How does an ex who you dated for 3-4 years move on in less than 6 months to someone else? Especially when he was immature and a narc?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

To move on in 6 months after 3 years, my guess is that he was ready to leave your relationship a long time ago. I’m sure there were signs of unhappiness or growing apart from you, but maybe you overlooked them and you have your reasons for that. I don’t want to feed into whether he was talking to her before you broke up because that’s counterproductive to your healing process and honestly either here nor there.

[Asker]

He used to talk to me like I'm an option but I was like so why are we dating in the first place why didn't he break up with me and rather let me do that

[Opinion Owner]

You’re right, he could’ve ended things if he were unhappy. But I think your mistake was not getting up and walking away when his actions showed that he didn’t want to be with you, rather than stay based off his words.
Too often women like yourself become a placeholder for your partner until he finds that “eureka” woman. He could spend years with you, get married even have kids, but when he meets the woman who actually is what he wants, then you’d kiss your life with him goodbye.

[Anonymous]

Either he wasn't emotionally invested in you at time of breakup - never was or had emotionally left you already, or he isn't over you despite whatever appearances suggest.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

They were either not invested enough or is the type to move on quickly. The real question is, "why do you care?", As its over.

[RockyHammock]

Some people's trash is another person's treasure. He's over you, are you over him?

[LiamJHayden]

Different people take differing amounts of time to get over a break up.

[Wise4myage]

I bet the ex had been seeing the other person before he broke up with you.

[LazerBean]

He probably was never that into you to begin with.

[Asker]

Am I destined to be alone? I never was in a relationship before that. The first time someone actually wanted to date me