How to know a woman likes/loves me but its not because I paid for everything?

[Unit1]

By Splitting the bill and see if she still goes out with me? Its basically my way to screen out the type of women, that "like/love" me mainly because i paid for everything.

[hahahmm]

You should only pay a woman's way if she is high quality. Which I give some indicators of below. Otherwise you definitely should do the split pay thing but personally I think it's a waste of time - literally wasting your time - to go out with someone who you think is not really worth taking seriously from the 1st second of setting up the date.

People have shallow attractions to go along with deeper ones. It's okay if a woman wants your money, as long as she gives you what you want. If you're not wise then all you want is sex. If you're wiser you want her to have traditional values like the ability to be loyal, respectful & not cause drama, to be good mom/wife material and so on. So the lower your goals/aim, the less you get from women.

Some feel sorry for athletes who are with gold diggers. But you can literally find documented cases of these guys who intentionally went to known pick up joints where professional gold diggers look for rich athletes. Nothing secret about it. These guys set themselves up to be in a bad situation. They were hooked on the physical stuff only and wanting to impress others who think like themselves. Other guys just failed to think beyond the little head, even if they didn't go to the pickup joint.

So bottom line, avoid shallow women and you'll have fewer problems.

[hahahmm]

And definitely, don't give anything to so-called feminists (man haters, misandrists) who preach about how they don't need a man or act as if they shouldn't have to put anything into a relationship.

[zeitgeist057]

When a person falls in love with another person, typically it is "all inclusive". That means sure, maybe she loves that you pay for things, or that your eyes are a certain color, or that you have a certain job, or your accent, or your posture.

How do you deconstruct that attraction and make sure she "loves you for you"? Do you start to slouch, change the way you talk, wear colored contact lenses, stop paying for things, get a different job, &c. Congratulations, you've completely changed yourself and your life, and maybe lost your girlfriend in the process of trying to prove whether or not her love was real.

Do you see the point I'm making here? Sure she might like being treated to things, but who wouldn't? If you don't want that to be a factor, then make a point about it. But I wouldn't draw the same conclusions based on your actions ("she's a goldigger" vibe).

[itsalyssaagain]

I always thought you could tell if people care too much about money or not. Observe the little things and you can tell.

[TacosRAwesome]

If women are only liking you because you're paying, maybe ask if that's all you have to offer.

[lightbulb27]

she doesn't love you on a first date. you have to use your gut sense.

Accept the gain if you pay for it all and she does

Accept the loss and be thankful if she doesn't.

If you only attract 'gold diggers' then you I gotta wonder whom you are picking...

all women want to feel secure, many want the guy to pay and pursue them. some women would rather pay for the date or not feel obligated by having you pay.

Just communicate and use your senses, this is but a tree in the forrest.

[mommymommymommy]

That's why jobless women, are a "stay away from girl", because she'll just assume you'll buy everything for her, as long as she puts out

Girls with jobs, is a little trickier. It really just sort of depends on her life. Her job, how much she makes, what she buys for herself that sort of thing. Keep in mind though that, because she's trying to look good for men, that usually costs a lot of money depending on how much she's actually spending to do so, so, if you want to go out with a girl who puts a lot into what she looks like, then she may want you to make up for it

[hahahmm]

Anything a woman can complain about when it comes to makeup and clothes is offset by the fact that a man is expected to protect her when the violent criminal/rapist shows up... & that he's expected to take a bullet or at least not be the fastest runner when the terrorist shows up. That's worth a hell of a lot more than a bag of cosmetics.

[LiamJHayden]

Sometimes testing is required. Don't take her out for awhile and see if she sticks around. Whether she does or doesn't, you have your answer.

And before anyone gets testy, I also advise the girls to not put out if they think that is all the guy wants. If he stays he is there for her. If not, she has her answer.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

There are so few women who are actually like that, I wouldn't worry about it.
Unless you're filthy rich, the odds of you running into a gold digger are slim to none

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Of course this is gonna piss off a lot of divorced men who think their wife taking half their shit to get even with them was because they wanted that all along. Rarely the case

[inhua]

stopping paying and see what happens. even if it is meant to be a bluff

[DextroShade]

Paying for things is going to be a prerequisite for any woman you are with, because no woman will ever love a man who lives in a cardboard box.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I usually alternate who pays at the beginning. Whoever asks out the other person generally pays. If you never call to ask me out after I make you aware of that then clearly you're only there for the money. There are plenty of inexpensive dates you can come up with, though truth be told I don't date many women who've no disposable income at all, so at the very least some wine and a picnic in the park can be done cheaply but requires a little effort on her part that I think she may be less inclined to do if it's just about money.

[hahahmm]

@DextroShade That reminds me... what guys who think they want a woman who doesn't want money seem to miss is that the line of women trying to get with broke homeless dudes for serious is super short and those women may be just as attracted to broke/needy as the other women are to money. I look at it like women are into money like guys are into women's physical attributes. But maybe it's smarter to be into money because you can't buy a car with tatas.

[Pete671]

Always offer to pay, if she agrees to you paying, dump her right away...

[Moirine]

Even though you insisted on splitting the bill and they still said no?

[Pete671]

@Moirine I would never even suggest splitting the bill, but if she suggested I would agree and def want to see her again,

[Moirine]

Well I suggested we split the bill and he said no numerous times. After eating we agreed that he'll send me his banking details so that I can pay him my half and he still said no, next time.

What then?

[Moirine]

Also, when you say you'll never suggest to split the bill you mean that you always offer to pay?

[Pete671]

@Moirine yes always,,,

[Yannishka]

I think splitting the bill is a good test.

[mattclark242]

I don't know maybe she just like you.

[Nikki1989]

Don't pay for everything.

[TheSpaceGnome]

You answered your own question.

[shades777]

guess your paying to play

[Anonymous]

Yes split the bill