Why do guys come back around when they can see you’re with someone?

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Context: this dude would go hard and ghost me for months at a time until I put a stop to it and told him I didn’t want any further communication with him. It used to go on for almost 2 years and he’d promise all these things to me but never delivered just would pop in and out. Now I’m happy in my relationship I post about it all the time, I love my man and then last night this dude literally messages “Hey” like I’m going to respond. A lot of balls on his part. I’m just wondering if I was dealing with someone who was mentally deranged or something.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's difficult to know for sure why this person is reaching out to you now, but it's possible that they may be feeling regret or nostalgia for the past relationship, or they may be seeking validation or attention. It's important to remember that you have the right to set boundaries and prioritize your own well-being, and to communicate your boundaries clearly and assertively if this person is not respecting your wishes.

It's also important to remember that you are not responsible for this person's behavior or emotions, and that you have the right to choose who you want to engage with in your life. If this person's behavior is causing you stress or discomfort, it may be helpful to limit or cut off contact, and to focus on nurturing your current relationship and other positive relationships in your life.

If you are feeling overwhelmed or conflicted about how to handle the situation, it may be helpful to seek support from a trusted friend, family member, or mental health professional.

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

Even if you’re over your ex, are you truly looking forward to seeing them with someone else?  The way i was wronged, i dont even feel those bastards deserve someone else. Lmao. So i feel like exes pop up just to see if they can still get your attention. They don’t even want you. They just don’t want anyone else to have you