Why is it so hard to find a girlfriend and what could I do to find one?

[casanova411]

Right now im 26. I really think that its time to get a girlfriend. I think that she could help settle me and keep me on a healthier path because I find without solid women in my life I chase many random women and it becoming a pretty bad cycle. I currently have a pretty high-paying job. However, I find I cannot find a girlfriend. I had one girlfriend 4 years ago for a relatively brief period of time and I still think about her often. However, I have not met anyone else who I had even close to a relationship with since her. I don't think that most of my interactions with women dating have been bad per se but they tend to not lead anywhere or to any significant relationship and they usually just fizzle out or worse. It might be because I don't meet women at the right places at the right time however it seems so tricky to meet women in random places like the store for instance because they are not in a good situation to build a connection with. I have had some dates with girls that I met in bars but it always seemed to either fizzle out or they just ghost me.

[Anonymous]

not sure find girls around here are tough to date , some are just never single and been dating the same guy for years so there never even available a lot of the more desirable ones. others get busy with other things and never seem to make dating a priority.
myself i found it took multiple encounters in person before they warmed up to me , was a couple new girls who started to work at pub in may , when they first started we barely clicked and i never would of though we'd even be friends. a couple months later i get along with them both really well , the one i could picture us dating. so thinking if your meeting a lot of randoms it might be tough to determine at first meeting if there good or not you maybe need to get to know them better first somehow

[casanova411]

yes but i dont have a chance to get to know them better.

[Opinion Owner]

just felt it could be part of your problem , your meeting girls randomly and briefly so not able to get to know them well enough. to determine if you like them or they like you

it might help to become more of a regular somewhere like a pub or restaurant and get to know some of them better.

from my experiences i wouldn't of known i'd even like certain girls if not for the fact i got to know them over a longer period. the first encounters i had with them gave me no reason to believe i'd even like them but over time realised we did connect more

[Orange85]

I feel like after dating many years…. Most people now days date for there ego… not for love meaning they just want a hookup or casual relationship to fill the void of being alone. So what I’m doing is focusing on myself. There’s more to life than relationships. Focus on the people who already love you. Find new hobbies and you will accidentally meet a girl along the way. You can’t just search for someone to be your girlfriend. That always ends badly.

[casanova411]

Yes i understand. I think people usually just want casual relationships because its easier. However i think it might be better to be in a healthy relationship and build towards something with the person your with plus how long can everyone be a lone or meet people in bars for casual dating or hooking up? I certainly do have hobbies like i love to write and also i play tennis at a very high level and compete in that but girls are never doing those things so you dont meet them.

[Orange85]

I feel you i personally think dating sites are a bad idea. For reasons we discussed. Church is a good place to meet people. But I’m not religious. There are things online we’re single people meet up for movies and stuff. I have a guy friend that does that

[casanova411]

i see i might need to go to church but i never find young women at church either. I also am explorer eastern religion and there's none of that in the usa but maybe church would be good either way.