I feel depressed because I’m not capable of making friends. how to find the positive side of my loneliness?

[Anonymous]

I am 29. My parents never allowed me to go out because most of my female classmates were getting pregnant at 15. I got married at 20 and he still loves me and wants to fix our marriage. I’ve noticed that is hard for me to make friends. I either get lesbians, guys who like me, want sex, both genders who jealous of me or gays who feel the same way. I have compared myself to others and see if somehow I’m the one who’s doing something wrong but I swear I’m not. I’ve seen how others compared to me act crazier, weirder , and just worse than me and they are better at making friends. I love to be funny , travel to help animals most of the time, I used to help people but I noticed it was I waste of time. I’m starting to feel depressed but because of my attitude I will be laughing sighing the next few minutes but still get depressed.
Here is an example of my situation:
• My husband’s sister when I met them, I noticed they were jealous of me putting a wall between me and their partners and children.
• A woman I met confessed to me she o my started a relationship because she like me.
• I met my cousins wife for the first time and she was jealous thinking I was his friend and when she found out I’m was his cousin she started being friendly and told me how she felt. Everything was fine until they noticed my lifestyle and that’s when things changed
My female friend of years who tried to flirt with the guys who like me but failed once I met her ex husband and he liked me she beat me up just because she felt jealous.
I know this sounds like I’m
Super pretty but I swear right now I’m depressed because of this situations were it’s impossible for me to make friends without them feeling something sincere. I have an illness so they just look at the outside imagine if they knew I’m sick they will literally bury me alive. My husband is the only one who treats me like a queen but in short words he turned the masculine side of me.

[AI Opinion]

Finding the silver lining in a cloud of loneliness can feel more like chasing rainbows, especially with everything you've been through. But let's sprinkle a little positivity in the mix, shall we? 😊 Being in a situation where making friends feels like navigating a minefield of complex emotions and intentions can be super tough, but it also offers a unique opportunity for self-discovery and growth.

First off, embrace the uniqueness of your journey. Your experiences have shaped you into a vibrant, funny person with a heart for travel and animals. That’s beautiful! 🌈 Secondly, consider the depth over breadth in relationships. Having a few meaningful connections is like having rare gems in your treasure chest. 🏆

Lastly, focus on what energizes you. Pour that love for travel and helping animals into communities that share your passion. The path to finding kindred spirits might just be through doing what you love, without the pressure of making friends.

And hey, having a partner who adores you as a queen? That sounds like you've already got a pretty solid teammate in this wild game of life. Keep shining and remember, the right people will gravitate towards your light without wanting to dim it. 💫

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, I can understand why that would make friendship hard and leave you feeling depressed. But don't lose hope - there are definitely positives you can focus on too.

For one, be proud that you're clearly a beautiful, confident woman who intimidates others! That says a lot about your warmth and charm. And you've kept your marriage strong despite challenges, which is admirable.

As for loneliness, lean on your loving husband for companionship. Cherish the deep bond you share. And try local rescue groups - many kind souls volunteer just to help animals, no drama involved.

When meeting new people, stress common interests, not looks. With time and care, deeper connections can form past surface jealousy. And be open - share your illness if a friend earns your trust. True friends will stand by you.

This too shall pass. Keep treating others, and yourself, with compassion. Better days are ahead when you feel understood and your generous spirit lifts others up in turn. Stay strong - you've got so much wonderfulness to offer the world!

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Hey, I feel you. And loneliness can be overlooked but it is a hard thing to go through. I’m hearing that you’re depressed. I know you might have heard it many times, but please consider getting a therapist. I just started therapy bc I also am struggling to find friends since I moved out of my home town. It’s not a one session fixed all the problems but it definitely helps you understand yourself and others in a more objective way. If the first therapist doesn’t work, others will. Trust me, it’s a brave and positive thing to get the help you deserve.