I can't get a girl no matter what I do. How can I find one who will love me?

[Anonymous]

Hello everyone I need your help. Im 28 and I cannot find a girlfriend. Im very lonely and all I want is too feel loved. I feel like I've tried all the advice there is out thier. Im also starting to feel suicidal. I think about it almost everyday now. I've achieved a lot for being 28 im not saying that to brag but to give context. Im saying this because people will tell me to go to the gym or make more money in order to aquire a girlfriend. But I've already done these things. Here is a complete list:

- I go to the gym
- I eat healthy
- I make about 85k a year
- I am good looking
- I know how to cook
- I have my own house
- I clean and take care of my belongings
- I have visible abs
- Im empathetic and have a big heart ( At least thats what everyone tells me)

According to my list I should have girls all over me but I don't. I don't know what im doing wrong I need your guy's help please if you have any advice tell me.

[RespectfulGuy]

To begin, 28 is still young. And it's impressive you've achieve so much materially.

While other answers are good, I have other views.

1) stop focusing on your achievements. TBH, if I were a chaste girl looking to settle down, I would be overwhelmed and feel that I'm not a good match for you.

2) stop appearing desperate for love (although yes you are). It's a turn off and girls can sense it and avoid you.

Pretend, fake, do whatever you call it, talk to girls but don't appear too interested. Reverse psychology catches the prey.

3) be yourself and widen your association. Yes, yourself. Don't be a perfect guy. Just yourself.

You want a girl who accepts you for who you really are right?

So be yourself. Fart if its your habit. Swear if its your vocabulary. And crack dirty jokes if it makes her laugh. Got my idea?

You want a girl who loves you for who you are.

To conclude, 28 is young. I don't have half of what you had at 28. Love and you'll be loved. Show kindness and you'll be treated kindly. Off with girls who only wants your $$$. The rest are likely wife materials.

[Anonymous]

Where is God / Christ on that list? Through God is the only way to find a decent woman. All of the other ways that are not through God will result in an ego driven woman who will only 'want you' for how you make her feel, or that 85k a year. Only a woman of God will be capable of truly loving you, the other ones will not, but they will confuse lust, desire, and the chasing of validation for love, and the man will confuse his desire to be loved, for love. In short.

Matthew 6:33

'But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well..'

I prefer being single and I dare not ask God to help me find a woman because I know He would! I also know a woman that asked, didn't truly believe so was not specific and received exactly what she asked for!

Also, often being lonely is not a sign that you need to find another, but a sign you need to find yourself and align your spirit with the physical. For the most part, a woman will find a man who is able to be in solitude, more attractive than a man that needs her company.

[Asker]

Fuck it its worth a shot. Maybe god has a plan for me.

[VikingWarLord]

It's a WESTERN issue, get your passport and go overseas to places like SE Asia or Eastern Europe. The women literally WORSHIP men in these places, especially if you're a white male from America.

[Asker]

Im looking to settle down with a women here in America but thanks for the advice.

[VikingWarLord]

Not a smart move, but it's your life brotha! You do you

[inhua]

go overseas

if women here won't appreciate you, then travel to where they'll appreciate you

don't limit your dating pool because society tells you do so

[TracyF]

Two things, don't be desperate. And get yourself out there. Make friends and be seen by people. The ladies need to know you're out there