How do you know when a women loves you?

[JustiReno]

I had a hard time believing when my ex told me she loved me. And, even love from my mother seems cold and distant at times. I know I can’t expect the relationship with my grandmother as I had from my grandfather, but women how do you express your love for your man and how do you know you really love him? Men, how do you know the woman you’re with really loves you? To all, what does true love mean to you?

[LetsBeHonestHere]

Hard truth love is more than just a feeling. I’m not going to lie I love my husband to death would do anything for that man. I also am an asshole sometimes to him he probably feels like I don’t love him at those times.


I express my love by being a faithful wife, I remind him of the way he makes me feel, the amount of attraction I have for him in and out of the bedroom, the way I get butterflies inside when I just look at him, or the feeling of knowing he is the man I want to grow old with. I knew I loved my husband when I went against my own words that I said throughout my whole life and that was I will never marry someone, because it’s just a piece of paper. It’s really hard to define love as everyone shows it differently.


My guess is you’ve been hurt before in previous relationship that you thought they loved you or you loved them, or you didn’t have the best childhood and love wasn’t really present.

[JustiReno]

Thank you for your input. I appreciate your perspective that is interesting.

I was taught “love” is an action.

Yes broken homes from grandparents generation down, though

3 of my great grandparents were alive when I was born one dying when I was 21, their generation stuck together.

Do you envision you and your husband staying together til death so us part?

[LetsBeHonestHere]

Yes I hope I grow old with my husband until the day one of us die. I hope the spark we have never fades in the years to come.

I grew up in a broken home. Dad wasn’t around and mom was single with 6 kids. She started to drink because she was depressed she was never home. I knew what love was just didn’t get it enough from her or my father, but because of that when I was a teenager it was hard to decipher lust from love. I had attachment issues, and searched for attention from whomever I could get it from even if it was toxic.

Like I said love isn’t just a feeling. I would say it’s not even an action. It’s hard to describe because it a lot of things.

Think of it this way you are not your family just because they were broken doesn’t mean you have to be broken also. You can break the chain and start a new generation that doesn’t involve that heartache.

[JustiReno]

You have a big family! Do you get along well with your siblings? Have 4 myself, 3 diff mom. I don’t fault my parents for their shortcomings and now am thankful for the family I do have. ☺️

[LetsBeHonestHere]

I will also say I am a mother of 3 and the amount of love I have for my children is unconditional. I can’t describe that type of love there are no words to fit it. To me it’s like ingrained in every part of me. Like for example my worst fear in life is death the idea of it gives me anxiety, causes me to have panic attacks, and makes me sick to my stomach. I, however would let myself die before one of my children without even thinking twice about it. Like the saying I would take a bullet for my child even being terrified of death. I would say I would probably even take one for my husband, because I love that man to death. The love I have for him isn’t unconditional though it’s a different type.

[LetsBeHonestHere]

My family is huge. 5 siblings on my moms side and 3 on my fathers side. We get along we are very distant though. We don’t really communicate often. The older we got the farther we grew apart. I would say it was apart of growing up and having families of our own not really having time to just spend with them. Plus we are all scattered around in multiple states. We do Group FaceTime every so often to check up on one another.

[JustiReno]

Pray you live a long life and have a beautiful sunset 🙏

[Needadvice1202]

She will be affectionate, she will spend time on u each day, she will make plans with u, people make it clear when they love someone, they go the extra mile for that person

[Jay3344]

I usually can feel it, at least I think I can. People call it chemistry, but the trouble is people can fall in and out of love. Romantic love especially can be something that can fade. If it’s a long term relationship, if it fades, and if your lucky, it will be replaced by the best friendship you can hope for. The words to me are not as important as the actions. But I’m still kind of a novice.

[JustiReno]

My co worker been married for 4 years now with a 1yr old son, he said “she better be your BEST friend”

[mobiusforniner]

When you're sick and she makes you food, gives you medicine, takes care of you. she's there when life sucks... love is sacrifice. Someone can say "I love you" over and over but its the actions, its the emotion, the connection and feeling which makes it real.

[JustiReno]

My grandpa’s second wife left him when he had a heart attack and took his house, left him with nothing

[Heartache0405]

You don’t. Because she’llsay she loves you and then the next thing you know she’s furious at you for something usually something you either didn’t do or had no intention of doing. And once she’s mad all that love for you goes out the window. Even if she’s wrong. She only loves you when you’re doing shit for her.

[JustiReno]

So does anyone care about you at all?

[Heartache0405]

My family and my friends. I have no female friends and that’s the way I prefer it.

[JustiReno]

All my great grandparents generation stayed together until the end, everyone after them tho had a broken home. That’s good you have a good circle of support

[LetsBeHonestHere]

That’s not love my dude that’s just a selfish bitch no offense. Also females are confusing and emotional. We tend to be insecure and have low self-esteems. We usually want reassurance from our spouse that we are wanted loved and attractive to them.

[dustybiker]

You feel it. Even in a look across a wide space a look can light you up when they love you.

[tponderingundead]

she'll probably get you to do more things with her. also to all you pervs on here, no, it doesn't have to be sexual.

[JustiReno]

Lol you’re 15 😂 one day kid be careful out there

[tponderingundead]

i think i'm pretty careful. i just know what to say.

[JustiReno]

I agree - e. g., say “yes” when you give her a 💍

[tponderingundead]

lolol

[Iron_Man]

When she’s always acting real friendly and wanting to hang around and starts asking real personal questions

[OddBeMe]

I’d say how much time they want to spend with you. If she wants to go on dates and vacations etc.

[JustiReno]

I didn’t believe my girl loved me until it came down to money lol then it made me seriously question the way I’d been treating her

[Jltakk]

I don't have the experience to properly judge, but if she enjoys being around you, genuinely, then at least she loves you as a friend, as a minimum.

[Anonymous]

When you are broke (or you became broke) but she won't leave you and says she loves you regardless, then she's a good woman, who loves you.

[Anonymous]

Hmmmmm, look at her action. Some women they don’t show much love in words but they show much love in their actions

[grega239]

You just have to trust her i guess

[innerman]

Their actions... what kind of proof do you need

[Slim57]

When you are about to die and she's still there