for the girls who say a turn off, be nice if you go and read Time's post on link
"Which is why I believe confidence is overrated. People tell others to be confident, but sometimes it doesn't come by itself - sometimes confidence must be given. Take someone who's always been accepted everywhere they go, as opposed to someone who constantly gets rejected. Who do you think is going to be the most confident one?
I bring this up because girls constantly say they want their guy to be confident. But hey, GUESS WHAT? If you give him a chance, then maybe, just maybe uhm... there's like an uhm... oh, I dunno... 90% chance that he will become confident over the fact that someone likes him? But oh that's right, the girl isn't going to like him until he has confidence, right? I guess those guys will be forever screwed.
As proof, take a look at your question. A guy with little or no confidence, that manages to sleep with someone, suddenly gains confidence. Is that a coincidence, or does everyone see my f***ing point here?!
I say this as a confident guy who didn't always use to be like this."
I'm sort of shy... or at least I used to be. Depends how you define shy.
I can approach complete strangers in the street and have a real conversation. I enjoy giving presentations to even large audiences. I can proper dance to music without feeling embarrased, whereas the 'confident' guys refuse to do any of that stuff.
However if I'm in a small group of friends I can be very quiet, just blending in with the wallpaper haaha. I guess like jacksparrow says below, that would make me not shy but introvert. Anyone can talk, even talk bs, but are they afraid to do things?
Do girls find introverted yet active guys attractive?
I'd say most of the guys I've liked have been a bit introverted; I think girl's preferences on intro vs extro tend to reflect their own personalities and what's clicks well. The extrovert may not feel as comfortable with and introvert because they wash out the other person or vice versa.
I think this may lead to that belief that girls don't like introverts, because that's not true. its just the girls that do tend to be more introverted themselves, so that instant approach/ draw right away.isn't as likey
I wouldn't mind if the guy was a little shy, as long as he is confident enough to make the first move and not keep me waiting and wondering if he's gonna do something =) Some outgoing girls probably will try to physically get your attention. Like hugs, ruffling of the hair, etc. Haha I'm not like that but I've seen some. I guess I would just try to talk to him a lot and smile as much as I could. If I knew the boy was shy I would be flirty but very sweet when I have conversations with him.
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Lol bro this is BS, I really don't think women like shy men, ok ok ok they like shy men like that guy from Dear John. To be honest must shy men are not like that at all. Shy men are men that like self-confidence and I am not talking about introverted men that's another story, those are people that choose to be alone nothing to do with their self-esteem. Shy men are men that want to be around people but are scared of people doing sh*t to them. Women do not like shy men, because they have a lot of issues to solve, shy men are generally not assertive and proactive men when it comes towards relationships, shy men are too scared of making the first step, taking leadership and face problems when they face them.
To be honest women like quiet, mysterious men, NOT shy men.
Shy men are a turnoff. First of all, how would I even notice or spend time with a shy guy. Chances are we would never even have a meeting or first date because I would have to be aggressive and I won't do that with a guy. Not that I cannot hold my own in the working world or in life, but when it comes to a man I don't want to overpower my guy.
Second, guys who are too passive to approach me or hold a conversation if the opportunity presents itself, and too passive to ask me out on a date, like some of the guys who complain on this website that they want women to make the first move, those guys are lousy in bed. For a guy to be great in bed, he has to have that animal instinct. It is critical.
from my experience women DO NOT LIKE shy men. They make a lot of bad assumptions. They think is something wrong with the guy or he's weak.
I'm shy sometimes myself, at it sucks. It's better to be outgoing, if some people think you are an idiot.
Shyness to a certain point is cute and could be a turn on. I like the feeling when they start letting you know more about them. It's like a discovery, well to me.
But when they're speechless and too awkward, I wouldn't know how to deal with that.
Being shy at first is never a problem to me. usually it means he's a good listener, which is great :) However. the problem arises when he never opens up or becomes comfortable with you. Even if he's shy around others, I expect him to connect with me!
much of a turn off...i don't like guys who can't even come up to me because of his shyness..! I'm talker...and shy guys mostly can't even open a topic to discuss...i don't want to talk alone...or be replied by a very short answer...!
As the previous poster said, a medium one is good. A man should be somewhat initiative.
But not too much. If I tried to get a guy's attention I would try to find a way to talk to him. About very neutral things. I'd try to interest him with my thoughts, my concerns, I'd try to treat him as a friend.
Would work probably ;) confidence is the key. He can be shy and confident at the same time. A little shy is a kind he's sensitive..
I couldn't cast a vote...It's not that simple...Some shyness is attractive when coupled with a bit of outgoingness (Did I just make up a work?) ha ha So it's yes to both and no to both...
uh? I'm shy so I need som1 outgoing.
i choose They are a turn off.
seriously I'd feel like he is a shy girl.
They're harder to get to know but I can sympathize with them and they're frequently very nice and cool people :)
if a girl really likes you she will let you know, if you miss the queue then to bad for you, just takes longer for you to find someone etc...
If you like a girl chat and let her know etc, usually the guy is expected to make the first move...
a happy medium is good. I don't like guys with massive egos that coe on too strong but if a guy never talks that can be a turn off as well.
i always pick shy guy when I'm playing mario tennis.
i am shy myself so its real hard for me if the guy is shy as well
I don't really pay attention to that, but now that you mention it most guys that I'm interested in aren't really outgoing... but that's the way I am too.
It depends on the guy, but shy guys can be a turn on. :)
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