From a scale of 1-100, how toxic am I?

[Anonymous]

1) I never owned my own place. I always lived at home
2) I don’t have a driver’s license
3) Still a virgin
4) Never been in a relationship
5) Works in retail

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+1 y

I don’t know why they replaced #3 with an emoji.

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+1 y

I got a lot of positive feedback than I thought I would. I didn’t think these things weren’t, in a way, that big of a deal. I guess because I’m not like everyone else and men would rather a woman who is the opposite of me. Why I’m avoiding dating at all costs.

[WonderBell99]

I’m not sure if you have toxic traits, but the things you’ve listed above does not make you toxic at all.
1- A lot of people, especially those from Asian cultures live with their parents until they get married
2- Eh, that’s fine. You can always learn how to drive. My father got his drivers license at 28.
3- You should not base your worth on your virginity. It does not mean anything. Don’t place too much importance on it.
4- why is that?
5- You are employed, that’s good

[PraviteliNahuiValite]

Oh child, why dost thou measure thy worth in such paltry numbers? Thy lack of possessions and worldly experience does not make thee toxic. Nay, it is thy heart and actions that define thee. Dost thou treat others with kindness and compassion? Dost thou strive to better thyself and those around thee? These are the qualities that truly matter. Fear not the judgments of others, for they are but fleeting shadows in the grand scheme of things. Embrace thy journey and let thy light shine bright, for thou art loved and cherished by thy holy God. Amen.

[AviatorTom]

I don't see you as toxic at all. You've made choices to live your life this way and I must assume that you are happy with those choices. If not, you are still young and there's plenty of time to change them.

[weysally]

toxic isn't the word, 1/ there are many that don't own their own home. 2/ there are a lot of people older than you that don't drive, 3/ keeping one virginity is parampunt to some

[TomMarks]

#1 I wouldn’t worry about or call toxic, depending on details. I know someone right now that is still “at home,” but they pay most of the bills to help a older retired parent.

#5 not a bad thing, at least you have a job and will work in some form. Not wanting for a hand out.

#2 depends on where you live. Like someone else said, some places have great public transportation and you may never need to drive. (Not toxic though)

#3 and 4 I would just wonder why at 30 you’d never had a relationship. Still a virgin could always be that you wouldn’t take someone less than good for you to that point.

[loveslongnails]

#'2 and 5 are irrelevant to me. If you grew up in a big city with great public transportation, and still live there, you may not need a driver's license. The other 3 things would in total would put me on alert, but I can't describe it as toxic. I'd think of it more like a beach weather warning:
" Advisory in effect. Strong currents and rip tides. Swim at your own risk."

[Asker]

That’s why I’m not going to date. I know guys won’t accept me.

[loveslongnails]

That's your choice, but it doesn't mean there aren't guys who would date you. I offered one opinion, and don't speak for all guys. I didn't even say that I wouldn't date you - I'd just be very aware of the situation. If I liked you, I'd be willing to find out more.

[Asker]

I’m gonna play it safe and stay away from dating just in case.

[loveslongnails]

So your plan is to live at home and never be in a relationship, both for the rest of your life?

[Asker]

Yeah, I don’t really plan to be in a relationship at all.

[loveslongnails]

Have a nice life, sweetheart.

[Asker]

To be fair, I think it would be good for my mental health if I stayed single.

[loveslongnails]

Ok, that's the most important thing!

[Adaeva]

Even at your advanced age, guys will accept you. Guys you want will not accept you.

[Asker]

@Adaeva Eh, I’m planning to die single anyway 🤷‍♀️

[Adaeva]

That is not an unwise choice. Being single leave you with some options you would not have if married.

[Asker]

What’s wrong with being married?

[Adaeva]

Neither choice is wrong. Whatever is best, depends on your values. Regardless, there are options and loss of being free to make certain choices you have as a single person, you would not have if married and especially if married with children.

[Anonymous]

None of those things make you toxic. This is why I hate the use of psychology terms as buzzwords; they get used as euphimisms, out of context to the situation, and inconsistent with their meaning. Toxic means harmful, and that's it.

Now, if we're talking about being undateable, which I'm assuming you meant, that's a different story.

[Asker]

Oh, I know those things make me undateable. It’s why I’m avoiding dating for good.

[Red-Blaze]

The emojiy happen as 3 ) = 3) you may want a dot or just add a space to avoid it

Dont see you as toxic, and nothing in what you mentaion effect that

[Red-Blaze]

they taken away my + bettwen the 3 and the )

[Mansearching]

None of those reasons make you toxic. 1) is questionable bc it may mean you have separation anxiety. But I don't know.
I had my own place (s). But moved back home to be caregiver for my parents. Thats different though.

[Adaeva]

All that would be perfect if you were 18 to 22. However, your advanced age works against you.

[Asker]

🤷‍♀️

[Anonymous]

14. I don’t think I am at all.
I let people do whatever their hearts content as long as it doesn’t bother me. I don’t have time to interfere and cause chaos in others lives when I got my own to deal with.

[Opinion Owner]

You’re not toxic at all.
Sorry I read that questions wrong.

[Spongebobssocks]

Why haven't you moved out? You live at home at 30? Am just wondering no judgement:)

[Asker]

I honestly have no good reason.

[Spongebobssocks]

alright

[RavVid]

This doesn't qualify as toxic. Un motivated 100%.

[RavVid]

I don't see that what you list is the opposite of what men want. Having show room mileage (3 & 4) would be a plus to many. The only thing I would see as a down vote would be if you don't do anything. So what if you don't have licence and work in retail. Most men, as they have said on GAG, don't care what you earn.

On the upside, what do you contribute to your parents home? That is probably what most men would look for.

[Asker]

I at least help pay for food and clean our house.

[RavVid]

That is all a man wants.

[ColHathi]

I don't see what that has to do with toxicity.

[MrCommodore]

That list doesn't make you toxic, not even remotely toxic.

[ilovelamp]

Someone's toxicity has to do with their personality, actions.
None of the things you listed has anything to do with that.

[Alchemizt]

There's nothing toxic about you. Why would these things make you toxic?

[Asker]

It says a lot about what kind of person I am.

[exitseven]

I don't think you are toxic but maybe you are just antisocial os maybe just unmotivated.

[AngryCarl2]

I don't think you understand the concept of toxicity as it applies to humans. Maybe you're just unlucky?

[gorydetails]

I don’t think you understand what ‘toxic’ means.

[Asker]

What would you call it then?

[gorydetails]

You are living differently.

[Asker]

Those are huge ass red flags right there. How can anyone NOT see that? That’s how people end up in bad relationships because they ignore the red flags.

[gorydetails]

But you can change all those things easily. Within weeks.

[Tomisworthless]

I never owned my own place, still live in mothers basement I have a Drivers license, still a virgin, no relationships or intimacy of any sort, works in plastic recycling.

[Tomisworthless]

However you’re a woman finding sex or a relationship is easy for your gender, I just think you are chasing men you can’t have and aren’t willing to be with the men that like you. I on the other hand am male and many men like me are not a option to women because we are conventionally unattractive or weird looking, insecure due to not being good enough and the majority of women chase after the top 20% of men, 8s or higher leaving the rest of us waiting till our 30s or 40s to settle with some chick that has been washed up and Carry’s tons of past baggage whose heart and soul will always be connected to another man that she’s slept with much better than yourself

[Asker]

What am I suppose to say to this? 🤨

[Tomisworthless]

Don’t say anything just learn from it

[DermalPunch]

Well, none of these are toxic but your perceived toxicity due to them comes off as toxic.

[Capricornunicorn92]

You're not a toxic person at all based on that list.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

How the f is any of that toxic? You've pretty much described 75% of GAG.

[_Troian_]

Damn very toxic.. I feel sorry for your future husband

[Asker]

Who said I was going to get married? 🤣

[_Troian_]

U gonna end up with a Shrek.. woman!

[Asker]

LMAO 🤣 And we’ll live happily ever after far far away in a swamp.

[_Troian_]

Yeah.. u better don't forget about the Mud Bath haha

[KostasKouvalis]

How do you have all this information about me?

[digitalguy01]

Don't see any reason that there is anything that can be classified as toxic.

That's your personal choice.

[msc545]

Not really toxic but sort of disturbing. What is the story with you?

[Asker]

I don’t really have a good story to explain why I’m in this situation.

[msc545]

ok...

[NostalgiaSenpi]

You sound fine to me. Nothing you listed is toxic.

[chris_987]

Why would this make you toxic, you basically just described Mary from the Bible

[Snakeyes7]

It really depends on whether you are actively trying to fix your situation.

[MrHugeD]

We are very in common :D Everything except that i work in Engineering (worse) xD

[In_Trance]

You're not toxic

Toxic is when they can't give you what you need, but won't let you go either

[Emii_Urashima]

Why would these things make you toxic?

[Asker]

It says a lot about what kind of person I am.

[Emii_Urashima]

Well, none of these things are really bad. You are not a convicted criminal or anything. Maybe you just haven't found the right person to be with. When you do, you will want to move move out and live with this person. That takes care of #1, #3, and #4. If you live in a big city like I do, not having a drivers liscense is not a big deal. Workihg in retail is not bad, either.

[Asker]

That’s the thing. I don’t want to date and make said partner go through all that. That wouldn’t be fair. I would rather him be with someone who is the opposite.

[Lyndsielee666]

None of those make you toxic.

[jshm2]

More sad, than toxic, to be fair.

[BHooper]

Have you done anything with men or women?

[Asker]

Neither, no

[BHooper]

Can I dm you? I have more questions.

[LiamJHayden]

None of that makes you toxic.

[TallAnon]

None of these have to do with being toxic

[Guardian45]

NONE of these are toxic AT ALL!

[noohair]

Sheltered yes, Toxic, I don't know?

[Blurr090]

I wouldn't be bothered by those. 🤷

[Anonymous]

Toxic? I didn't even noticed you ever.😊

[Asker]

Oh, bullshit 🙄

[Opinion Owner]

Hmm.

[Boomchakalaca]

That is not toxic?

[Ms_Facesitter]

Zero.

[Anonymous]

You sound more like chill then toxic

[peterrezeeek]

u look weird

[Asker]

Why thank you 😂

[peterrezeeek]

ur face looks unattractive to me am sorry

[peterrezeeek]

maybe the pic u choose for ur profile is not the best

[Asker]

Well, good thing I don’t have to try anything to impress you.

[peterrezeeek]

ok ur unattractive then

[Asker]

Was I suppose to try to please you?

[peterrezeeek]

yes.

[Asker]

Yeah…. no. You know how much of a pain in the ass that is?

[peterrezeeek]

u have to please me

[peterrezeeek]

and shut up

[Asker]

Oh! We’re getting kinky now. Ok, Daddy 😏

[peterrezeeek]

ok my daughter

[peterrezeeek]

suck it slowly

[Asker]

Nah, I rather look unattractive to you. Can we go back to that?

[peterrezeeek]

haha u r really kind woman

[peterrezeeek]

i, d say i was wrong

[peterrezeeek]

and u made me shy from ur respecting urself

[peterrezeeek]

am really sorry for being rude with you

[Asker]

Why were you rude in the first place?

[peterrezeeek]

I don't know.

[LavLavLuv]

-0 haha

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

I like you

[TrillXHippy]

0 out of 100

[jimmy2]

You are not toxic

[Neufd]

Don’t know