When she is selfish and only really cares about herself , you won’t be her top priority, you will be in the beginning while she locks you in but then you slowly won’t be , she will toy you around like you are a convenience to her , she wants you to respect her but she can’t respect you, she will hold you on a leash and try to drag you in when she feels you are pulling away from her , I am dating a girl like this now that I am finally seeing her true colors , and little does she know I been down this road before , so it was faster to point it out, so I am moving on and not taking her shit anymore, When double standards come into a relationship that’s your answer that she doesn’t really care about you or value you , she doesn’t hate you , but she isn’t in love with you , she will string along until she finds someone else, and she will play a victim that you are manipulative and controlling when really she is the piece of shit , Users are narcissistic people, that only really care about themselves Gold diggers are narcissistic people , I already had a few narcissistic bitches in my life and they are really good at playing you and making you feel that they only have eyes for you but they are blind siding you , so for some reason I attract these selfish psychos. It hurts like hell to get your heart shit on , but you have to realize you deserve better than this , find someone that values you like you value them , respects you like you respect them , wants to be by your side and sacrifices and removes selfishness for you like you do for them , those are all the qualities you need for love to grow , without that you are just wasting your time, When a partner prioritizes everyone else over you friends and acquaintances etc. , kick them to the curb , they are not worth your time. It’s ok to have friends but your friends should never come over your partner , So You are better off being single and selfish yourself to be honest , you can’t get into a relationship to be single , if you do , then what is the point of being in a relationship at all? And it’s nothing to do with insecurities , it comes down to respect for each other
1. she doesn't have an education or any career potential. 2. she constantly asks for gifts or for you to take her on expensive dates. 3. you have a gut feeling that she's not that into you 4. Take a look at her dating history. how many dates has she been on? how long were her relationships? what does she have to say about her exes 5. how much effort does she put into the relationship? if someone loves you enough, you just KNOW they like you. 6. if you have to ask strangers on GAG on whether or not she's in it for the money or love, then she's probably in it for the money.
Do not disclose your income or your education and wear modest clothes. In Las Vegas, the people who walk out of limos always wear ugly clothes. They don't want to be harassed so they pretend to be poor. My uncle makes over a million each year and he wears ugly clothes when he leaves the house and his customers don't judge him cause they also wear ugly clothes while being filthy rich.
This doesn't really work because while you may keep the gold diggers away any other woman will be turned off by your lying, and hiding your wealth from them.
For you to require a woman to love you, assumes that men and women give equally but I don't see much evidence of that. Besides that I don't know that love is worth a lot. See, when women talk about love they are talking about a feeling. She could feel love for you now but not feel it 1 hour from now. She could flip-flop every day or week depending on every conversation you have with her or even depending on what dream she has while sleeping. A man -- from my POV - is thinking more of a principle when he shows love. He does stuff because it's the right thing to do, not because of every up and down of feelings.
You expecting her not to love your money is like the pizza shop owner expecting people not to love free pizza. Of course the smart pizza shop owners sets requirements on who can get a pizza and a smart man has boundaries that he requires his woman to operate within. That's two-sided also: Smart women also have boundaries.
Anyhow, I don't care if she loves me or not. I do care if she's loyal, trust worthy (based on facts not hopes/dreams/guesses) and respectful and I will give those same things to her in exchange.
Its normal and GOOD when women have an attraction or standards regarding a mans financial security. here's the thing though. A gold digger will feel entitled to and to control said finances. Whereas a good woman will only be appreciative of a mans generosity.
Gold digger tells rich man, make it worth my while and ill go with you on vacation and screw your brains out in proportion to how much you take care of me.
Good woman says thank you so much for inviting me on vacation with you, im unable to contribute much right now but i will help out any way i can. She will then genuinely have a good time whether you hand her a stack of cash for spending money or not. Either way she is happy just to go with you and already believes you are above and beyond to take her because she knows she does not deserve any money or money spent on her just for going.
I literally have met both kinds of women because im quite well off and go on month long vacations and such and ofc i want to bring whoever im dating. Its all about the attitude.
Well in my case I can only guys as a reference, but I start noticing if I’m paying too often. I imagine it’s the same with girls. If you meet a girl and everything seems fine in the beginning, but you notice she never offers to pay for dinner or tickets or anything, she might like you because you give her free stuff. Depending on how needy you are, she might not even have to ask you, because some people are so eager to please they just automatically buy things and pay for everything. If I were going out with someone like that I’d be like hey, I know you’re only trying to be nice, but this doesn’t feel fair. Let me get the bill. You’ll see that from girls who don’t care about your money - they will offer to pay and also buy you things back.
Tell her that what you have is owned by your family and that you plan to get separate accounts from them and start from zero. A good woman would be proud of you and stay in the relationship.
I want my man to pay for all of our bills, but I’m proud of him if he refuses help from him family, even if it would make our situation better. I don’t consider it being interested in the money. I am far more attracted to a man who is hard-working but poor, compared to one who is rich from a heredity.
One easy way. Don't let her know anything about your finances. It is your money... she has nothing to do with it. She doesn't need to know how much you make, how much is invested, how much is in your checking, how much is in your savings... etc. Don't let her have access to use any of your monies.
If you are discreet about your finances and you don't let on you have money then the only reason for her to keep showing interest is because she likes YOU.
If you are forthright right from the start about your salary, your job, your worth, your assets your savings... etc. hoping she'll be impressed... and you wine and dine her and spend lots of money on her from the start... well, you'll never know at that point what her true interest is.
I don’t think a Gold digger would stay nice for long. She would probably pout more if she doesn’t get her way or you don’t get her the present she wants or take her on that really expensive trip. If you give a girl something simple for Valentine’s Day like a rose or chocolate does she pout that you didn’t give her diamond earrings or a Louis Vuitton bag or does she smile and say Thankyou I love you. Some may play a good game and put on a nice mask for awhile but true colors will show. Gold diggers tend to be really sweet after they get what they want and then turn moody after the newness wears off. I don’t think it’s horrible for a girl to like your money though. What’s important is is that ALL she likes? She has to also care for you.
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The way that a woman will take your money is she will act as if she truly cares about you, she will pretend she doesn’t care about the money so that you think she’s not a gold digger and in return you’ll spoil her more because you think she’s genuine. Some of us are really good actresses who don’t get caught until you’re already broke. In all honesty, the only way to tell if a woman is using you for your money, is to do what someone else said in the comments: Lie to her and tell her you’ve become bankrupt, you’ve been disowned by rich parents, etc. Then don’t give her money for a month or two, and maybe even ask her if she can help you with gas money. If she blocks you and ditches you, then she’s a gold digger. If she cares about your situation and offers you money to help you get by, then she’s genuine.
There are two ways. 1. If you're rich, dress simply, like a beggar and go hunt for women. Those who care about money only won't even come near you, let alone talk to you. Unfortunately nowadays you could spend a year in hunting for women like that and you still won't find a woman who doesn't care about money only. 2. If you're in a relationship and wanna find out whether she's with you for the money, simply tell her you have bankrupted and lost your job and all of your properties. Within a week tops she'll leave you.
I have never known someone's income until we get super serious, which isn't usually for at least 4 or 5 dates minimum.
Are you bragging about it or so? if you are do not do that, also pay attention to how you look, surroundings, etc... don't invite them to your place if its really upper class or if your well off and have multiple cars, don't drive the nicest one. Maybe suggest meeting her someplace, rather than picking up.
Also dress average, don't dress like a rich guy.
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If you won her initially over by paying for her, then she's in it for the money. It's that simple. Or just split the bill (in the first few dates). That takes care of the low profile gold diggers, who are in it for your resources. Watch them getting butthurt and calling you a cheapskate, "not a real man" and whatever. Those gold diggers didn't get what they wanted.
Take away all the money you have. Then ask yourself what keeps the relationship? Does your woman stand by your side still?
If on a dating site, she always has some ambiguous sob story for why you can only talk to her using the chat on that site, and absolutely nowhere else, when the site charges men to send messages and is free for women to chat with anyone, you know full well the site is paying her to string you along, and she just wants money.
Simple. A girl who is in it for love won't expect you to pay everything, or spend quality time in inexpensive activities. I have paid the bill before and I would take a walk in the park anyday, to get to know each other.
It doesn't hurt if the girl has a career, or a job she loves. Most of the golddiggers never worked and are easily swayed by the things they never had. So the guy with the biggest wallet easily buys them.
Tell, her one day, that you've just lost everything and you're flat broke. If she bails because of that, you've got a gold digger and just did yourself a huge favour! If she sticks and tries to help you as much as possible, keep her!! Just so she doesn't get pissed and leaves you, do it on April first, it's only about 2 months away.
a diff between gold digger and a real woman is easy: a gold digger would only be nice if you have money to lend her, but is pretty likely to cheat on you with another man or leave right when you dont have anything. a real woman would stick with you, no matter what
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Read the book, The Rational male by Rollo Tomassi.
He has talked about the male and female psychology about relationship. After reading this book I can assure you. You'll get your answer.
Women want sexual relationship with an alpha male but they want to marry a beta male provider ( beta male providers are men who were nerds in their high school/college but all girls ignored them back then but they end up in decent paying job so most girls marry them for their financial security. )
He also talked about a term something called alpha widow in his book. An alpha widow is woman who's married to beta male provider but her feelings are for that alpha Chad.
For more context read the book or listen it on audible and if you're a freeloader then you already know where to find it ;-) pirateop.
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The way you truly can tell,
is if she helps you be successful, And doesn’t pull you down,
i run a buisness My girlfriend works for me, and goes above and beyond, And doesn't ask me for a danm thing,
You can't fake love at least not for long. The way to tell she don't love you is she won't sacrifice for you or if she does she does it with a negative attitude so you can shut up.
Don't except sacrifices from someone who doesn't love you. All they do is take, and never give.
it's usually pretty easy to tell since those women usually aren't very smart lol. if she's constantly asking you for gifts/ expensive dates that's usually the most obvious sign.
proabably when she doesn't really care or show interest in you, your family, etc things that are important to you or things you care about. they dont matter to her much she always rather just wants to go shopping or somethin
Test her text her from another number and say you got robbed and they took everything then ask her for gas money if she says no hangs up or blocks you then ditch dat hoe my guy if you really want to know just test her and see if she will stay with you when shit gets real
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Only one way really. Drag out the vetting process. Be cheap! There 's no reason this can't be fun. Usually I can spot gold diggers. And it would be so easy to dismiss them. But I think it's much funner to toy with them. Make them really work to earn you. Exasperated them. And eventually even a gold diggers realizes when she encountered a wealthy guy she isn't going to Crack. That is the funnest part. When the blow up and leave.
They will babble about money related topics very quickly... how expensive was your car, what that new silly designer handbag will cost, what is your income...
Hypothetical experiment: take her out to a dinner and after eating, ask her to split as you forgot the money. See the reaction on her face and her body language.
Easy don't give her access to any money and don't spoil her. If she after your money she will leave because she doesn't get it. If she wants you she stay without needing to be spoiled or sponsored.
if u got bank dats gonna be a part of ur appeal. thing is 2 filter out women who find that ur only appeal. its usually not dat hard if u aren't flashing ur money or spreading it around 2 eagerly
Tell her that your wealthy parents just disowned you, and that the company you invested all your money in just declared bankruptcy, and see how she reacts.
I could never. I don’t care how much money you make. I only ask to have enough. I go for love nothing more. I hate those girls who only ask for money and things. But I do admit I used someone to get something expensive, once.
Best way to avoid it is probably to marry a woman who has money herself. At least speaking from experience .
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She would be offering to pay half as much. Not want the best of things. Happy to spend time in with you and skip going out. More about time together less about flash.
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When you go out for dinner with her, let her choose the restaurant and the food, on occasions let her choose her presents, if she choose expensive things then it will be obvious
If you have lots of money and wanna weed out the gold diggers do super cheap things with them for the first 10-15 dates and if she’s still around then you know she’s not a gold digger
See if she always helps to pay for stuffs during the dates, especially when you become unemployed. "Where your money is, there your heart will be." So see if she helps to pay for stuff.
You'll never know unless they show their cards, but even then a gold digger could show her true intentions way later down the line when she sees it as best to take all your money and can.
She’ll start making a lot of demands places we need to go traveling fancy jewelry fine dining
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Let them think you are just scraping by when dating them before telling them you have lots of money, if they stick around for awhile thinking you are broke then you’ll know
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