Is being "too nice" a good reason to reject anyone?

[SunnyRS]

I met a friend today and told me about this one instance where he asked a girl out for coffee and she said you are "too nice" to go out with sorry.
So it is a genuine reason or she was just rejecting him politely. (I think the second)
But if you think the first then what is the good amount of nice to get in a relationship according to you?

Updates

11 mo

Sorry guys for the incomplete question. The girl he asked to coffee was his college friend and he asked her out on a date kind of thing.

[Billlewis]

That's not surprising; many women prefer a 'bad boy' for an intimate sexual relationship. Some women will allow a 'nice guy' to provide for her emotionally and financially, while reserving the privilege of fucking her for her other male acquaintances, which I find incredibly exciting.

[SunnyRS]

I understand what you are saying but I hope it's not right.

[Billlewis]

I don't want to bring you down, but that's what I've noticed recently. You may be better off pursuing a woman who's a bit more genteel, and not quite as wild.

[SunnyRS]

I will surely tell him to keep that in mind.

[rafaklabae]

Being too nice sometimes isn't that good. Personally ita not like I want f*ck boys but if a guy is just too nice or too polite or just tries really hard it's a turn off for me. Its seems to me like he is desparate. I know it sounds bad but I think people have to try being normal with the ones they like. Not being too interested but not uninterested either. Yeah I know it sounds bad but that's how I see it. And yeah I have been too nice with guys that didn't really deserve it and I got rejected so yeah..

[SunnyRS]

Hmm, I understand your point

[NotTacocaT6969]

Too nice? No.


Too innocent? Yes.


I rejected a guy who was literally a 10 year old walking around in a grown man’s body.


Saying he word “vagina” out loud probably would’ve made him cum so hard he’d pass out.


Too innocent.

[SunnyRS]

Sorry didn't mean to laugh but that was hilarious

[BarryLiverstone]

She was his friend and had already friendzoned him so she wasn’t sexually attracted to him. What she said was an excuse

[SunnyRS]

I think so too.

[BarryLiverstone]

by the way he may have also been too nice which helped get him in the friend zone in the first place

[SunnyRS]

How is being nice equals to being friend zoned?

[BarryLiverstone]

Being authentic is being yourself, having boundaries and being honest even if that causes friction. However being “too nice” usually means being dishonest and holding back on opinions and allowing others to walk on your boundaries

[SunnyRS]

Hmm that's true.

[BarryLiverstone]

So she did your friend a favor by giving him feedback that he should be more authentic and stop worrying about pleasing everyone.

[kylee2437]

I mean if asking her out for coffee was “too nice” for her then I wouldn’t even take it personally. Seems like she’s used to men that love taking her on zero effort parking lot dates.

[SunnyRS]

Sorry I think the question is incomplete but the girl he asked for coffee was her friend in college.
I am going to mention that in the update.
Does that change your opinion or is it the same?

[kylee2437]

Hmmm maybe she just looks at him as a friend and didn’t want to offend his actions of wanting more?

[SunnyRS]

That is what I think as well.

[DizzyDesii]

Well she's one of the few clearly in search of a fckboy. After one hurts her enough times, she’ll be begging Mr Too Nice to give her a second chance lmao

[DizzyDesii]

Update— he was previously friendzoned so yea he can remain friendzoned

[SunnyRS]

😅😅😅That's going a little rough on the girl but maybe you have a point there Desi.

[SunnyRS]

Hmm you might be right.
But if he didn't ask her out in college how was he friend zoned?

[DizzyDesii]

You just said he asked out a friend from college. He likely friendzoned himself by waiting too late to approach

[SunnyRS]

That's true.
I will tell him that he might have missed his chance their