Giving Out Your Digits: Ladies, which would you choose and why, giving out your number vs. a guy offering you his?

[Anonymous]

Ladies, which would you choose and why: Giving out your number vs. a guy offering you his. If he does give you his, without asking for yours, would you contact him?
Guys, would you put the ball in her court by just giving out yours; taking the pressure off of her so she feels better, should she choose not to give hers to you?

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True. But if a woman gets hurt enough times, you must find ways to find out when you do start feeling a connection. Some guys start out ok, but it ends up like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. Better to find out as soon as you can.

[catiecatie]

If I find the guy cute I’d guess I’d shoot my shot. I mean I got nothing to lose. Like tomorrow I already have this guys number. Isn’t a big texter but we give each other shit and match each others energy. I just need to pass this test and then I will ask him out. It was weird went I was setting up a time with him he literally said “I can either do Saturday or Sunday at 4:00!” So I just said “okay let’s plan for Sunday at 4.” Then he goes “Roger that!” I don't know if he was excited or what but it kinda came off as excited to me. Tell me if I’m wrong but I don't know, he even did apologize for not answering me back until several hours later.

[Asker]

Sounds like it is starting out great.

It is good he apologized.

He is definitely into you.

Hope it continues to go well.

[Asker]

Oh, love your profile pic. I lady not afraid to get muddy.

[catiecatie]

Thanks I hope it does too. And thanks for the e compliment on the picture that means a lot. But just for the record I’m not doing the test to impress him, I’m doing it so I can be closer with my grandpa that passed. He had his people and I want to get it to again feel closer to him. The guy that I like and that you say likes me just happened to be the teacher I picked.

[itsalyssaagain]

I take his because I’m a lady.

[Asker]

Ok, would you call him though?

[itsalyssaagain]

I’d text him yeah

[Asker]

Good. Would you shit test him?

[itsalyssaagain]

What’s that? Lol

[Asker]

I had to research it myself.

It is done out of self preservation.

Women have more options when it comes to attracting the opposite sex.

Say you are at a club/bar or anywhere casual and you find that after you leave you have given out your number to three guys. A forth guy gives you his.

Who are you going to be most attracted to? Who stands out?

Or let’s say the three guys that you gave your number to were 8 out of 10 on an attraction scale but when you told one you had a boyfriend, when you don’t, and you noticed he was getting a little uneasy talking to you. But after sometime he builds the courage to ask for your number. And the same for the other two guys, only they got a bit rattled when you made fun of a shirt or haircut or shoes they were sporting.

Then that forth guy comes up to you, he is a 5 out of 10, and starts chatting you up. So you pull the same routine on him, only he ignores your comments or laughs off one of those comments.
He then smiles, says he has to meet up with his buddy and decides to write his number down on a napkin and ask you to call him when you are ready.

Of the four men, who is the more confident, and would make you feel the safest to date? And isn’t so desperate to move past a simple text or phone call.

Or worse, you start dating a few times and one of the first three turn out to me emotionally unstable.

Are you going to feel as though you wasted time for picking the wrong dude?

Shit testing works.

[itsalyssaagain]

Never have I been approached by that many guys in one day lol

[Asker]

Just examples of shit testing. It could be just one guy it could be fifty. I hope you can see the reasoning.

[itsalyssaagain]

It’s hard to say. It really depends. We all, men and women, naturally just connect with some people more than others. So it depends on that.