Do you think sex brings you emotionally closer to your girlfriend/boyfriend?

Question

A lot of people say sex brings you closer to your partner , boyfriend or girlfriend emotionally and physically speaking, Do you think its true? or sex is just sex and that's it?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I thought it would. Until we had sex. They say boys use sex to make girls fall in love or that girls catch feelings from sex but it wasn't that way with us. If anything, he caught feelings. And I lost them.

Maybe I wasn't prepared emotionally. Maybe I wasn't ready physically. I was head over heels in love with him when we decided to take that step. I was a willing participant. But I did not feel closer to him afterwards. I felt much farther away from him. I could tell it made him feel closer to me but I was distanced from him. I shut down and shut him out for a very long time and it took us a good year to get back to where we were pre-sex. And it hurt him that I had responded so negatively to it. It was not my intention to respond that way.

I realized in the middle of it that I was not ready but at that time it was too late. Sex is going to be tainted for me for a long time - if not forever - because of that.

But I guess, if both parties are actually ready... yes, it'll bring you closer.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It depends.
Sometimes I can have sex with my boyfriend and it just normal im-horny-so-i-want-to-fuck-you sex. It barely feels emotional.
Other times our sex is passionate, and deep. Sometimes It gets emotional because you realise in that moment how much you truly fucking adore this person. It usually happens if we haven't seen eachother in awhile or we had been talking about something deep before hand. Sometimes your partner will do something that will make you want to make love to them, not fuck. As my boyfriend calls it: sometimes I give him a 'love boner' not because his horny like other times but because he loves me so much and its from happiness of being close to one another. Id say those times are the times we feel emotionally connected the most. These dont happen every time we have sex, id say about 30 percent of the time its really intense. The other 70 percent of the time is just 'sex' lol if that makes sense?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes!

It feels so intimate and especially at the beginning. Then afterwards when you cuddle, I just get a lovey-dovey satisfied feeling.

And I don't believe in that "yes for women, no for men" bullsh*t. I was talking about favourite positions with my boyfriend and I said that him on top is my favourite because it just feels more intimate and closer (compared to doggy, even though that one feels good). He agreed and said that he enjoys doggy but likes to lean in every so often to kiss me so it still feels intimate and not like I'm just being used or something. Since he doesn't get to look me in the eyes or kiss me like he can with him on top.

MistiGal · Accepted Answer

Definitely! When you share yourself yourself with your man that you are in love with, the energy between the two is so much stronger and when you both know how to please each other you give yourself completely. This is what bonding does between the two. A mans cock is wired to his heart if he is in love with you, there's nothing better than sharing yourself with some with whom you have an incredible connection with... that's where orgasims come easily... especially when your man wants to please you...
casual sex is just as it states... nothing but casual sex...

mostwomenshouldstfu · Accepted Answer

You'd be naive to think otherwise. Sex is too safe nowadays with all the reassurances and safety nets. There's still risk, but far less than what our ancestors faced. Thus, the emotional connection isn't as strong that was once needed to overcome the fear.

Frankly, guys sitting on their a** playing video games after coming home from work while withholding sex are doing more to keep the relationship alive than a guy who waits on hand and foot to please a girl. A lot of you aren't that damn interesting, which is why I believe in educating you and bringing up to our level. NOT by stepping down to yours. Our attention is just as precious as yours.

sawno · Accepted Answer

Depends on the sex. Its certainly true if you have sex that is not limited to the physical level but includes the emotional level to. Imagine having sex with your partner and there is a moment where you two are eye fucking by staring in each others eyes, occationally kissing passionately and really expressing how much you love each other. In moments like that its not the physical actions but the emotional connection that is causing it to become stronger. It is the reason why i could never be completely satisfied with one night stands, it misses an entire layer of depth.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

For people who want a relationship, sex can make you feel closer to your partner. If you just want to get laid, having sex is just having sex. So. . . every guy who wants to have sex with you is NOT just wanting to get laid; some of them want to feel emotionally closer!

ak666 · Answer

I've found most of the time it sort of drifted us apart. At least it drifted me apart. I started to lose interest after having sex and some of the excitement started to diminish of seeing the girl, eventually leading towards boredom, lack of passion, and break-up.

With two women it had the opposite effect. I did, indeed, feel like the experience made us closer than ever, and I began to miss them constantly afterwards. I married the second one who had that effect on me.

godfatherfan · Answer

Both are true.
Sex can be an expression of love. There is no doubt it is vital in any relationship to bring you both physically and emotionally closer.
but it can also be just fun.
It is not the ultimate sacred act that virgin women want to make it out to be.

cth96190 · Answer

For me, the answer is yes.
I am not interested in sex with a woman for whom I do not feel a connection. The stronger the connection, the better that the sex is for me.
When I was much younger I fucked women when it was offered to me.
I also made love to women about whom I cared.
The difference was so great, that I lost interest in having sex for its own sake.
That is one of the reasons why I have not touched a woman for 15 years, even though I have had more than a few offers.

TheFifthBeatle1965 · Answer

I think it does sometimes, but not to the extent that many people seem to think. You have to already be close for it to bring you closer in my opinion.

vishna · Answer

Yes, it really does. There are specific moments, one in particular, where I remember feelings so close to him, he was so tender, it was like we were the only people in the world, and I was so content. Moments like that bring people closer.

madhatters4 · Answer

for me i think it does. i've only had one casual sex relationship but even in that having sex did increase my emotional connection wtih the person, to the extent that i did have a greater concern for them than i did before having sex with them

RJGraveyTrain · Answer

I mean if I let you see me naked, and touch me, you're the only person able to see me and experience me on that level of vulnerability so it's pretty damn special and connecting to me personally.

AleDeEurope · Answer

If you have feelings for someone, then yeah, sex will bring you closer.  If there's no feelings, sex won't bring you closer to them.

SirRexington · Answer

It's why friends with benefits doesn't work often times. Emotional attachment kicks in.

kaylaS91 · Answer

Not really.
I mean... it does, granted that you already feel close, emotionally speaking, beforehand. If you drift apart and don't feel the same anymore, sex won't be able to magically restore those severed ties.

NyomiMcClinton · Answer

Sometimes it can, but if the person is being selfish during sex like hurrying to bust his nut and not wanting to please or do any foreplay then that definitely will not make me feel closer to him.

akadatank44 · Answer

To an extent. If you both have feelings for each other. Yes it can bring you much closer as as couple. However I think people, often women, think oh if sex brings us closer than I can keep a man/ make him stay with sex/kids Thats not true.

Sapioit · Answer

Unless you're with someone only for sex, I'd say yes, it brings you two closer, but you have to be close enough in the first place, to get to that part..

MarkRet · Answer

Yes, it does. Sex gives a couple a physical way to be as close as they are to each other emotionally.

MargaritaPeach · Answer

Maybe. If the sex is really good, it might make the bond stronger. But it also depends heavily on whether or not both of you are equally attracted to each other.

ambertaylor · Answer

Depends what both people are looking for and what needs they have at the time, it can mean everything or nothing. Sex will be more meaningful if multiple positive feelings are involved.

Kimonono · Answer

It depends. I do think sex can just be that, sex alone, no feelings involved. But if it already is your bf/gf, it could definitely bring you guys closer!

Gymcoach · Answer

Yes it is true. You share a very intimate and private moment with your partner. You can't get any closer physically spoken. It just changes your relationship completely.

VickyRed · Answer

Depends. Personally, I think sex can be just sex, but it can also strengthen relationships. It strengthen mine... But it depends on the situation I guess

martyfellow · Answer

Of course sharing intimacy brings people closer together emotionally It's always a type of commitment, even if it's only a one night stand.

natured · Answer

It does bring you closer depending on how deep you guys are into each other :) it did bring me closer to my man... True

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

If that was true then a lot men wouldn't have sex with a girl then leave. I think it can if you're already in love with that person

Blondeandfree · Answer

Absolutely, if you're in love, sex brings a very strong union, or strong bow with your SO. It brings you very very very with each other. It's awesome.

MadeInAmerica · Answer

I think so. It's another form of love and intimacy for people in a real relationship.

Jennifer2048 · Answer

Absolutely, Yes THe most intimate way to share yourselves with each other

mshaker · Answer

It depends on the type of connection you have before the sex.

LaurenGrace · Answer

of course and it builds good friendships in some cases too

johnmsk · Answer

yes and no. yes, if you are making love to someone who you have feelings. no, if its casual sex to satisfy your bodily cravings

spoonman2014 · Answer

Yes, to the point of that it can make things awkward

soccerchick4eva · Answer

yeah! it adds that extra emotion in your relationship :)

Kaylyne · Answer

That feeling of ultimate intimacy means the absolute world to me.

Anonymous · Answer

They're both true.  When guys want to remain distant, sex is just sex. When guys want to get closer to someone, sex is the best way to do it.

Nadzzz · Answer

Yeah of course it does  its a new level of intimacy and trust

pooper89 · Answer

For women yeah. But for guys I don't think it's what brings them emotionally closer

Jager66 · Answer

Yes it does. But it doesn't always, depends how I see her and what I want from her.

JoyGirl · Answer

Yes, it brings a couple emotionally/physically closer. 👫💕

Anonymous · Answer

In case of teenagers, yes but that is because most teenagers are just god damn stupid as hell. When you grow up you start to consider more than just sex into your emotions (unless you are just a immature person).

Ahmed_Sy15x · Answer

I believe it works, cuz no one would continue a relationship without sex

DizzyAster · Answer

It only does this if you have a connection. If not, it will not work or it will be one sided.

LastNightmare · Answer

not true. I always gets distracted and less interested once anything sexual happens between us

Anonymous · Answer

if i already have feelings for the person sex may effect it

BillieJean1070 · Answer

No question about it!

Sara413 · Answer

Yeah. It's a form of physical intimacy.

Blonde401 · Answer

I used to think it does but not anymore.

deraz24 · Answer

It adds another element

anaspie · Answer

Yes of course it does

xKirito · Answer

Yes sex is so incredible! It's beautiful 😍

sedrftvgyhujik · Answer

Depends on the sex. I think good sex dose.

CyberToothTiger · Answer

Nope, sex doesn't bring one closer to another.

Nahidpie · Answer

Perhaps it does for both

Glen68 · Answer

it brings you closer together

CT_CD · Answer

Maybe for women but not for men

Anonymous · Answer

Yes obviously it does. Don't you think so?

ACrazyHaggis · Answer

Yes  filler filler filler

Anonymous · Answer

Not necessarily... maybe... maybe not.

Foreskin-Atlas · Answer

Usually but not always.

Anonymous · Answer

For women... yes.  For men... NO.

BeastRB · Answer

Of course.

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