What are some advantages of financially becoming independent before marriage vs after marriage?

[Anonymous]

[BCA6010]

In my opinion, and I'll caveat this to say it's a complete reversal of what I would've said a few years ago, it's better for women to prioritize starting the family first, and focus on the career second. That way, they don't have to cut their aspirations short midway through the career and potentially have to start over, plus pregnancies at younger ages tend to go smoother. This is not to say that you shouldn't pursue independent financial stability anyway in the meantime, nor is it a recommendation to marry the first guy you fall for, but you should have your priorities straight and not waste your time with people who aren't likely to be good marriage material if that's your intent in the first place.

For men, we have every practical reason to need to establish not just financial independence, but the ability to care for a woman and children when we want a family early. This frequently means postponing that dream car, fancy house, expensive hobbies, and whatever else we convince ourselves we need first, especially as a lot of those things become increasingly difficult to do on a single income salary. I've seen this countless times and even wrecked a relationship delaying major decisions just because "the timing isn't right" (career stability) and in hindsight was completely unnecessary; if you keep looking for the planets to align first, there will never be a "right time" until it's too late.

[Asker]

I absolutely agree with your opinion

[Adam1978]

None, if you want to be financially independent you don't marry. Because that is how you lose money if you actually are the bread winner.

[Nikki1989]

It is a good plan to have money and a career before worrying about marriage.

[007kingifrit]

it is financially illiterate to try and save money when single (not that you should spend it either) everything costs 2x as much, your rent, food prices etc are all higher

[shades777]

From a woman perspective you marry for love and not for what a man has, absolutely nothing changes from the man's perspective because he is not looking for a womsn for her resources