you come across like you're busy or like you aren't receptive to being talked to.

tzdc21 · Answer

Because there's always a lot at stake for guys to approach you. It may be that you're with your friends a lot. It may be that you don't seem friendly. Or maybe you just don't notice the ones that are into you. My advice, keep your eyes open everywhere, and how about you go and make the first move.

TheMajesticKing777 · Answer

I feel like the time will come when it does, just be yourself and smile more, I have noticed when you have a straight face that makes you look angry, it scares people, so if you can make yourself look like you are in a good mood to the point it shows, maybe it will increase your chances, logically and sanely speaking, you don't walk up to an angry person in general

Anonymous · Answer

This is a not uncommon thing with unsuccessful women. Nobody taught you how to show interest in guys. You think guys just do it. NOPE, doesn't work that way. Whenever a guy approaches a woman 9 times out of 10 she's actually made the first move. Either by showing her openess to being approached by something as simple as a well timed smile or as aggressive as flirting. Closed mouths don't get fed hun. You want guys to approach you? You need to start putting forth some effort.

Guy13 · Answer

GIRLS COMPLIMENT because you are NO THREAT to them... They are laughing hard about Something that you do not see.

Intothevoid666 · Answer

It’s weird women say these things cuz I always hit on women and it almost always goes nowhere. Women don’t like being hit on I swear. But I constantly see posts like there where they complain about it. How can this be?

Jackblue · Answer

I looked at your picture, you look wholesome and kind. You likely remind guys of their sisters (or at least how they want to perceive their sisters). Do you wear sweaters like that a lot?

Anonymous · Answer

Because you're looking for a serious relationship, not FBoys, and guys know that the future isn't promising and doubt they'll make it... Cars, gas, houses, food supply...

PatriceONeal · Answer

Try putting off a more easy-going vibe maybe, shyness and introversion is often confused as elitism or narcissism and people will be easily putt off by it.

JohnK123 · Answer

Well r u friends with any guys? Social? Go to school dances? Or antisocial?

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