Is he controlling or is it just me?

[Anonymous]

I met a guy 7 months ago and he’s making me less interested in him. Long story short when he asked to see me I let him but then he insist on spending the nights when I tell him no he only spent the night once. He told me since I got to be at work before him he can stay here and sleep until it’s time for him to go in., once he told me to leave my house key outside so he could get in when he gets off of work, he told me if he get a puppy to keep it for him at my place I told him no all he said was yeah, he told me to do his job application for him because he aunt usually does it for him I told him no and again all he said was yeah, he keeps mentioning a co-signer for a vehicle I just ignore him. 3 weeks ago I told him I was out paying bills and he just shows up at my house unannounced, he also told me to take off from both of my jobs to see him. I don’t know if he’s controlling or what but it’s annoying when I mention it to him all he says is he trying to spend time with me but it’s never a conversation about us it’s always what he want me to do. I liked him at first but my gut is tell me otherwise now and now I’m annoyed by him when I don’t mean to be

[Avicenna]

All of that stuff can be dealbreakers. I don't see why you're putting up with it.

[Asker]

I try not to jump to conclusions, but I noticed that his actions are just a repeating cycle. You guys have helped a lot and it honestly made me feel a whole lot better

[Yolandi]

Love yourself babe xx there are better. He is a leech. I've known a couple myself!

[richardcory]

I wouldn't put up with that sort of behavior and no reason you should. If it feels like he is being controlling or unreasonable, then you should end things. You have no obligation to stay in a relatinoshp where you are not happy

[Yolandi]

No, get rid of him! Listen to your gut. He sounds controlling yes, and sounds like he is trying to benefit off the resources you have.

[Asker]

Thank you, I thought that as well but figured I could be wrong.

[Sabretooth]

yup.

[Celticwolf78]

He is trying to be controlling so you need to kick him to the curb especially if he wants you to leave work just so he can see you isn't the guy for you

[Iron_Man]

It sounds like you are annoyed

[Asker]

But I wasn’t at first, maybe it’s because I feel like he’s trying to tell me what to do instead of asking. He mentioned something to me before I can’t remember what it was but when I asked him if he were asking me or telling me he said asking I guess. But you could be right also. I would ask him but he always laugh when I ask him questions.

[Iron_Man]

Why don’t you guys go out to dinner and have a nice calm civilized conversation about all of this?

[Anonymous]

Dump him