How do I move on from a relationship?

[fatcustard]

My friend suggested me some advise but i want to write here, how to move on from a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Don't force yourself into forgotten them. As much as the internet likes you to believe that you should do things that keep your mind of them, yes, true, but you should also allow yourself to remember and grief.


The first and only person I ever felt connected to, we met 7 years ago on vacation. We spend 4 days together, then I had to leave. We kept in contact for months, until I touched a wrong string and things started to fall apart. We still talked every once in a while, for half a year and then met again a year later at the same vacation resort. I wished him a happy birthday for 3 years, the only date I'd reach out to him, and after those 3 years, simply let it go. He didn't want to communicate any longer, and I was only holding onto a dead end.


Now, it's been 7 years and I still think of this guy every once in a while, mentally I still wish him a happy birthday. I've met amazing people over the years, but none came as close as this person. As long as that doesn't happen, you'll probably never fully move on.


All you can do is keep living your life. Do the things you enjoy, when you enjoy them. Go to work, meet up with friends, work out. Just don't force yourself to do things you wouldn't normally do, cause then you're doing them for the wrong reasons.
Take your time. You'll need that most.

[IslaTheWitch]

Make peace with your emotions.
Accept that you feel many different things, mostly negative (regret, grudge, sadness, ...)
Find yourself a distraction. The best is something you can't just omit, a kind of commitment.
Sport (tbh any physical activity) helps, but done on a regular basis helps even more.
Meet friends, invite someone, be between people you like, they will distract you.

[KrakenAttackin]

Delete them from your phone, from social media, and from your mind. Whenever a thought about that person pops into your head, force it out and replace it with something positive.

Stoicism is the key. "Fixation is the way to death, fluidity is the way to life".

[mobiusforniner]

You find self acceptance, develop yourself and move on. Every breakup has had some effect on shaping me into who I am today. When you can look back and smile because it happened, then you know you've bettered yourself and overcome.

[kitsachie]

It's going to take time brother, there's no set precedent for how long it will take but please cope in healthy ways. It depends on how long you were invested, how much you loved that person, the circumstances of the breakup etc.

What helped me after my last major breakup was surrounding myself with good friends, I moved to a different city, I started experimenting with therapy, I made myself my own best friend.

Learn from this breakup and take care of yourself.

[iwannaknowrn]

What i did was write down all the bad things he/she said to you.
When you think about them or want to text them, visit that list. You can also write down things u want to send that person then ball it up and throw it away. I dont know why y'all broke up but maybe its meant to be like that cause real love dont end. Go get laid , pick up shifts at work, go out with friends. Dont visit he/she social medias. Block block block

[petitedollbabee]

There’s no easy way. Time is the main thing. Learning to live life without that ex-partner gets easier over time, and eventually you won’t even think about them.

[Anonymous]

Pick up a new hobby eg gymming or martial arts
Hang out with friends more
Listen to sad music and wallow in your feelings for a bit
Write a journal
And most of all time

[Drumlin2001]

It takes time. Sleeping with someone else may help somethings, but the emotions can be difficult to move past, just takes time

[MissBoogus]

It will hurt at first. You’ll just need to get though it. Distract yourself. Invest in your hobbies, and one day, you’ll be able to look back without hurting.

[ryancg]

I don't know man, the last one, I put literally everything into and I still didn't get the girl.