I told my boyfriend that sex is only good if I feel an emotional connection too, he said it’s the opposite for him. What did he mean by that?

[Hello4242]

He said he feels the opposite.. which would mean sex is better without an emotional connection?

[RespectfulGuy]

That he fears to love and commits. That he only want to be (unspoken) friends with benefits with you. That in a long term, you'll be broken and then become like him.

[Hello4242]

Well we’re in a relationship and he wants to marry me so I don’t think that’s the issue

[bowenw]

It sounds like he prefers to not have an emotional connection.

[Hello4242]

That sec is better without it? That’s fucked up

[bowenw]

It does sound messed up. You may want to ask him what exactly he meant when he said, "It's the opposite for him."

[LazerBean]

It'll means he's extremely damaged

[Hello4242]

How?

[LazerBean]

His ability to bond is ruined and he will never succeed in being in a permanent relationship.

[Hello4242]

He was cheated on twice so this could be why. But you think this means he can’t ever succeed in a a long term relationship? I wouldn’t say that’s fair

[LazerBean]

The chance are so slim that it's very fair. I'd never waste my time on someone like that.