Why do I never get hit on?

[randomgirl_xoxo]

I never get hit on and if I do it’s always guys who are average. I almost never get hit on and I will say I’ve always stuck to my group of friends and been more reserved/quiet so maybe that has something but I feel like if a guy really finds you attractive or likes you no matter how shy you are, he will find a way to talk to you. That being said when i get hit on once in a blue moon or especially when I was younger it was always guys who were just average or guys who liked everyone so it didn’t ever really count. It was never the cute guys who my friends would go for and the guys would like them back. Am I that ugly or? I had popular friends back in the day so I would say I was hideous but I was never hit on by any of their cute guy friends especially not now.

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+1 y

I meant to say I wasn’t that hideous..

[DavidBibs]

Well, I’ve noticed people in public talk in general less / interact less since the pandemic and quarantine… maybe social anxiety / shyness is more common now unfortunately.


Personally as a man, if you want my opinion, usually if I’ve noticed a girl checking me out or we exchange looks, it most def helps. Guys don’t feel comfortable approaching woman who don’t give much eye contact or non at all…


A big one is a grocery store for me, sometimes I’m looking for something in an isle and I’ve exchanged looks with a girl, than she’ll literally walk down to the entire isle where I am and act like she’s looking for the same thing I am. It doesn’t also hurt to say a few things to the men to nudge the convo open… sometimes I talk to the girl, but sometimes if I’m tired, or I get certain vibes if she wants to be left alone (maybe I’m wrong though) sometimes I don’t open the convo up.


Eye contact (2-3 times at least looking at him / exchanging looks) and a comment about something / small words, usually will cue a man you’d like him to hit on you, is the way I view it.


Best of luck.

[molonski2]

How are you presenting yourself? Are you sending out the vibe? You need to make it known , your here , your here in the room , give them a chance to hit , if you are surrounded by nerd types it makes it difficult , create a situation where you change you position in the venue , have the thought process , feel the confidence -- you know the feeling youve done it before right?
Make it known , as confidence builds , all those guys you want will come , but remember , dont get bogged down with those that are of no interest..
Create your own serendipity.

[AmandaYVR]

Guys are getting fed up with approaching girls, because many girls have been rude and make them feel bad about doing it.

If you want a relationship, start one, initiate contact with guys. Stop waiting for them to do it. It's not their job.

[randomgirl_xoxo]

I have approached maybe a couple guys and got rejected so I stopped. My ego is to fragile

[AmandaYVR]

That's refreshingly honest!! Good for you, girl. 👌
I know it sucks and hurts. But the only reason guys do it again is because they train themselves to try and get over it. It's not really easier for guys.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

"it’s always guys who are average" that is your problem. You're self entiteled and think you only deserve the best. With that attitude you'll not get a man

[Wise4myage]

Maybe its time for you to start hitting on the guys?

[randomgirl_xoxo]

Agree but I have in the past a couple times and I got rejected. Guess I wasn’t enough.

[Wise4myage]

Don't let that stop you.

[grega239]

Boo hoo. Maybe you get hit on by average guys because you are yourself average.

[CandaceSims201]

Got rejected today

[randomgirl_xoxo]

same I tried only a couple of times and got rejected, my ego is fragile I will never put myself through that again

[Anonymous]

Try hitting on them.