I am in an ldr, I love the person, but it just gives me a bad feeling in my heart at the end of each day. What should I do about this?

[Ihatemakingdecisions]

I have never met this person IRL,

I know things of this kind "never work", but we've been together for almost a year now.

I really like him and he is a really good person and i don't want to loose him.

But this is making life harder for me. I cannot focus on other things and i get restless when he does not respond to my texts and calls.

He's been a little distant lately and apologizes for not being able to spend time with me. But the thing is, he plays video games instead of talking to me.

I tried asking him to talk to me for like one hour in until i fall asleep but when he does it, it feels forced. He gives me short responses and does other things on the background while talking to me.

I think this might be the reason for his previous relationships ending. But I don't know how to bring this up and not make him feel like I'm being clingy.

I told him yesterday that it was good that we do things that we love and don't let the relationship hold us back from the hobbies that we genuinely care about, so i can't step back from that word. But he didn't respond to that message lol

[dynamicyandere]

Quality time is very important for LDR. It would be good to have a talk with him and let him know how important it is to you that you spend quality time together, undivided attention where you are truly focused on connecting with each other.


I’ve been in a LDR for 4 years and now we’re sharing an apartment together and everything is going super well. So, I know an LDR can work. BUT, it takes a lot of extra work to pull off successfully.


What helped us through through first 4 years included things like:
* Cutting out time from our busy schedules to spend quality time with each other.
* Communicating openly and honestly so important concerns aren’t swept under the rug.
* Prioritizing each other and making decisions that are best for the relationship.
* Actively working towards making our relationship stronger over time and actively working on being better partners to each other.


I don’t believe what you want is clingy. I think it’s perfectly reasonable. Your love language is probably quality time, so it’s super important that you have that, otherwise your relationship may weaken.


It’s important to trust your gut though. With the right person, a LDR can work, but not everyone can handle an LDR.

[dynamicyandere]

That bad feeling in your heart at the end of each day is concerning though. Most of the time our gut is right about things. (As long as we can discern the difference between intuition and paranoia.)

[Anonymous]

You're just 17 stop wasting time in love n relationship... live your life fearlessly n enjoy your freedom.

[Jamie05rhs]

Do you even know who this person is? I hope it isn't a grown-ass man. That would be really creepy.

[Teriyaki70]

Avoid them