How to increase your sexy energy?

[Anonymous]

Broke up with my ex because he made me feel undesirable and unattractive about a year ago and now 99% of dates I've been on have made me feel the same and it's making me feel like crap. To be clear the dates are being quite nice and respectful, which is lovely, but I also want to be a bit more sexualized rather than basically mum zoned.

[b-river]

I find a lot of people look for sex in others, before finding it themselves. If you want to be sexy to someone else, it would help to feel sexy in yourself.

Although you're a grown woman, and are probably comfortable with your body, it may help to start off from some basics.

Wearing different outfits and practicing taking pictures. Touching yourself in new ways, slowly teasing sensitive parts of your body other than the obvious places such as your back, thighs, and hips. Being bold and saying when you find someone attractive, and what you would like. And whatever else makes YOU feel sexy. Take time to explore that, maybe even take a casual fling, and get into that space.

Then, when you go on a date, just let yourself be how you are, let that beautiful sexual spirit inside out between you and your partner, a flash of skin as you move, a teasing foot along the table, a comment letting them know your intention.

When you feel good in yourself, and are excited by being able to share your body, and your sex, and let that energy flow out of you, it will be incredibly sexy and fulfilling.

Good luck! And have a good time 😘

[b-river]

Thanks for MHO! Hope it helped! 😍

[Danny_dan92]

If you don’t exercise, start there. Being physically fit and healthy increases libido

[brandon1122]

Have strong boundaries. And say no whenever needed. You don't have to look sexy while wearing anything explicit. Cause it will make you look slutty

[shortster]

How do you dress for these dates?

[Asker]

It varies on where the date is. Sometimes it's dresses, sometimes it's jeans and top, sometimes it has cleavage, sometimes I'm more coveted etc.

[shortster]

Dresses with a reasonable amount of cleavage is the best way to go.

[Asker]

Yeah that does make sense. Now that it's a bit warmer it should work a bit better.

[shortster]

I hope you find someone who appreciates you for you.

[In_Trance]

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