If you’re a guy... what are things girls do or SHOULD do that you find attractive or sexy? What are some things that attract or entice you?
If you’re a girl... give a fellow sister your top tips on how to BE sexy and what you have found has worked the most for you in terms of attracting a guy?
This could include a girls mannerisms, the way she talks, flirts, her style, the way she carries herself, her overall look etc.
Use touch selectively to entice an interested guy, and to clue him in to your flirtation.
Speaking of which-- FLIRT!
Dress like a slut in the bedroom, and a lady in public. Show enough skin to entice, but not so much that the mystery box is opened too soon.
Wear soft/ silky/ delicate fabrics. Clothing should be cut in a way that accentuates your feminine features (assuming you HAVE those features-- if for example, you have a bit of a beer belly, don't go wearing high-crop tops that expose your belly, thinking it's "empowering". It's not, it's just off-putting and trashy.
Highlight your best features, and build your "look" around them. If you have a winning smile, then maybe wear clothes and makeup that draw the eyeline to your lips and eyes and face overall (since the whole face is involved in a smile, not just the mouth). If you have a nice svelte hourglass figure, consider an elegant evening dress that cuts low and tapers down the back to draw the eyes towards those lovely curves and hips. You get the idea.
This also implies confidence, coz it tells us you know what your best assets are, and are comfortable highlighting them without going overboard and trashy/ whore-ish. (The whore-ish look is fine if you want a very "particular" type of male attention, but don't be surprised when he doesn't wanna stick around for breakfast the next morning).
Then we get onto the "attitude"-- the way you carry yourself.
Laugh easily. Smile. Be grateful and positive about your life.
Build people up-- don't tear them down.
Don't try to one-up men at every opportunity-- if we wanted a competition, we'd hang out with other dudes.
That said, if there's a particular hobby you enjoy that brings out your competitive side, then that can be a surprise and a nice change of pace. For example, you might be a gamer girl who places in Platinum rankings on Street Fighter V. If so, show him you can kick ass in that domain, but then let him be the "big helpful man" by teaching you something about a hobby of his own.
Be open to new experience. Be curious-- about the world, about people, about the guy you're into, etc.
Be kind and courteous. "Bad bitches" are only enticing for the novelty value. Men may wanna "challenge" ourselves to bring a bad bitch under our reigns. But we don't view them as truly sexy compared to a "real woman".
Don't be a feminazi.
Don't hate men.
Don't hate other women.
Don't hate yourself.
Don't spread gossip about his guy friends. Don't poke your nose where it's not wanted. Respect space and privacy and be okay with comfortable silence sometimes. Initiate conversation, don't make him do all the heavy lifting. Be interesting to talk to, have an opinion about things, but don't be hard-headed and stubborn about proving you're "right". It should feel like "spirited, playful, and witty repartee", not "beating him over the head with your opinion until his skull caves in".
And the last tip to being sexy: be SEXUAL.
Enjoy sex.
Know what you like-- or at least, have an idea of things you'd like to try.
Communicate your desires.
Tell us exactly how you like to be pleasured and turned on. It's great recon for the guy, and he'll get bone-hard just from your descriptions.
Use your soft, feminine voice to lull, or seduce, or charm, or enrapture, or tease, or play... according to the desired mood of the moment.
Your eyes are like "boobs for your face"-- so use them! Long, lilting eye contact... a shy little submissive glance when you wanna bring out his masculine sexual presence more. I really can't understate how much eyes have to do with the overall impression of "sexy"-- they speak an entire language of their own. I feel for the girls cursed with resting bitch face syndrome... but honestly? Just find a way to get over it. Maybe not when you're on a rush hour train coming home from a 12 hour work shift. But if you're meeting up with a guy you like, then you should WANT to bring your A game ri
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I'm just going to say here that most female responders don't seem to understand what is attractive to men. They seem to think that the things they find attractive and sex in a man are the same things men like as well. Men and women are different and we like different things.
Many have said confidence and while that is good it is far from the most important thing. Femininity is most important, and by femininity I'm talking about personality, attitude and behavior, not looks. If you are feminine, men will find you attractive and sexy. That is far more important that confidence.
Just be feminine and let the man do nice things for you. Smell nice and put yourself together nicely. Just be a soft woman who wants nothing much than to be held and adored. Let him be the man and he will find it very attractive.
How to look sexy: - Have a feminine look. That means dressing feminine, wearing some makeup, doing your nails and have long hair. With makeup I don't mean you've to cake on the full package. Some mascara and lip gloss does a lot. Doing your brows also gives you a feminine look.
- Dress in a way, so the colors and clothing items match. Guys likes when an outfit is nicely put together and knowing how to do it is seen as a feminine trait.
- Take care of your skin, hair and body. Keeping yourself in shape, moisturizing and using conditioner makes you look better.
- If you goes to a formal restaurant on a date, formal wears would look sexier than casual ones. Many men likes long boots, dresses showing your arms and some skin. If you can see the necklace or jewelry you're wearing around you neck with some skin around, then it's good.
- In a bedroom lingerie is a turn on.
How to act sexy: - Having a high and feminine voice. Avoiding smoking is a good way to keep a youthful and feminine voice for a longer time.
- Speaking in a feminine way. That means not using slang, swearing too much or speaking ghetto or AAVE. A standardized or neutral dialect would be more feminine than the ghetto one.
- Be flirtatious, playful and touchy if you're on a date. Playing a bit with your hair is good.
- Be kind, polite, respectful and have some confidence.
You know what I find striking. I have never seen a guy ask how he can be sexy on this site. Not even once.
I think most guys just do themselves how they want and not give a shit, and the ones that do cater to girls' preferences end up most successful leveraging the fact that most guys DGAF.
It's really bizarre, but what I see is thst it's always guys who care a lot about how other people percieve them that end up with girls who equally care how men percieve them. It really makes a person think.
Some guys like bimbos. So some women pretend to be retarded. But then other guys (like me) think bimbos are a joke. Although oddly, I still find Marlyn Monroe sexy in her movies but I wouldn’t date her type or do anything she wanted.
There’s two kinds of sexy: physical & personality. Most women only have the first type as it’s easy to get. But as you get older your looks will fade and the second type better be something you bothered to develop along the way!
I guess the simplest way to be sexy is to be feminine which means not being a feminist & not acting masculine. From my pov anyhow. Guys who have been brainwashed to think like women would disagree.
And yeah, to be the cream of the crop you want your hair to be perfect like 95% of the time or more. You want to wear heels/platforms & not make excuses about how flip flops should look good to men. You want to be FIT & not a lazy slob. You want to learn how to wear clothes that show your curves without looking like you’re desperate for attention. Sure, you’ll get attention just like street hookers if you just show everything but the middle ground is best if you want to head down the road of being a classy lady
I think in terms behavioural characteristics being aware and comfortable with yourself in every situation, it intrigues guys when they think they can’t effect you. Try to not get flustered and shy but but be in control and drop flirty hints.
I think the only way you can be sexy is if you feel sexy. You have to feel it for yourself, sway your hips when you walk, invest in a signature perfume so that every time that guy smells that scent he subconsciously knows it’s you. Smile at him. Make him aware of your presence without doing anything is the key.
This is exactly it. If you feel it, it comes across and is extreme attractive. Some lady did this to me at the hair salon the other day, the hip sway with the subtle side glance and smile... Omg
What! That's not a question. If that is then I would say no one can ever become sexy by being what others tell him/ her to be. You should have confidence in yourself. You are sexy for me. Just believe in yourself. If you have even a slightest of doubt then the real problem is your doubt. Your entire charm falls down when you have doubts about yourself. Just be yourself. Even if you get a figure of a model and still have any doubt then you'll just get to see lust. There are more then a million ways any girl could be sexy. Now the probability is you have at least a 100 out of the million. Just try to find out what's that in your daily routine that fascinates others the most. Other then that you can say the asker will find the answer himself.
This is so true. I allowed myself to lose control of myself over the years getting married kids got comfortable hated myself everything about me grossed me out. So I made a change lost the weight started being more social laughing more and each day i felt better and now even as a thick woman I feel so sexy in my skin and love me.
Love yourself and do whatever you need to feel confident! Wear your favourite clothes, make sure you're comfortable. If you have a tight red dress that looks hot but itches all over and makes you feel naked, or you have jeans and a t shirt that make you feel confident and happy, the second option will make you more attractive. Because your attitude is your best accessory.
First thing be you what you are, and rest use light makeup which gives glow to your face, wear attractive clothes like skirts, shorts, dress in which you look great and make guys jaw dropping, wear what suits you, carry yourself in a beautiful way. I think this all will help you
Don't be afraid to dress feminine (dresses, skirts, that sort of thing), and do cute things like twirl your hair. Also, I really love it when a woman is kinda flashy/showy, but is also a little bit understated about it. Like she wears something that really shows off her chest nicely, but you can tell through her demeanor that even though she knows she looks good; that wasn't really her goal, she just wanted to be comfortable, or artsy, or classy, or whatever else.
I like it when a girl has good intentions towards people. i like it when she tries to help other women. I don't like emotional girls though. I like them curious and ambitions, submissive too. There is this thing that turns me on is when a girl does that sound with her mouth like she hate somthing spicy and gives you that look like you're a bad boy! 🤣 anyways if you want an advise i'm here.
If you're not sure about your hair and makeup get some help. Same for wardrobe. And develop your social skills - for love can't start 'till attraction does, and then there needs to be a conversation.
Trying to be something you're not is a sure-fire way to convey fakeness. Just be real.
I want to say it’s NOT true heavier women are not attractive. Ugly isn’t yes but chubby girls can be very cute in my opinion. Sexy is in the eyes of the individual tbh- what I find attractive another guy might not. Everyone’s tastes are so different.
For guys- look like a model- I lost facial fat and it made my jaw more defined and my cheeks chiseled and my nose smaller I think, and I’ve been told I could model
Hm... I'll just say confidence and to be yourself. I've never tried to purposely be "sexy" before. I mostly aim for "cute" and people call it "sexy". So meh. Be yourself ladies and wear what makes you comfortable and confident.
Wearing ragged shorts... Which implies are just about ready to fall off... Loose-fitting shirt not tucked in in the front... Which allows the breast just swing the shirt out from the pants just a little... Play with your hair in front of a guy... Rub the guy's back very erotic... Rub your hands through a guy's hair... What's your foot rub a guy's foot under the table... Suck on a banana...
Confidence sis. Confidence makes you sexy. If you feel good in your own skin no matter how you do it. Makeup, nice clothes, spa etc. Feel good about yourself
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Anonymous
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Most of them love boobs and butt. It can lead to instant boners especially if combined with some cleavage show. Highlight your best facial feature whether it's eyes or lips. Wear clothes that fit well or show some skin (if you're okay with that). I also feel like guys don't find innocent girls sexy. They find sassy girls sexy.
You dont. Sexy is the least part to look for in a person. Just be cute. And if someone finds you cute, you will be sexy. In the end, if you have a good heart, you become beautiful
Smooth hair, natural colors no rainbow shit, smooth skin, carpets match the drapes, no body hair, female clothing skirts dresses etc, polite and shy demeanor, thongs, crotchless panties, push-up water bras, or high beams.
For guys. Confidence. Looks dont matter if you're confident in who you are. I love that ish 💦💜 and also guys that are heavily ripped and all never really struck my interest that much but guys who made me laugh literally stole my heart ♥️
Unironically just be yourself. Dress modestly, not like a slut. dont make yourself easy.. have self respect basically. That's all there is to it, aside from sharing interests and whatnot.
Be confident, honest, direct, and good hygiene. Makeup and clothes is important too, but I would prefer being healthy and fit overall. A smile wouldn't hurt
I like an air of mystery, give me something to think about. I like the innocence vibe, i love a laugh, someone who doesn't think their gods gift, humility!. Manners a must!
For me, if a girl is sitting with me and starts rubbing my abs, whispering in my ear "I want to be naughty tonight." That would def get me in the mood. 👍
What you are wearing got our attention first. It should match your personality. After that bold attitude and confidence. Girl who look into your eyes and have cute smile are sexy for me.
The dance club I go to, is a nice club, and one girl showed up once with basically her entire body hanging out of her dress. They told her it's not that type of "sexy" here
Depends on the club. The strip club I go to, is called a gentleman's club. While they do wear pretty revealing stuff, it's nothing like what the girl was wearing, some strip clubs, would have allowed her to wear what she was wearing
Be intelligent and have an opinion, look you in the eyes, give sweet kisses, have manly hands, wear boxer briefs and have a functional body if you know what I’m saying
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