So a girl I thought I completely messed up with called me the other night. Conversation was good and it appears that if she still likes to talk to me, now although I am happy by this I still have some thoughts.
I come horrible relationships that literally have ruined my self esteem and confidence that I find myself still feeling these thoughts anytime I start to fall for a girl.
we talked all day yesterday but when I attempted to call she didn’t answer and has me feeling down again. I know it is silly and I’m keeping the thoughts to myself cause I don’t want to mess up again.
how can I overcome the thoughts the second someone isn’t responding I don’t feel like she doesn’t like me anymore and gained interest elsewhere
What Girls Said
Maybe talk to her about how you're feeling, I'm sure if she's into you she'll be willing to reassure you. Just remember that people get busy and that just because there are things that maybe be more urgent in the moment that doesn't always mean that they hold more value to her than you
I spoke with her and she said she don’t want to lose me but I need to act right and prove it. I come from horrible relationships and kinda just thought her pulling back was a repeat of it all she yelled at me for it and said how many times do I need to tell you I like you but my health has me not being able to date rn. I asked again a week later and she was not happy. The other night I apologized and said I don’t want to be any added stress to her but it kills me with the thought of losing her and she said the same I just don’t know. I know I need work on myself with those insecurities but I also told her from the beginning I was here for her. I hesitated in beginning cause I can just tell if I dated her she would be my wife so I was afraid wondering if I was ready for all that. With her pulling back I feel like maybe I was