Well I'm going to be perfectly blunt with you, when a woman says how great she is then follows up with why guys don't approach, its kind of a red flag. If all of these things are true then why would they not approach? Obviously there is either something your not admitting to or something you are ignoring/unaware of. I would say first, in my experience independent is code for broken. The fact is no one is independent, if you didn't need any one you wouldn't be looking for anyone plain and simple. Men and women are by design dependent on each other so when a woman says she is independent for me and in my experience it usually means attachment issues. Now I'm not trying to attack you or anything, I'm just saying what in my experience has been the case. I have never met or talked ot a woman who claimed to be independent who did not have issues. The other part is a guy wants a woman who wants and needs him, just as I imagine most women would want a guy who needs and wants her so, I would try and move away from the independent aspect of things. How is your mannerisms? Are you a tomboy or are you a girly girl, something in between, none of the above? Where do you hang out and where do you live? All of these things could be a factor, also I would mention that if you tend to brag that can be kind of a turn off as its more of a masculin trait (hence me asking about mannerisms) so if your going for a certain type of guy and thats not his thing chances are its none of those guys things. So do any of these things sound applicable?
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You have a preference for very attractive, successful white men.
You know who else has this preference? Almost every woman on the planet. Unlike 5-6 years ago, these men have all the bargaining power and call their shots.
If they want a woman similar to them, they can have her. They can afford to be as picky as they please. That means saying no to "average" women, because the rest of her merits don't really matter all that much. It's sad to say.
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I don't want to sound rude- but i'll be as honest as a drunk sailor- you DO NOT fit in their standards. You are aiming too high.
Everything that DasVoz said is spot on. I dont need to say anything else but i'll say the same thing in a short and simplified way- the guys you aim for (the most desirable ones) can get waaay better girls than you, that's why they dont go for you. Look for someone your level if you dont want to be alone.
And yes, everyone thinks they are better than everybody else.. before they see the hard truth. You might be intelligent and ambitious and good looking.. but there will always be a girl who's more intelligent, more ambitious and better looking than you."I work in a hospital and see them all day every day. I smile, make eye contact, try to seem "smize" and seem welcoming and inviting and I get nothing, nada" = you being a #TryHard/trying to appease them. Which comes off as a turn-off in their/most people's minds.
"Why do I never get the guy?" Umm I don't know, but maybe you should become friends 1st with ____ and then take it from there ^_^.Tell us about your current situation? Also, why do you think you "never get the guy"?
So you only go for the guys all girls go for and you wonder why they aren't single. How about you look for someone to love and not someone that perfect.
They probably just prefer white girls as their preference , nothing against you but that's probably the majority of the reason, it didn't stop me though but not every guy is as open as me
You're asking the cream of the crop guys, that's why
I don't know, because you're hot as fuq.
why don't you have a pic here?
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