Ever raised your standards and you were happy about it?

[Anonymous]

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Depends on what the standards cover. Looks? Kindness? Intelligence? Reliability? Wit? Financial success? Integrity?

My standards haven't been that high as far as I understand. I'm looking for a reliable, honest woman of any ethnicity that isn't too fat, with a sense of humor and likes the arts. Granted, I can't drive due to seizures, so that's a big downside on my end.

[Still-alive]

for me its more like discovering what my standards were and not to compromise on them for anyone.

[Asker]

How did that go for you?

[Still-alive]

compromising on my standards goes terribly. not doing that goes much better. it filters out the good from the bad for me.

[Asker]

Even if you're alone?
I mean yes it's great I'd take lonely rhen miserable and with someone but I feel I won't ever get companionship again

[Still-alive]

yes even if alone. you have to learn to be happy being single as much as you would in a good long term relationship. trust me it will go much better for you.

[DermalPunch]

but I feel I won't ever get companionship again

You have internal work to do. Now is not the time to be looking outward. Sincerely ~ Been There.

[Msputiton]

Yup.

[Asker]

Omg how long did it take you to reach full blown happiness?

[Msputiton]

I always been happy. But i also rather be single, than date someone that will lower my worth or happiness.

[Asker]

I'm in this moment.
I love hard... don't really want to be along. But not desperate to stay with someone who I'm so unhappy with. I hope it gets better for me once I leave

[Asker]

Good for you tho pretty

[Asker]

I feel I won't get companionship again

[Msputiton]

Don't make someone giving you companionship the means to happiness.
I actually hate companionship i rather be single, and free to be me.

[Asker]

I feel it. But I love hard. And I'm spoiled. I love affection and all that annoying cute shit. I could fuck and keep it that but eventually imma wanna say I love you lmao

[Msputiton]

Which is fine. We all need and want different things

What works for me doesn't mean it will work for anyone else

[DermalPunch]

sorry to be doing this. i just see so much of a past version of myself in your posts. Forget happiness especially full-blown. That will only lead to misery. What you need to strive for is contentment.

[melanieeeB]

For sure best thing you can do!

[Asker]

I don't know why I was so scared to let go of below bare minimum.
Omg how long did it take you to reach full blown happiness?

[melanieeeB]

I had this attitude since always and already had "high" standards since always and I was always happier respecting myself

[EaterPeter]

Nah.

[EaterPeter]

Yes and no