How will I ever find the right girl?

[Anonymous]

How does anyone find the right person even? All the attractive girls are always taken and everything. Then you like someone a lot, but they never feel the same about you, or the opposite. How does anyone ever find the right person? I'm a pretty attractive guy that struggles with girls, I just wish I felt like she was out there, but I guarantee when I find the next girl I like, she'll be taken, not interested, or both, like the last girl I was crazy about, and will never forget about. I took my chances with her, for once, something I never do, and yet nothing came out of that situation either!

I really thought she was the right person, it's like I felt it, but we don't even talk anymore, so it's like how will things ever turn around, much less how will I ever find someone else where I don't feel like I'm settling? :(

[Lifesbeautiful]

Yeah I kind of have the same problem..maybe a little different. I meet a lot of guys but honestly none of them are for me. I've only met 2 guys in my life that actually blew me out of the water, intrigued me and made me want a relationship. The 1st one already had a girl and the 2nd one told me he would never go out with me because he wasn't good enough. I guess finding the right person is hard but I know it is worth it in the end. Don't ever settle. Its better to be alone and enjoying life than be in a relationship that the person isn't everything you want and dream of because you will always wonder what it would be like with someone else.

[buttercup5]

I really think you'll find one day that you've stopped thinking about her. Time really does dull the feeling, especially if you have no contact with her.

Also, stop expecting to fail. Females tend to pick up on that negativity.

I have a boyfriend so reject anyone who hits on me, and I never think badly of them because of it. I know rejection hurts, but I think you're dwelling on it too much. You gotta put yourself out there if you want to meet someone.

[Asker]

It's already been over a couple years, I'm not depressed anymore, but I still feel like she was really someone special, that I would choose to be with in a heartbeat.

[rosemary09]

There are a lot of attractive women who are single. A lot of attractive women don't get asked out as often as guys ask the average looking girl out because they are afraid of rejection. I consider myself an attractive woman but I seldom get asked out by men. I wish men had more confidence in approaching attractive women.

[Anonymous]

Men tend to try to find PARTNERS in the wrong places aka clubs, bars, parties etc. Those woman are there for fun usually, and like that life. If you want a partner for an actual relationship you have to go to places where more mature people go to ... that's the advice I give my guy friends and it has helped 2 of them!

Good luck!

[Asker]

I just found her at school. I don't even go to clubs. She was the kind of girl where you just look at her and you know. I felt this way a while after getting to know her a bit, but she always always gave me butterflies. I don't think I'll ever forget about her. And I can't just ask her again, things are ruined.

[Opinion Owner]

It is very hard, I know but don't lower your standards to raise others. She is out there, you just need to find her.

[Asker]

Thanks for everything. But it just seems impossible that any girl I'd want to be with wouldn't be taken or something.