Girlfriend gets hit on all the time? But worry about and talk about how she hopes I dont cheat? Im confused?

[Anonymous]

My soon to be fiance is always talking about how guys hit on her ( when it happens to keep me informed) but also loves to tell me "I am by no way shape or form interest, honey you are my only, I'm so sick of creep guys".. I appreciate how she likes to reassure me and is dedicated to me, I really do. I am glad she is faithful. But between herself and I, I'm the one that works out every other day, and every week. I'm pretty handsome by many women standards and yet still, never get hit on. Never get hit on at work, the grocery store or any where else. Yet, women will get hit on all the time whether they look just as good as you, or less. But at the same time, will assume we as men have a higher chance to cheat when that only applies to men who are super attractive or have a lot of money. So ladies, and this is mostly to y'all. Why on earth is she praying I do not cheat or feels like women will tempt me to.. when I literally get no messages, no DMs, don't get hit on or anything. No she doesn't think I'm a cheater and no I do not want to... it's just SHE is the one who gets all the attention why would she be worried? I'm literally invisible to women (as many times as I've been called handsome over my adult life). And do you all really think we as men can easily cheat on y'all? Asking for max feedback for clarity. y'all claim we have so many options when truthfully y'all have way more.

[Dutchgirl97]

Women get more attention because guys have the “courting” aspect. They are more vocal and obvious about their advancements. I actually very much understand this situation because I have been in it.

it’s flattering to get hit on by men even when you are faithful. It feels good. But she most likely feels like you would feel the same way if women were to do it to you. She may feel like men have less control over how they react about getting flirted with.

She may feel oddly insecure. “I like the attention” but “I hope he doesn’t like the attention because men are more prone to cheating.” It’s an internal battle. I feel as though if she reacts and changes her way of thinking about getting flirted with- she will not project on to you. Good luck.

[Asker]

Smh as men it seems we cannot win to loose when it comes to relationships. Even us ones who are faithful, provide, keep fit, protect and do all the things asked. Women will seemingly always seek or if not seek, like the attention from other men. Forget the fact that you are doing everything right on your end. A bigger question now, is what exactly is an incentive for a man to get into a commitment? You will always loose. Even if a woman doesn't neccessarily want the attention or want to cheat, she is still naturally going to receive and like it. As for me, even as an "attractive man" I receive no attention. So she doesn't have to worry about me feeling good about receiving something that I don't.

[guywholikestoeatout]

It’s called a guilty conscience, she is probably getting too excited about getting hit on and now she’s projecting that on you.

[Anonymous]

You sound insecure. You better work on fixing that.

[Asker]

Sounds like that's coming from a sense of entitlement. I'm sure if we as men received the same amount of attention that women do, even in relationships we'd have the same answer to this same question.