I am a 19 year old with no friends or no SO, the loneliness is crippling? what to do?

[Anonymous]

I’m in therapy working on getting help for my depression - I find friendships pointless for some reason, I’d try dating apps again but I just keep getting hurt on those.

[lightbulb27]

therapy is good, not always a magic cure, but applaud yourself for the effort.

The answer is both resolving childhood issues and setting goals and working towards them. Happy = progress. So set some goals, take up some new hobbies, find ways to contribute to life and society, even caring for pets... do pet walking or sitting. Work on your diet... and sleep and meditation to heal your mind. Exercise.

Make even some of these changes, you get to a better place. Lots of videos you can watch and books you can read, maybe you can read them together with others whom are down and help them get to a new place... or study in psychology/therapy and become a therapist and help others.

The world is your "oyster"... of which you can contribute to life, and do so every opportunity you can, out of the security you have.

Security to me is in finding Christ and learning and understanding, believing. But others go without, just know that was instrumental to me moving me forward in life.

out of your success, you will meet people and draw more success. you want to be in as good a place emotionally as you can for meeting someone else as relationships take work.

Maybe you are Alice down in the rabbit hole asking which way to go. Take a deep breath...

[Asker]

It’s not so much that I don’t have healthy habits I just literally cannot get out of bed to do them. This is MDD we’re talking about here. It’s not that I don’t want to make an effort

[lightbulb27]

MDD? Is it possible you have adrenal burnout? Lookup the symptoms... that happens when we exhaust our resources via emotional energy/stress.

[OfMiceandMen]

Do you have any family, like cousins or someone you can spend more time with? The problem with depression, is people are reluctant to get involved, because they don't want to be the reason, why the depression takes a turn for the worse. So they play it safe and stay away.
I think the best thing is for you to keep with the therapy and see if you can visit family members to get some social time in. Once you improve, then start branching out to non-family members. Like a stepping stone...

[Adaeva]

You have a therapist. Ask him; don't be stupid and ask non-professionals. We don't even know you and your condition; he does.

[JBlade]

I also find friendships pointless, there is nothing fulfilling about them to me and they require too much effort. You may just be Aplatonic and that’s okay. I prefer being alone than around others, you could just focus on the things you enjoy in life atm.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/XHFy3YWpRx8

In life some people have a lot on their plate & in life some people have a buffet. In life you should never give up, you should never give in & most of all you should keep moving forward no matter what. Better days will come my friend so turn that frown upside down.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

You don't need friends as an adult. You'd be surprised how many people don't have friends, it's staggering.
You can get your social interactions at work like most people do.

As far as finding an SO, that will come in time. I didn't get my first girlfriend until I was 21. Your will come too. Until then, just continue to work on yourself and becoming the best version of you.
I know that's a little cliche, but it's true nonetheless

[Stevefiveo]

I think you are on the right track with therapy. Although, if you find friendships pointless, then that is one of the problems you are going to have to work on in therapy. Yeah, dating is hard these days. Try dating multiple guys until you find one that you really click with. Good luck.

[BungusHighFivePizza]

Stop getting hurt from your efforts. Some people just aren't compatible. And don't do online dating. Make friends with those around you and date the ones you like most that your other friends can vouch for in terms of their spirit.

[Truthatanycost]

Develop a close relationship with God and follow his ways.

[MrCommodore]

Rather than trying to randomly make friends, instead start or join a club for something you are really interested. The people you meet with similar interests will one day become friends.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Therapy won't help.
Friendships aren't pointless because you should only be dating a best friend that you find attractive.
Also what do you mean by you keep getting hurt on dating apps?

[noohair]

It is my opinion that social media has ruined dating and courtship. Look for groups that interest you and meet people face to face. And I would stop looking at social media, you only see one side of the person, the fake side.

[FunkyMonkee]

I've been lonely most of my life! Especially the last 2 years!!

[TheFlak38]

There are millions of lonely men out there who would rather settle with a mental nutcase. But of course these men are invisible to your eyes.

[Anonymous]

Careful to take your vitamins depression can be a cause of lacking nutrients

[Degenerate]

Welcome to the club my friend

[In_Trance]

Hope therapy helps you

[Jmmmfi4]

You sound just like me