Girls, Are shy guys unmanly and unattractive to you?

[timidmale]

This should be an interesting poll :)

Yup, they are unmanly losers to me

Are you kidding? Shy guys are my favorite kind!

They're not my type but i don't think they're losers

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+1 y

I just want to say something to the girls who are attracted to shy socially awkward guys; I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!!! :)

[lizziepooh03]

I see your questions about shy guys but I am not really clear of what your definition of a "shy guy" means.

Can you please explain it to me so I can better answer your questions?

I have gathered that it means someone that is unlikely to initiate with a woman but if that is all that it means, then I do not understand your questions about it.

Assuming you just mean someone that does not initiate, then a woman probably does not think anything about him The good news is that we do not think anything bad about him but the bad news is we may not even know he exists.

Maybe you are asking about if you start dating and he does not initiate physical contact. If that is the case, most woman will think he does not like her and her affection will decrease since she tends to match his affection.

If you are talking about when you are in a relationship, then it probably only becomes an issue if he does not want to meet and socialize with her friends and/or other people, including new people.

I am shooting in the dark here since I am not sure what you are really concerned with in regards to being a shy guy. If you could clarify that, I may be in a position to offer some betterl advice, and hopefully useful advice. :)

[timidmale]

Ohh by shy i mean just a guy who is too shy to make eye contact and pursue the girls he wants.

[lizziepooh03]

Unfortunately, the burden is on you. A woman can not initiate with a man and still find people to date. A man is less likely to find someone to date if he does not initiate.

That is just how it works and I do not see that changing anytime soon. :(

[timidmale]

That is so sad and depressing for guys like me :(

[lizziepooh03]

I know. I wish I had a way to solve it for you but I do not.

You have to be the one to put yourself out there. You have to find a way to deal with that if you ever want a relationship.

The good news is... once you get older, you will find women are more desperate (I do not mean that negatively just as a descriptor) so women that may have passed on you in their twenties will want you when they are in their late thirties or older. Whether you want them or not, is a different story.

For men, the older you get, the more choices you get. For women, the opposite is true. The older women get the less options they have.

It is cold comfort for now, I get that. But just think, with every year that passes, your odds increase. So that is good news, yes? :)

[timidmale]

Yes, it is good news, it's a quantum of solace, it makes me feel a little better.

[Nyx_85]

I'm attracted to people I get along with. Them being shy or forward is usually only a small percentage of the whole package.

Now are they so shy that I have to do ALL the work? Make the first move with everything? Yeah that's a turn off. I once met a guy who told me he, at 34, had never asked out anyone in his life. All of his girlfriends (he had only had a few) had asked him out. He would never tell a girl if he had a crush on her. He said that he even denied liking one girl he had a crush on throughout most of hs when she found this out via friends and revealed she was into him. Like it's one thing when you are in hs but as an adult? To me passiveness leads to trouble down the road. It's one thing to be introverted and it's another to be shy because you have an extreme fear of failure. This fear of failure will likely LEAD to failure. It's a self fulfilling prophecy.

I mean no one wants to do all the work. Even super macho forward guys want a girl to show SOME initiative.

[timidmale]

I agree, i'm just shy at the beginning, i have never asked a girl out either lol it's crazy i know but at least i can hold a conversation, i'm not like extremely shy.

[Nyx_85]

That seems more and more common for guys your age these days.

[timidmale]

Ohh really?

[Nyx_85]

At least according to the Internet 😂

[timidmale]

Hehe well, maybe guys are shier than girls when it comes to romantic stuff.

[PrincessPie]

I’m not attracted to shy guys. But I don’t think they’re losers.

[BuchitaBuchys]

Love them. My boyfriend is somewhat shy, more reserved and I basically had to initiate our conversations before dating. I asked him out as well. My only "complaint" is that they don't throw any signs of interest.
I literally felt like I was walking blind into traffic since I had no idea if he would be interested or not. But lucky for me, he said yes. And I absolutely love him <3

[timidmale]

Yeah, i know it's hard, we don't even make eye contact at first but once you catch us, you'll have so much to enjoy :)

[BuchitaBuchys]

I absolutely love him. He's so loving and caring, now I know he's interested lol He's not rude or disrespectful even when he disagrees. He doesn't try to flirt or get with other girls behind my back, he turns them down if they try. I love him so much. He's my sexy sweetheart.
Shy guys are so much better than outgoing, in my opinion

[timidmale]

Wow, he is worth gold, loyal guys are not very common, many are players and others accept girls offers even if they already have a girlfriend, i personally don't like to cheat, i think it's more romantic to only belong to one woman :)

[XxShayxX]

I'd rather have a shy, more reserved guy, than a matcho man by a mile! Definitly my pick, shy guy ftw!

[timidmale]

Hehe nice you prefer humble guys that are not pushy and think they are God's gift to women.

[XxShayxX]

Exactly! I might be an hopeless romantic, but there is something about shy guy, it make me wanna hug them! ^u^

[timidmale]

So true! Some girls have hugged me! I guess i look like a teddy bear to them.

[XxShayxX]

Most guy do tbh. And since i'm rather small (5'2), everyone feel like teddy bears to me!

[timidmale]

Ohh we look like big teddy bears to you hehe i can imagine, i'm 6 feet tall, i'm a giant sweet gentleman :)

[LucyArmstrong]

Shy guys are really lovely people. They're shy because sometimes they reall like you and don't know how to express their feelings. Also they make sure they take care of you properly

[timidmale]

Yup, we are very romantic, when we love a woman we only love her not any other.

[LucyArmstrong]

Yup. That's true.

[MayBlythe]

My type since I'm the dominant one in my male relationships

[timidmale]

Wow, you are awesome, girls like you are the saviors of submissive guys like me, thank you :)

[TacosRAwesome]

Depends on how shy they are. If I constantly need to start conversations with them, it's too much and I'll take that as lack of interest or lack of balls. If after a few times things get balanced out I can work with that.

[Lotta7uzhoojhcz]

Thats not a thing of my type or not my type.
Its a thing of can we talk?

[timidmale]

Yes we can talk as long as you come over to me.

[Lotta7uzhoojhcz]

What would I say thugh?

[timidmale]

Hi stud, how are you?

[Lotta7uzhoojhcz]

Hm I can't send private messeges here :( Do you wanna connect somehow else so we can dm?

[timidmale]

Do you have kik?

[enlightened]

I don’t know what u exactly mean by shy. If being introverted and reserved means shy then I have no issues with that. But if he can’t talk to people as a rule and has social anxieties then I have an issue.

[JosyJosy]

I don't know, they're neutral to me, it can be a turn on or a turn off, depending on that guy

[anmari2001]

its okey to be shybut when a guy become to act needy becauuse its shy, its reall unattrative

[anmari2001]

Is that you in your profile picture?

[timidmale]

No but trust me i am just like him lol
I find that picture describes me perfectly.

[anmari2001]

He looks like he saw a ghost loo

[timidmale]

Hehe, girls are scary to us.

[RuthAnn1781]

They're not losers, I like them. We don't tend to get on well though because I'm quite too, but I still like them

[somanyquestions31]

It all depends on their personality and how they would treat me, to be honest.

[chloehatespeople]

Why do all your questions consist of you talking about shy guys lol

[timidmale]

Because i am one.

[Lotta7uzhoojhcz]

Wait. You are so shy you can't make eye contact? Oh honey you're fd. Even if a girl would be really into you, how would you ever find out if you dont even look at her?

[timidmale]

@Lotta7uzhoojhcz I mean i don't look at her first but if she already came over to talk to me of course i look at her hehe, it would be really creepy if i didn't.

[macix670]

They are not losers but not my type. I am very social and extroverted so i prefer a guy who is the same.

[Quietness]

They're alright but not my type.

[timidmale]

You prefer Alpha types.

[Quietness]

I'm just quiet and i need the opposite..

[timidmale]

Exactly, opposites attract.

[Imafreespirit]

they're not losers but they're not my type.

[karahiri]

no. i've been attracted to shy guys before

[awanti95]

Shy guys are more loveable

[Anna_Tigan]

Forever shy guys lol

[mooky06]

They're not losers.

[Britski123]

Wouldn’t want someone like that

[timidmale]

I see, you prefer bad boys cause they're confident.

[Britski123]

Hell yeh

[timidmale]

Assholes make you wet, that's very common in young girls.

[Britski123]

Confident don’t mean asshole

[timidmale]

^^^ true, so you prefer a nice guy with confidence.

[Suefit1]

Yes but some over confident guys are assholes.

[QueenofCups]

No, not at all.

[timidmale]

Yeah, we just need a huntress ;)

[ChronicThinker]

Yeah.

[timidmale]

We are a bunch sissies, right?

[ChronicThinker]

Sissies and losers, maybe not. But less masculine and not my type. But everybody calls masculinity something else these days, so what do I know?

[timidmale]

Hehe true, we're just not your type, every person has a preference.

[ChronicThinker]

Yeah like I'm not gonna put anybody down for how they are

[timidmale]

But maybe i should be a slave, not a boyfriend.

[COCOCHANEL]

i like shy boys

[cupidkisses]

They are good