How fast do you move on from a relationship?

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For me it depends how long we were in a relationship. 1 to 2 months not long to get over. 8 years it might take me awhile.

BullShark · Accepted Answer

Seems like a question I've already answered multiple times already in the past, but anyways, for me to move on from a relationship, it all depends on factors like how long it lasted, how close we were, and how it all ended.

Like speaking from past experiences, I dated this girl for five whole years only to find out she was faking it the whole time and said she never loved me and still wanted to go back to her toxic and abusive ex. When asked why, she simply replied with "I didn't ask for any of this, or for you to love me. How is you getting hurt my fault?"

It took me three whole years to recover from that level of heartbreak and betrayal, and to actually be able to look at the opposite gender as normal people with actual feelings and a heart, and not just someone who's simply out there to screw you over, take whatever they can have and dispose you off like some used piece of toilet paper. Hope that answered your question.

0-limit · Accepted Answer

My last relationship I got over the day after it ended.

TenderFantasy · Accepted Answer

So many things depend yo.

Things like:

1) your self-esteem/self-worth matters.

2) How much you LOVED/CARED about the person who is now not in your life anymore.

3) How much you VALUED the relationship to begin with (being in it. How much you depended on it for your happiness, how much you NEEDED it, etc.)

4) And yes, of course, the length too!

5) Any CHILDREN involved as well... so many factors!

6) WHY you guys broke up matters too!

camillaopez1 · Accepted Answer

Some people may feel ready to start a new relationship after a month, while others may need more time.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Took me a year, exactly.

Avicenna · Answer

Depends how long and intense it was

LaureenVO · Answer

I've just gotten into my first relationship ever at 19 years old, so I can't really answer this. But I've been liking this guy for years. Everytime I was crushing on someone else, I couldn't take it to the next step, because I kept thinking about my current boyfriend. I think it will take me a really long time to get over him if we were to break up. We just hit our 3 months together of officially being in a relationship :) I hope we never break up, because he's the best person ever and he treats me like a queen. I love him.

WhiteSteve · Answer

I think I went like six years between declared “girlfriends.” I might’ve gone close to a year though before I hooked up with anyone after my first serious relationship, because I spent like six months of it living out the lease on my apartment with my ex (GREAT times😂), so neither of us were really able to move on. Then it was summertime in a college town, so it was real dry for options, and then I think I was spending most of that summer and fall getting my feet under me, in the gym a lot trying to getting back into playing shape. I think it was that next winter when I got back out there.

AaronKrieger · Answer

Any relationships that I had a very deep connection with the person I never fully move on from. As for any heartbreak I do not experience it anymore for the most part.

To summarize it:
- I miss and care for them still. That connection doesn't go away despite not being interested in them anymore. I still think about them casually, as they were very important to me at one point.

- The toxicity of relationships makes me not want to date for a while after it ends. It leaves me exhausted.

hardboiledink · Answer

like 6 months to years. I think it's how much we process things mentally and realize how we can be better and how we messed up, how bad and messed up the other person was, and that the relationships was toxic and not good for the long run especially since it WAS NOT real love.

STOP calling it "love" when it isn't should be the taught thing. People are getting into lust and situationships that aren't even relationships where people talk, care, and more to the point if they broke up it would be a friendly breakup.

Now people just ghost eachother left and right and that is TRAUMATIC and it IS NOT LOVE to do that to people. People today are not good people, cruel, and don't know what "love" is

Itsasecret74 · Answer

What do u mean by move on? physically or mentally?

For myself,, I may come across as a sociopath how I answer this.. but here goes... immediately. 1. Mentally: a relationship doesn't end sporadically. 2. Sexual activity with s/o also just didn't stop just like that. Hense.. I value my time and desires while I'm above ground. If I wasn't the one for her, why should I feel the need according to social norms to be in a bubble of loss and grief? I instead reflect, I chose to value and be grateful for the time I've had with now my (ex) . And move forward.. no rearview mirror

Anonymous · Answer

I think for me it depends on the relationship and how long it lasted. Generally, I've been "over" the women I dated fairly quickly, usually because of some issues on their end - like cheating - I'm immediately gone. Now getting over what they did, I don't know if that sticks around a bit longer - but them personally? But all my relationships have been pretty short; usually they can't (or don't want to) last past "the honeymoon stage" (first three or four months).

I think the sadness over the end of a few CRUSHES (not breakups - most of my crushes and I didn't date) have lasted longer than the feelings associated with a breakup.

Anonymous · Answer

I was married for 18 years. After 1 year of marriage; l began having doubts about why she married me. It obviously wasn’t for a partnership or to build something as a team. I tried working with her to build that for the next 17.

So l just started looking out for myself. I was outnumbered and knew l was in her way. She was hellbent on not sacrificing anywhere near as much as l had been.

For me and while married; l got over being in love with her by that 2nd year. Then after being married to her for 12 years, l completely gave up trying. After 18 years, the opportunity presented itself to divorce her made it easy for both of us to go our separate ways and l filed for divorce.

Two years after the divorce, she tried to befriend me thinking all was forgiven and forgotten. Talk about her being a real narcissist.

Jessikaah91 · Answer

I think it depends, my eldest daughters father it took me like 6 months to a year we were on and off for like a year. my last ex was only a month because I moved on emotionally before i did physically mind you I was with him 8 years, my current partner I've been with for 3 years but I think it'll take me a long ass time if we broke up, because feelings are really different then what it was with my exes.

Singing_Hollow · Answer

Like you said, it depends on how long you've been together and also how they treated you in that relationship. I dated a guy for 5 years but it was the hardest most horrible 5 years ever and when i left him finally, I left him knowing I had no regrets or love left for him whereas my current relationship is a year now and if that ended I wouldn't get over it near as easy because he is a wonderful person in and out.

MrOracle · Answer

It's really based on how strong my feelings were at the time of the end of the relationship. That's going to be influenced by how long we were together, but also how the relationship was going at that time. If we'd been together for a long time and our feelings had only grown and things were going well, then getting over it would be harder and would take longer. If things were bad in the relationship, then moving on would be easier.

Bricealan · Answer

Not easily, and not quickly, if the relationship was a good one. When my wife left me for another past lover, I was devastated for a long time, and my stupid cousin told me to 'throw away that wedding picture and all of that stuff" I could not bear to do that, and ignored her idiot advice. Years later I still have that wedding picture displayed on one of my 'end tables' for anyone to say. The wedding day was the happiest of my life, and not to be forgotten during this life time

afortnightaway · Answer

It depends if you are the one who broke up and for what reasons. I for my part move on rather quickly. Maybe 3-4 months even if the relationship was 4 or 9 nine years. This sounds harsh but the thing is that I start to distance myself about half a year before I break it off.

JacobJordan · Answer

I wouldn't bother. Invested too much time, money and energy. I would just stay single and rich and enjoy the rest of my life in solitude or with some friends. I am sure they would be happy since I could finance basically everything we would want to do

Fireguy17 · Answer

it depends, a few times I took mulit year breaks from dating just to go out and do what I wanted to do without having to ask or be told I have a cousin's wedding we are going to.
It was nice to be able to come and go as I pleased.
I could get laid without any problem, so I didn't need to be in a relationship just to have sex.
I can function just fine on my own.

Steelcore5280 · Answer

A woman and I were getting extremely serious, and just recently (last week) she suddenly stopped talking to me and started to ghost me.

As someone who can become emotionally detached really quick, I'm already moving on, but I'm really angry because I passed on potential dating opportunities for a woman I liked, only for her to disappear on me.

So I'm no longer wanting to date, let alone deal with women, until further notice.

In other words, I can move on fast.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

I work on myself, figure out where I went wrong in my last relationship and move forward. However long that may be. Some relationships take longer to get over than others.

HawkPerception · Answer

A few days at most. I move on pretty fast. If they left you, it means they didn't see the value in you. And if you left them, you didn't see the value in you. Let them go.

Chevy1_kb · Answer

A year or a year and a half I always love very strong that it does hit me quite hard am a sensitive person when it comes to love and heartbreak no joke it's one of my worse faults is falling in love to quick

bobalife · Answer

There’s no guarantee, every person and relationships is different… the break up and pain will also be different… we all grieve on our own pace and what it was meant for us. I think the hardest for me was my last one though.

Altheavas · Answer

I don’t like dwelling in the past. Loosing my energy on things for situation behind me, so I move on fast. 1 to 3 months max, but fast enough, as in doing my own things not getting myself in another situation right away.

7Phoenix7 · Answer

For me it's been what.. a year? Year n a half I don't know.. and I'm not interested at all in moving on to someone else. I'm still focusing on me and bettering myself. But my relationship was 14 years long, so..

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

How do you gauge "moving on"? Successfully getting to go steady with someone new? Being able to become interested in someone new? No longer beating yourself up over what you lost?

eds99 · Answer

The one that beat me down was the 2o years of marriage... I can't honestly say how long it will take because it's been 3 years and I'm still at a lose. I guess for her it took about a week and she was already talking with her ex and falling in love and I'm still in disbelief that she never actually loved me but the truth hurts

arav6 · Answer

Covered are allowing enough time for the initial grieving process not being too hard on oneself and acknowledging moving on takes time, engaging in meaningful activities as a form of self care and healing and waiting until you feel emotionally ready before trying to start something new. This emphasizes the importance of patience and self compassion when recovering from a breakup.

Phoenix98 · Answer

It just depends, someone I didn't really know or was really attached to probably not long but a long term relationship with someone I cherished it'd probably take a minute to be able to fully move on from it.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Usually takes me around the same amount of time I dated them. Unless, before it ended I was completely out of love with the person. Then I am already over it lol.

Tiishyy · Answer

It wouldn’t take me long to move on from a relationship but it will definitely take me time to get back into a serious relationship after the last one.

overthinkergirl · Answer

i have never been in a relationship but once i was in love with that boy. it took me 2years and about 4 months to fully move on

IrishStewed · Answer

I've heard it said, it takes a month per every year you were together to get over someone. Don't know how true that is though.

Jkgordon · Answer

Right away! Yes I could miss the person but I’m   Not wasting energy dwelling on them. I occupy my time doing things for myself. After all he’s not the only male in the world~

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

I'm always busy because I keep myself busy.  Busy enough to easily make me forget and get over someone quite quickly.

Guido · Answer

It depends on who is initiating the break up. If you are the person ending the relationship then moving on is very quick. If you are the one dumped then it could be several months especuallybif it came as a surprise.

SimplyPut · Answer

Depends on the circumstances and if there was some kind of closure. Depends on the strength of feelings.

strateguy632 · Answer

always, the following evening after split, i move on. best way to get over ex.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Some ghosts haunt us forever. Doesn't mean we don't still move on though.

thundercloud · Answer

It depends on which guy wants to be with you and if he is even your type

jshm2 · Answer

About 20 seconds. What is worrying and moping going to do for you exactly?

LiamJHayden · Answer

I usually get over it quickly. If we are not meant to be, I see no reason to mourn.

tomgrosse77 · Answer

Relationships from long ago have taken longer to get over with than more recent ones. People come and people go, you learn how to get over it and move on.

Anonymous · Answer

Not to fast from a breakup I did nearly 2 years ago. I think though with all of the lessons I have learned, I am ready now to let go.

Mark987 · Answer

Same for me depends how long we were together. My longest to get over someone was about a 2 years.

9in_Serpent · Answer

Ideally relationships end on good terms and its sad to see it end otherwise because at one point both parties cared about each other

turnpost · Answer

Lol I dont think I really have. I just cope better, and focus on other things, occasionally the pain just comes and goes.

12karen · Answer

it depends but If it was a relationship where I was really into, I have a hard time moving on, I tend to get attached a lot

nik0102 · Answer

Depends on how you define "moving on". If you mean a healthy way of letting someone go, or just letting a guy slide in.

Josiee143 · Answer

For me it depends on how good the relationship was. If it was really good then it will take me awhile. If it was trash then I'll quickly move on lol

Danny_dan92 · Answer

I’ll be honest it took awhile with my last one. But it was only cause of the circumstances

linka_pat307 · Answer

Just like how I have single since early last year up to now

Wise4myage · Answer

It took a few for me to get over a girl friend.

sweetart1 · Answer

Some helpful advice from a therapist of a friend… 1 month per year you were together. That gives you plenty of time to look back and reflect on why you are no longer in the relationship.

confusedandromantic · Answer

Depends why we broke up and how long we were together

noohair · Answer

after 26 years married, the divorce was like getting out of prison

Likes2drive · Answer

Not very, would comfortable after several months but I never get anyone for years

Hanrej · Answer

Next week. Though I can mourn the loss for years.

EmpressAJ · Answer

Depends on how long we’ve been together or if I mentally checked out before we broke up

Charliefretz329 · Answer

I take a long time of self reflection and distancing myself to move on

krin_m · Answer

As quickly as possible but there is no definitive answer.

YourToy69 · Answer

Serious relatioship: 2-3 years Fuck friend: 3 months

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