Are introverted guys just fucked when it comes to finding a girlfriend?

[red324]

Quiet guys etc who aren't necessarily going to approach a girl or put themselves out in a social situation.

[Sharkstealth]

Ya know social media and dating sites contradict that because it really doesn't matter when speaking online. Online is more of a fantasy world than real life so a guy would not be as inhibited. Last night I decided to go to a bar for the first time in quite a while. I am not a drinker and hate drunk people but I was advised to try a bar by women on here because I have had a dry spell In the sexual area lately. I watched a guy basically stalk a girl all night in order to get in her pants. She was drunk and obviously not his girlfriend because she used friends to distract him momentarily. He relentlessly always came back and shadowed her. It was clear there was annoyance but it made her unapproachable. The funny thing is other women looked at him with lust because of it but they were probably also drunk. I travelled to 2 different bars before settling on this one because the other bars were a sausage fest and would have inhibited my intentions. There is a serious decline in my area of women who go to bars now. Is this what women want because it seemed so?

[red324]

They probably thought he was her girlfriend or he knew those girls. Everyone wants what they can't have. I went to a bar with a girl and her friend once because we just started seeing each other. As soon as inwent to the bar to get drinks a girl walked up and started chatting me up not 5 feet away from my table. I told her I was with the girl behind me so she would leave me alone. I should have went back over to her table instead lol

[Rockstarrrrr]

No, they're not fked... If you don't approach girls... Girls can still approach you lol...

[Anonymous]

Harder, but you'll probably find your girl from a friendship morphing into a relationship rather than going out to bars and clubs and such, and that's fine. That's how my past relationship started. That's how all of my friends' relationships started.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Thats also the only way to start it that doesn't end in breaking up.

[red324]

@TheSpaceGnome maybe. I always go straight for dating them.

[red324]

They don't ever want to be friends, but I guess that's because I tried to date them first. At the same time I don't want to be their texting buddy where we don't ever hang out

[TheSpaceGnome]

I only date women who share my hobbies and interests, so it's automatically friends first.

[mandyfire98]

It's definitely going to make it sooooo much harder for them.

[red324]

That and introverts are kind of guarded in the beginning, so they kind of hide their personalities at first.

[mandyfire98]

That's definitely true. Hard to see the confidence as well and confidence is important.

[red324]

That's one thing I noticed too. Girls don't really give a guy much time to prove himself. One date and that's about it. After that, she's on to the next guy it seems. Just because a guy isn't the life of the party and maybe a little more cautious than most doesn't mean he isn't confident.

[mandyfire98]

You don't have to be the life of the party to show confidence. If you are naturally confident then it'll show. It's in how you walk, your body language, how you talk, eye contact, things you say.

[red324]

True. I can sit at a bar and a curious girl will usually come up and ask why I'm their alone. Lol

[Nikki1989]

It does make things so much harder for them.

[Anonymous]

You have to get out of your Comfort Zone

[dudeinohio]

Nope