I am a very outgoing woman, talkative, I can speak in front of an audience and it’s no big deal…but if the guy I like talks to me or looks at me…I become shy, quiet and awkward. I feel many times I’ve wasted good opportunities for this reason. And in all honesty, I’ve felt that is hard for men to deal with women like me who are shy and awkward. So, do men find shy and awkward women in any way attractive?
Guys: do you find shy and awkward women attractive?
It depends on whether I can get her to laugh or not. I find that women of similar demeanor become more relaxed and opened if I can make them smile or laugh.
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You are right! It happens to me. I become more open if the guy I like shows some kind of interest.
This is attractive and honestly I've done the same thing when a girl that I like looks back over at me and I get shy, quiet, etc. If th
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Wow, I always thought guys would act this way because they dislike the girl or she would make him uncomfortable. Thanks for sharing that useful piece of information 😊
If it happens for too long then yes it can make a guy uncomfortable. I started to get uncomfortable and tried to approach a woman who was staring me down and make conversation with her only for her to be short with me or give close to zero effort. In turn I decided to be done because it wasn't worth my time.
Well that sucks, but perhaps she became shy herself. But at least you are able to overcome that moment of shyness and you actually went and talk to her. Gosh I envy you now, but in a good way lol
She did seem to be shy, so I tried to give numerous chances before having to call it quits and move forward. Getting past the shyness is the hard part but there is relief on the other side! If it doesn't work out that's okay at least you tried and don't wonder "what if". I don't know what to say to that. I try my best to keep a good heart for who I follow
He’s going to notice you being talkative outside of your conversations with him directly. It’s actually a good sign because her nervousness could mean she likes me. But it could also be a bad sign if she finds me unattractive or off putting but is trying to “tolerate” my presence. But it usually shows up in the body language and especially her eyes. The look in a woman’s eyes tell the truth
P. S. One girl I dated years ago had a good line about when a woman really wants sex despite saying otherwise.
I guess it could come down to more specific factors but no, "shy and awkward" is fine.
We do get pretty burned out on needless insecurity though. My college sweetheart was by pretty much any metric an all-around amazing person, but she had this bizarre and obsessive belief that her hands were too small and she had a habit I hadn't noticed at first that she'd try to hide them behind her back (or my back) or in her jacket pockets.
I've known and dated women who were shy or insecure about things a bit more understandable, but that one was just completely out of the blue and she took it to exhausting levels.
I find them attractive and cute since I’m shy and awkward too. I think it’s ok to seem more introvert in presence of the liked person, maybe after time you gain a bit of confidence and can be as usual you are. On the other hand, I find annoying when girls fake shyness and modesty only to impress others, usually it’s very evident this sick attitude.
Absolutely! At least, many do. Especially if you have an outgoing side, a lot of men find that duality attractive. There’s something cute about someone who can communicate well, but us afraid to do so around a guy they like. While it may make it more difficult for the guy, I wouldn’t say it’s that big of deal.
It’s very endearing to me, especially if she isn’t normally shy. That said, some men are confused by it and think it’s disinterest, so it’s problematic for guys who are less confident and/or can’t carry a convo.
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Your opinion makes so much sense! Thank you for sharing 😊
It can be sweet and adorably feminine as long as it doesn't give off a signal that she's unapproachable or unavailable. I like women who act demure. But there has to be some coquettisness that signals that you are interested, too.
Facial expression and body language like in the photo would draw me like a moth to a flame.
Yes. It's fun to see a girl get nervous around us, but only to a certain degree. When she becomes too quiet and too awkward, everything goes sour. Guys will try to talk to you and your awkwardness starts to confuse us. If you are shy but can control it by letting the guy know how you feel through words and actions, you become so much more attractive because we see that you're nervous around us and yet make a valiant effort to express your feelings anyways.
It's totally fine at the beginning of a relationship but once things start kicking off it just becomes a inconvenience... A cute one but still a inconvenience.
by the way when I say "kick off" I don't mean you start having sex what I'm actually talking about that stage where you start falling asleep together on the couch after binging TV all night.
It's actually easier to deal with if she is only shy around a guy she likes, because I wouldn't have to guess if she likes me or not.
As far as attraction goes, it more matters what your views, hobbies, and interests are, and what you look like (if thats you in the photo, you have squat to worry about in that department)
@AndrewAzul I agree, it does come off as uninterested. I assume the same thing. But in the case of someone just being shy, they definitely shouldn't do the same thing.
It can be cute but it really boils down to "am I able to have any kind of conversation/interaction with her or will she always avoid me and run away from interaction?" Someone who is impossible to talk to is impossible to be with
Fuck no. "Shy" women absolutely terrify me. Be as weird as you want, but don't be shy about expressing yourself. It leads to too many miscommunications
Depends on the woman and how she is shy and awkward. Sometimes if she likes me it's cute when she gets nervous and I enjoy... Intimidating her a bit (in a good way) I get nervous too though when I am around someone I like
I enjoy it. My SO of 3 years started off that way with me. She still has some shy moments and I find it cute. There’s a charm to it that can be appreciated.
My ex was 6ft she was a bit thicker than most people seem to like and I melted in her arms, sucks she was only dating me because she wanted to experience white dick
Shy and awkward? Attractive? Not really. Shy and awkward are difficult to get to know and there isn't much difference between them and woman that aren't interested. If she's not going to make an effort, then she's not worth the energy.
but i find women that are 30 to 35 years old and post anonymously to be the most awkward, from my experience anyways. Some of you younger guys and girls might not know The Fonz but look him up. I taught him everything i know.
Very much so. My problem is they're like clams & never open up. Kind of hard to ask a gal out that won't even look at you when handing you a paper etc..
It can be cute, though it it’s also inconvenient due to how important conversation is in a relationship. I’m already shy myself, and if we’re both shy we’re in a bit of a pickle. lol
You mean the women’s art to pretend they dnt like or know shut... yea, it’s nice. But am at that stage, “ are we doing this or not, I wanna go check on my cat “
Its not a crime to be shy as a woman. Even guys sometimes aren't free from that. I was once a victim but now I know better so I don't see any reason why the girl fold should be unattractive to me.
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