When guys give their number instead of taking yours?

[kemz786]

I was on my way to university and this guy sitting across kept checking me out which slowly moved onto touching my leg with his (creepy I know right!) Anyway he finally got the guts to initiate a conversation and then gave me his number before getting of at his station. I told my friend and we were laughing about it and she said that fact that he gave me his number instead of asking for mine meant he probably thought he had no chance with me and that if he had asked my number I would've said no. Needless to say I deleted that guys number as soon as he gave it to me as I wasn't interest but thought it would be rude to not take his number. So is my friend right in saying when a guy gives you his number instead of asking for yours does that mean he doesn't have much confident and assumes you would reject giving him your number?

[SomeGuy37]

Don't judge all guys by your experience with this one! I give my number to a few, sometimes, liking them, but wanting them to be 'EQUALS' if they feel something!! I WANT them to call me, and say that they want to get together, like an 'EQUAL'!!
Why shouldn't a woman be able to call a guy, and say, 'hey, I want to get together?'
Why do guys always have to initiate, and call? Why can't a woman call a guy she likes, having gotten his number?
I LOVE when women are assertive enough, and act like they say they want: Equality!!

[HandsomeRaj]

1. THAT was the reason why he gave you the number than asking for yours
2. For one it avoided rejection by your refusal - does good for the ego / pride & self respect
3. It's chivalrous to give the lady a choice whether to call or not and also thereby telling her that he likes her
4. In case of a guy like me it's point 3 and not anything about confidence
5. If he lacked confidence in totality he'd never have apporached you :-)

[HandsomeRaj]

typo... approached

[Stacyzee]

Some guys like to see if they are mutually liked.

He already approached you and broke the ice.
Now it's your turn to show if you like him back.
He's leaving the ball in your court.

Some guys like to save themselves the hassle.
When they actually do get a girls number, she may never answer or get back to him.
He was testing your interest level.

[kep79]

I gave my e-mail to a woman that wanted my number and she only e-mailed me after I e-mailed first. Was it wrong?

[Anonymous]

I think its an ego thing to be honest. Whether its a fear of rejection or just a way to see if a girl will actually call, whatever it is, its ego-driven. Besides if he really wanted to talk to you, I don't think he would risk it by putting the ball in your court.

[RationalLioness]

Lol. It may be that he wants you to call him instead of facing rejection. But every guy who has done that to me, I have never called.

I'm not going to call/text you first.

[HazelEyez1224]

I recently gave a woman my number. I did it for a few reasons. 1. Yes, i wasn't confident enough to ask her for hers. Cause, i was afraid of rejection. But couldn't the same thing be said: for when a woman gives their number to a guy. I dont see what i did as a bad thing. Before, i gave her my number. I had thoughts running through my mind. For instance... what if she rejects the number. What if she said she had a boyfriend. Or she wasn't interested in me like that. Me asking for her number. Or me giving her mine. Could have both ended in her saying no. So again i dont see me giving her my number as a bad thing. Men can be creeps. Women can be stalkers. Men and women can be both. So by me giving her my number. 2. I put her in control. I wanted her to feel safe and comfortable. To let her know that she could text or call. When and if she wanted to. If you dont then no harm done. To me the whole thing where men have to make the first move. Men have to be in control. Men have to initiate everything. Is well no different then women have to do the cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kids. A hot meal ready on the table. While men work, to provide. We all want equality. Women want to be seen as equals. Men want women to initiate. Giving or getting a phone number. Should be a 50/50 thing. Just like a relationship is. As well as providing for a family, and taking care of things around the house. 3. I gave her my number. As my way of knowing if she was interested in me or not. If she didn't text or call. Then she wasn't. But if she did then great. Which by the way she did. Id rather have put myself on the spot. By giving her my number. Then making her feel pressured. I've gotten numbers before. And never sent a text or call. Cause simply, i wasn't interested. If the woman i gave my number to. didn't text or call. Yea i would have been bummed. But hey at least i tried right. I put myself out there. I made myself vulnerable. Just cause a man or woman. Gives out their number. doesn't mean that they dont have any confidence. To me... they were confident enough to give something personal. Knowing they may or may not. Receive a text or call. This topic can be perceived in many different ways. With many different thoughts and opinions. These are just my thoughts and opinions on the matter.

[HazelEyez1224]

4. Oh and i didn't give her my number for or as an ego type of thing. I did it as my way of saying: " i like you " here's my number. Or " i am interested in you ". Ego never even crossed my mind. The only thing on my mind, was her. And that i wanted to get to know her better... As well as the hope that things would go great. That things between her and i. Would only progress for the better.

At first... i was nervous and scared. To give her my number. Cause, of the thoughts of her not liking me back. So i hesitated for a bit. But then i just kept telling myself. That i just need walk up to her. And give her my number. That i just needed to take a chance. To just try and see how things went. To put myself out there. The best thing a person can do. Is to try!!!

[Anonymous]

" So is my friend right in saying when a guy gives you his number instead of asking for yours does that mean he doesn't have much confident and assumes you would reject giving him your number? "

Yes, she's most likely correct. When a guy gives you his number, he's putting the onus on you making the call to show your interest. Asking for your digits gives you the chance to say no, but he couldn't face the rejection there and then. He'd rather delay the potential rejection and spread it out over several days where you don't call.

[Nicetouchguy]

I can't believe that you weren't creeped-out by this guy touching you before making conversation for a while. I would've walked away;and, I would never have given him my number - it's good that you didn't. Any guy who right-out touches a strange woman definitely doesn't lack confidence. You apparently need to use much better judgement in interacting with strange men.

[kheserthorpe]

No, I don't think that's why.

It used to be guys always asked for girl's numbers. I think there's been some flipping to providing because of a recognition that girls may feel safer having his phone number than vice versa.

[Prof_Don]

I wouldn't assume it's lack of confidence... you'll be surprised how many girls lie, or give a phony #, when he asks for her number.

All the deceit is irritating... so I understand where he is coming from.

However I like asking for hers, because it give ME the power of initiating communication (pending the # is real). I like being on offense. :)

[zagor]

Didn't think he had a chance? OK, the leg touching thing is kind of creepy, but he was being NICE by giving you his number - he probably thought you would feel insecure giving your number to a stranger (and you should) so he was giving you the option of seeing him again if you wanted without leaving yourself vulnerable by giving out your personal info.

[meatballs21]

He mistakenly thinks it's 'alpha' to give you his number knowing you probably won't call... and he knows that you know that too. So he's like "yeah, I'm that cool, I don't even care if a chick calls me" and hopes that's confident and intriguing enough that you do call.

[YeaNo]

The thing is, by approaching a woman a man says he likes you. When a man asks for your number, he has to call you. However what do women do to show that they like the guy back? What effort do they put into the relationship? If a guy has to do all the work, how does he know she even cares?

[MMonsie]

Absolutely right, he's hoping that you will show some form of interest if you text him first because like you said he's not confident enough to ask for yours so yeah good plan dropping his number but I'm amazed the leg touch didn't get you ;)

[Debara]

Somehow, I feel like he insulting me. He expect me to call him. Why don't they just call me. And I don't wanna run after guy. If he like me he suppose to call me. I would call if I need friends with benefits .

[kimmythebomb]

it could be that or that he wants yo to feel comfortable. so he doesn't persist on TAKING your number but GIVING it. I would love if guys gave me their num ber because I have to come up with a lie.

[JLTresp]

I usually get to know a girl some and then after a little while i ask for her number. I've never just up and given my number like that. I kinda think that's a girl thing. They've given me their number not knowing me at all, and i take that as a great compliment

[crazyincalifornia]

I asked my guy about this.
He said some guys do it that way so as not to freak the girls out by asking for her number.
That way does seem a bit less invasive.

[YourFutureEx]

"if he had asked my number I would've said no."
That's the reason he didn't asked for your number. It is easier to give your number than asking for others'.

[Bubbles123X]

Wow. They give out their number to avoid rejection, but they get rejected (by me, anyway) if they give me their number.

[WesTheGuru]

I've never thought about it that way honestly. But I always do ask for hers when we exchange. It's not a one way thing

[heavensgift2girls]

I would assume that your friend is right. This way he doesn't get rejected directly. He just doesn't get called back.

[Koji8123]

No idea. Never done that. Maybe? Least the creep had the courage to start a convo. Half the people in GAG can't seem to even do that.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Either not enough confidence, or he wants you to do all the work.

[Your_boss]

Call him a few days later
And say
U had to make time in your busy schedule
But u found time

[dudeman]

It means if she gives a shit she will call if not whatever

[jwhit]

I think he already knew you would reject him and hoped you would contact him. If you don't leave with the girls number then you didn't make a great impression and she therefore isn't interested.

[JustinX9]

he is just confident... but the touching your leg is a total creep

[genericname85]

if they want you to decide if you want to meet up with him or not :P

[Knightcastle]

That's not why he gave you his number. Guys give out their numbers and if they get a text from the girl that let's them know they're interested.

[GoldCobra]

I disagree, I think giving a girl a number is actually a smart way to see if she is interested enough in the guy to text him first.

[Ezequiel]

If i give my number, is because i want her to talk me. If she talks me is because she is interested and that makes all easyer for the guy. If she doesn't you never lose time whit her.

[Anonymous]

well lets be rational. that was just an ungrounded biased hypothesis of your friend. we can't really be sure why he did it.

[hapyshiny]

He's not willing to take the initiative