I wonder……? 🤔🤔?

[Anonymous]

I realized men don’t like me because I’m a total bitch and toxic. It’s why I don’t have much luck with them. Also, it’s why I attract not so good men who only want sex. To be fair, I’ve realized this for awhile but I just didn’t realize how bad I am or was.

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+1 y

Maybe I should go with men who only want sex.

[dudeinohio]

Well, maybe, someday, you'll calm down a bit, or find someone who can handle your personality.

I've seen a lot of your questions and you are recognizing your faults. This is a good thing. You also, even if you don't admit it a lot, are very much in need of a relationship.

In time, I think, you'll be able to balance things out and be successful in finding a meaningful relationship.

Now, based on your replies to this question, you've decided to go with people just wanting sex. Ok. This could help in such a fashion as to at least give you a little taste of what a relationship is like and how to interact with guys.

[nolabels]

I think you're hurting very deeply and that you would help yourself by getting that figured out.

It's not something that's done overnight, nor is it easy.
Worthwhile? Yes.

That's what I'm seeing. 🙂👍

[MJackson1234]

So basically you are the type categorized as a not wifie material. So you know what you need not to do and where you should not hang with or at if you want to change that.

[Asker]

I don’t see myself getting married.

[MJackson1234]

Ok. Then what the question exactly?

[Asker]

Debating if I should just have sexual relationships. Or find someone as toxic as I am.

[MJackson1234]

Hooking up with another toxic person will be like throwing gas into a burning house. You might be the one but for most people when they get to their thirties or forties they change their minds and now they have to carry that luggage with them.

[RespectfulGuy]

You asking this question and writing the details demonstrated that you seek more than sex.

It shows maturity and a deep seated yearning for change.

I wish you success.

[Asker]

Actually, I’m going to go for just sex.

[RespectfulGuy]

Then you're already there. 😁

[Asker]

I mean, why not you know? 🤷‍♀️

[RespectfulGuy]

Because I always believe than women want more than sex.

And it's natural because women are the ones carrying the baby. Hence I always believe she wants love and security before sex.

[Asker]

In my case, love isn’t going to happen. Nor do I want kids.

[RespectfulGuy]

I'm not saying you what kids.

And I don't mean you're getting love with your boyfriend.

I'm saying its a women's instinct to seek love and security before sex because she's the one carrying the baby.

[loveslongnails]

You really seem to enjoy repeating these posts about yourself. Why is that?

[Asker]

My mind gets the best of me a lot.

[loveslongnails]

I have no idea what that means. Do you?

[Anonymous]

You are gorgeous you just need a good person that appreciates you for you and not worry about your kitty

[Jamie05rhs]

"Maybe I should go with men who only want sex."
And what will that accomplish?

[Asker]

At least I know someone wants me in a way.

[Asker]

Just sexually, I mean.

[Jamie05rhs]

You want someone to just use you sexually and then throw you away?

[Asker]

Might as well.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Sasha0426 I want to give you my honest opinion: I think you have low self-esteem. I think you need to work on that. Right now, you're thinking about just letting yourself be used by other people. That isn't right. You need to believe in your own dignity and your own worth. You are special, even if you don't see it or you don't believe that right now.

[Asker]

I wish I can but I never could.
So far I had guys only want sex with me and I’m wondering if I made the right decision for declining them.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Sasha0426 I know this is cliché, but it really might be helpful to speak to a counselor.

[Tstrbrainer]

Well, you are a total bitch in some ways and I think you should be disciplined 😉

[LazerBean]

Or maybe just better yourself?

[Asker]

I’ve been this way my whole life.

[Red-Blaze]

If you still not dead you can still work on your self :)

[LazerBean]

Exactly, you are that way because you continued to choose to be so.

[Asker]

What if I went for someone who is also toxic? Or just have a sexual relationship? Either one would be great for me.

[LazerBean]

Either one will leave you with only more emotional baggage and misery

[Asker]

Well, it’s either I do one of them or get into a meaningful relationship and fuck up the guy I end up with.

[Red-Blaze]

Why say nagtive on your self and weak on him?
If you think you got a problem of being toxic its the first part to get better, a lot of toxic people don't know they are, and that is a bigger problem then there problem
Also a strong person can take some fuck ups, life fucks everyone one way or the outher

[LazerBean]

I guess just learn to accept that you deserve every bad thing that happens to you in life, then.

[Red-Blaze]

What?

[LazerBean]

I was talking to op.

[JustMeL120]

I have the same problem lol

[MementoMori777]

Yep that seems about right

[KrakenAttackin]

Is there a question in there?

[Asker]

Should I go for someone toxic and have a toxic relationship or have just casual sex?

[KrakenAttackin]

Dual toxicity doesn't end well.

[Asker]

It’s better than fucking up a good guy.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Sasha0426 In what way do you think you will fuck him up?

[Asker]

@Jamie05rhs I’m so bad that even my friends and family recommend me not to date. They know what kind of person I am.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Sasha0426 Okay, but let me ask you this: Have they ever believed in you before? Sometimes the people closest to you can be the most negative. Because they've known you so long that they've put you in a box. And they don't see you in any way other than that box that they have created for you.

[Asker]

@Jamie05rhs I do take that back. My stepmom and sisters want to help me find someone. But, I don’t really want them to because I told them I’m not good enough.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Sasha0426 Aww

[Jmmmfi4]

Dm real quick

[Asker]

Sent you a message

[rebeliouse]

so do something about it!