Girls, are shy guys who are into cooking , arts and crafts turn off for you?

[Anonymous]

I am not a party dude type of guy. I spend my free time cooking and making art crafts using wood, bamboo, clay, or gardening. Plus I help with the animal shelter than go to parties. I spend a good amount of excess money on fostering. Is this kind of guy a turn-off for all?

I never had a girlfriend so far, and every woman around me is looking for very outgoing party-type men, who go out to bars, clubs, and concerts regularly. I am 26 and around my age all the girls want these types of men, even the introverted girls want someone opposite to them.

Lately, my guy friends were telling me to change else no girl will wanna date me till 40.

[Emelina]

If this is who you are and are comfortable with your life, keep going... you are still young, and going to parties, bars, and getting drunk its only intertaiment for you only and it's temporary too as you get older you get wiser, and for some of us maturenes comes earlier than expected. So you aren't missing absolutely nothing in the out going party scene, do what makes you happy, and if you meet a lovely woman it will be for good, rather than dating someone that would create drama in your life and get you confused about what kind of life you want... so be yourself and do everything that you want to do as a single man, then settle once you get much older as by then you will not care wether you got someone in your life or not. I am older and now I know that if I meet someone that's cool, if not then no big deal because I rather have peace than have issues with a partner that doesn't match with what I want in a relationship. Cheers

[Asker]

Settling for someone sounds terrible, It's one of my fears too as women see me as some kind of settling guy after some age. I also don't do that to someone even if I have to stay single.

[Alottosay]

I'm the same way. My friends like to party and go out clubbing. It's not my thing. I like art and crafts, gardening, and pretty much activities I can do by myself or in a small group. My friends have tried to change that and I am starting to think I need to change my friend group. There is someone out there for everyone. I don't think you should change yourself just to get a partner. You want be happy. I used to think opposite attract and to date an extrovert, but it doesn't work. At least for me.

[Asker]

It's been a long, with age women will see me as weird. Someone single for that long is a red flag to everyone. Pressure from both family and friends is also immense for me. My dad calls me girly, for my hobbies. You realized that an extrovert will not work for you, but every girl that I have seen so far including introverted girls, during school, college, and university wants extrovert men. I am starting to feel like that there's something wrong with my personality, and that's why no one wants me.

[Alottosay]

I think the world is mainly designed for extroverted people. It's easy to feel lost in it. I feel the same way. It sometimes crosses my mind if only I was different than I am, but I'm not. There is nothing wrong with you. You deserve to your definition of happy. Don't settle for any one who makes you feel bad or find you quirks annoying. I wish I had a solution, but the only thing I can think of is time and continuing to put yourself out there.

[DancingQueen16]

No that actually kinda describes the person I'm dating right now

[Lowiu]

No I love a man who can cook

[Anonymous]

No, we love such guys.