I am a 21 years old University Student. Even though I am neither a bad looking nor a neglected person I have not dated anyone till. I am a 5’11” man with considerably fine physique. When I approach to girls they usually act they are as well interested. But after a while they act they are bored.
Interesting that we are somewhat similar, but our attitude is very different.
I'm also 21, 6'0 and with a decent physique. Difference between you and I is that I actually don't care. Let me give you a little secret: the LESS you care, the MORE they do.
Initially, you have to put in just the right amount of effort to get their attention, but not too much so it looks like you're trying too hard. Once you're there, you should start to take away your attention. If they like you enough, they will try to win you back. If they don't, then nothing will come out of it. Women like men who seem important that they can't have immediate access to, so you're got to find something to keep you busy so you don't constantly reply to texts. The gym is a good place to start, but you can also learn how to play an instrument, sing, box or play a sport of your choosing. Having something to look forward to (or a hobby as they say) will not only make you genuinely more busy, but it will make you more interesting as a person, because there's always something to talk about.
Also, something I learned. DO NOT reveal everything about yourself right away, then you take away all the suspense. Like an onion, you gotta peel one layer at a time. If you can speak another language for example, don't tell them. Wait for the perfect opportunity where you can do so to surprise them, and then be humble about it like it's not a big deal. If you can play a guitar then don't tell them, show them instead. At the same time, don't always show all your tricks, you gotta keep some to yourself so that you seem more interesting.
I've just touched the tip of the iceberg, but there's more. You probably need to A) learn how to be more nonchalant and B) add more layers to who you are before you start dating. Remember that impressing a girl will not make her your girlfriend, you still have to learn what to look for in a relationship partner and how to keep a relationship going to progress further to marriage rather than end in a break up.
All the best 👍🏾
You're probably not exciting. Probably too agreeable. Need to spend time on your game. Go read some books.
Start with this one.
Okay I’m not going to lie but I’m 23 soon to be 24. Last relationship I was in was back in 2019 long term, but I was in a situationship here in 2021. Anyways there is this guy that I really like. We share similar interests, but it seems like he won't look at me. We teased each other before I left that job due to issues that happened with management. I didn’t get his number or his Snapchat but I did ask him out for drinks. He said he was talking with someone and I left it at that as I didn’t want to give my information to him if he was just going to throw it away and I didn’t want to look desperate. Anyways I keep seeing him online, as in dating apps and everything. Haven’t seen him outside of work and whenever I see him I know he sees me too online. I don't know what’s being said about me over at my old job and he’s afraid to swipe right or he just isn’t interested in me. Long story short, I look at looks and what they do for a living. Not going to lie but I hate clingy guys. One guy I’m talking to every morning calling me beautiful. But to me it seems like he’s overdoing it. I want that when I’m feeling down on myself not every morning. So don’t be clingy, be interesting and a little mysterious, and don’t overdue things. Like if she responds text her in like several minutes not right away unless she starts. Make it seem like you have a little bit of a life outside of talking with her. I just hope that the guy I like will eventually come around 🤞🏻.
People who lack passion in their being will produce passionless relationships.
You guys can learn from each other what you can, but
ultimately the world is the teacher of life, so you both must spend time doing things together.
Sure, yeah, “play time” is in there too, but you gotta live and get past the small talk convos at some point.
Take a girl on one of your adventures.
Both comment on people walking by. I don't know pull one or two public pranks.
Try to do a quick trip together for a weekend. Maybe camping, or going rock climbing somewhere. A beach camp out idek
Just have fun man. Life isn’t just
“dating.”
what even is that? 😂
Go live and find someone you can live side by side with or live with and someone you can kiss too lol
Best to you! Don’t be so tough on yourself.
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Sounds like you need to work on your game.
The truth is the world is our mirror. Whatever “problem” you are having isn’t random. You may say you want a relationship but check your beliefs. If you have limiting beliefs, no matter how good looking you are or skills you have, you’ll always do or fail to do something that would make sure your beliefs come true.
for example (not saying you believe this, just an example), if you believe that all relationships are doomed to fail or all girls cheat or I’m not enough, you will either date girls that aren’t interested in a serious relationship or you will get picky or you will fail to do or say things that is too emotionally risky.
But then again I could be wrong, I don't know.
But what's your personality like? Women tend to go for personality. Sure looks is great but if the person underneath that isn't amazing, why bother.
Really reflect and look back at how you've acted/reacted. It could be something you said that put them off :)
How many women to you greet by name when you see them? Just asking random women if they will go out with you is not likely to work. If a woman spends a few minutes chatting with you, then she may be interested in continuing the conversation over lunch or dinner.
It is easy to find a girlfriend. It is hard to find a girl as pretty are you are seeking. Your problem is, your standards are too high. If you lower your standards and ask big and homely girls that most guys don't ask, you will find it is easy to have a girlfriend.
My brother from another mother if you never try you will never know so keep trying my friend. Next girl that catches your attention walk up to her & say the following.
If Covid Doesn’t Take You Out Can I?
There are two main reasons:
1. You are overlooking how attractive you already are, just because of being a boy.
2. Dating these days is full of traps. Many people don't have the right mindset to be in a relationship. You shall vet your partner, honestly. Look at their present actions, and never expect them to change.
First off WARNING! don’t take any advice from women
Dude you’re 21 stop looking for girlfriends while you’re in the process of becoming the man you want to be don’t focus on right now focus on where you are headed and your goals because that version of you will have women flocking to him you just have to take your pick
When the time is right it'll happen, no point over thinking it, it isn't you it's just life you'll meet the right person. Until then just be the best version of you possible, so when she does come around your the best version of yourself to make the commitment long term.
Your last sentence is the key. You wrote "But after a while they act they are bored." You own that. It's up to you to keep them interested. Something you are doing or saying (or not doing or not saying) is boring them. Figure it out.
Are you nervous? If your nervous it makes the girls insecure like your a serial killer or something. I have a friend who is 33 and he is actually really sweet but awkward and he scares women away
It’s all trial and error. And you’re still very young. Females have incredible instincts. What vibe are you giving off? And just because you interact with a Female, it doesn’t mean it’s an opportunity to take it further. Being friendly doesn’t always have to be escalated ;)
If they act bored they probably are... you need a spice it up because if you got all that going on there's something else that you're either doing or not doing
People hate their lives, so they take it out on the world around them, plain and simple. If you live a life that doesn't excite you or give you any sense of meaning, you aren't going to feel any desire to connect with another person.
Most females are looking for the top 10% of men, and you're not in that club. You can still find a girlfriend, but you'll either have to lower your standards or wait until these females that are rejecting you hit their 30's and realize their looks are fading and their options are dwindling.
Girls are not like guys. A girl won't go out with you if you're hot but boring as hell. But men would go out with a hot girl who is boring as hell. Men are easy to please. Women are not.
u Sounds like it's because u have no clue what your doing
You seem confused and seems like giving mixed signals
This is the art of speaking. You need to find common ground with them
There really are not many good ones around.
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