Guys: Have you ever been rejected for being too nice?

[beebella]

Sadly, yes

Maybe, but I'm not sure

I don't think so/I'm not nice

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Go check out @Slim57's post as well. 👍 Have you ever rejected someone for being too nice? ↗

[ohshee]

Yes I have and the way everything happened was kind of embarrassing your moment play this way I walked away talking to myself LOL in this badass guy he just staring at me any kind of cuts me off on the way I was walking and he said something about the girl and then he pushes me and when I spun around I was looking at her and he said what are you looking at her for and I didn't say anything and I turned around and started walking away and as I'm walking away this guy's telling me a pussy and how he's going to beat my ass and blah blah blah a couple of my friends we're watching they were laughing and one of my friends girlfriends knows the girl that I was turn down from and she was walking over all ready to talk to her in about 45 minutes later we're at a party but about 45 minutes later the girl that is my friend's girlfriend walked over to me and she goes you know why she would go out with you can I see why because because you're too nice of a guy you're too Prissy and my brother was standing there and he starts laughing my brother goes she sure doesn't know him does she well about a month later we have this place called The Armory and they're having a big party there and a couple of my friends and I would go walking in and I see that girl there and I walk up to her lights are talking with her and I can see that she's crying or had been crying ask her what's wrong she goes my boyfriends is just fucking me up and I want out of here if she shows me a rich got her coat over it set up our alarm was black and blue then she kind of raised up her skirt a little bit and her thigh was black and blue and then Here Comes her boyfriend with a couple of his friends and the guy pushed me and he said I should kick your ass and I said yeah you probably should and when I said that he's just kind of stopped and looked at me and I grabbed the girl's hand and I go come on it goes where the fuck do you think you're going I said I'm going to take her home cuz she wants away from you and the guy goes to reach for and I pulled her I said dude don't touch her I said I know you think you're a girl and I know that you know girls only fight girls that you're not going to fight her no more and his friends started laughing we started walking out the door and he's yelling and screaming and I can hear them walking up behind us and I handed her the keys to my car I should go in there go to that car right there started up and it turned around and the guy was right there and I don't even know what I said what he said to me but I just aim for the front of his face but I hit the back of his head I hit him so hard can you tell down to the ground and I walked over to my car I thought she was going to drive but she was in the passenger seat and I left and I asked her if she wanted to go to her house or my house and she said my house because he was going to he showed up at her house she said I think you knocked him out I said I don't know then she said I'm sorry that I didn't to you very nice as soon as so good everything happens for a reason and then she asked me if we could run by her house really quick she wanted to get something I said okay she ran into her house to get 7 I called my girlfriend and told her that I was bringing a girl home I explained the situation so when we get to my house we both walked in she was see my girlfriend and then looked at me and I introduced them to each other and I can just read on the girl's face did I walk that give my girlfriend a kiss and said hello and my girlfriend started talking with her and they became really good friends the girl ended up spending the night there and when my girlfriend that I went to sleep she said I think that girl has a crush on you and then I explained everything to my girlfriend what it happened started laughing knight in shining armor I told her thank you and thank you for letting me bring a girl home LOL she said don't make a habit of it

[Still-alive]

more like women have told me i am nice but im not the guy for them many times smh.

and i also get the "you'll find someone someday" line from them too. like ohhh ok thanks but i wanted you tho? oh well.

[Still-alive]

its ok i don't let this stuff turn me bitter anymore like it used to. just dust yourself off and move on :)

[exitseven]

I think there must be a play book because I have heard all of that too.

[OlderAndWiser]

When I was in law school, I had my hair cut by a very attractive girl who was a single mother. Around Valentine's Day, I sent Gwen flowers and asked her for a date. We went out a few times, the relationship quickly became sexual, and then she suddenly ghosted me.

I had never had that experience and I wanted to get an explanation. One day, I waited by Gwen's car when she was getting off work and she was forced to explain what she did. She said she thought that I was too nice for her, that we wouldn't last, and she didn't want her and her two children to get attached to me and then have us break up. I wasn't sure that she was being sincere but I simply accepted her explanation and moved forward.

A few months later, I heard through a mutual acquaintance that Gwen was a cocaine addict. I had never seen any signs of that problem and, if I had, I would have tried to help her with it.

[exitseven]

Maybe you dodged a bullet.

[OlderAndWiser]

@exitseven I haven't ever wanted to reconnect with her!

[Almost10inch4funlol]

Yep in my young middle school days 🤦🏽‍♂️ I was the super nice artist who was constantly surrounded by pretty girls … and not together with not one of them 😂 not mad about it because I figured women out in high school and they say what sounds best but deep down desire unpolitically correct things from a man and not have to tell him. I’m still nice but stern in my path without any compromise unless earned. And to hold her accountable but anyway yea being too nice and agreeable is the more sneaky and devious move because you compromised your own reality for a girl who is simply pretty and hasn’t delivered any attempts towards your desires and she will use your attraction to her to fill in the confidence and emotional part that she’s not getting from the big dick fuck boy that’s blowing her back out every day 🍆🐱💦😭😂😂 but I don’t blame women for that men choose to get friendzoned 🤦🏽‍♂️ That shit is torture 😭 I refused to be close friends with a woman I’m extremely sexually and/or romantically interested in unless she’s gay, in a relationship with a friend/family, or we’ve had sex already. Being over nice at your own expense is unattractive to women and also slightly creepy that you’re so willing to give any pretty girl anything even if you deep down don’t want to but fear her leaving. Didn’t mean to drunk rant lol 😂 sorrrry 🤷🏽‍♂️

[TheorionMage]

Just as daughters are shaped through their interactions with their Fathers,,,, so are Sons shaped by their maternal interactions in their formative years. Comes a time in One's adolescence where One 'tests' what they've observed in their preteen 'education'.

Females secretly seek to experience the unfettered 'naughtiness' they've been cautioned against and Males 'test' to see if being 'gentlemanly' 'wins' the fidelity and physical affections of the saucy maidens who caught their eye~
Sadly, most life experience teaches parental promulgation has filled their Offspring's head with idealized clergical 'wishful thinking' bullshit!

Every recorded teenage angst ballad chronicles a teenage girl seeking a rebellious boy who'll be faithful only to her; and every teenage boy craves an impassioned teenage girl who'll give in to her inherited hormonal lust to BE physically ravaged ~

And so, BOTH sets of parents LIE about that 800LB hormonal gorilla; seeking to dodge the bullet~

[NathanDavis]

"rejected' never, because I've never declared or proposed to anyone ever

"too nice" never heard of that but I've heard this "you're too good for me" or... "you're not my type, you're too good" and it was funny because this came from girls that I wasn't dating or trying to date... was just girls I happened to spend time around with and got to know another so they were like "too bad you're not a bad boy" or something of that sort, lmao

so I guess I've been -not a match- for not being "bad enough" which is funny... but I was also way younger, is not something I see lately, maybe I'm too nice after all?

[IDontBelieveIt]

When I was 21 I just moved to a new area nearer work one of my mum's friends who had known me for 8 years tried getting me with a girl. She knew was friends with a family who had a daughter 21 she had a baby boy from one guy who didn't want to settle, I was mature enough to be his dad, this girl told my friend I was too nice! She was interested in another boy that slept around but also liked to use his fists. From age 9 to 15 I saw my mum beaten so I became very protective of females, I didn't understand her mentality.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

The funny thing is yes I have & I still laugh about. Long story short I asked a girl out she turns me down because I was too nice. Years later we reconnect & after she had one failed relationship after another she asked me out. I told her to go pound sand & I start laughing & walk away.

[Lost_in_the_Woods]

I have been told by many females that I am unattractive because I am too nice and sweet and have to be meaner to find a girlfriend.

My response is that if there isn't a single girl out there who wants me to be sweet to her and thinks that is attractive, I'd rather be alone than try to someone I'm not.

So far, I'm still alone.

[SGTAdam]

Probably when I was with a girl she would be upset because I did not get involved in the arguments and fights that she had with another girl because I always wanted to handle things at a low tone and just talk about it but it never worked out with her and we didn't last.

[Caliguy88]

I have several times for sure. I’m about the nicest guy in the world so I’m certainly not that bad boy that sometimes girls want. But at the same time, the girls I do date or hookup with in general are the best of the best. Good people and way hotter than me... well, I’m fairly good looking don’t get me wrong but im a 7 and usually get 9s... I always date up with those looking for a good and successful guy.

[The-Wise-Phoenix]

When I was younger Yes I got rejected for being too nice. It happens to a lot of guys.
Then as time passes those guys become not so nice anymore and then those same women who said they were too nice start asking the question.
"Where have all the good men gone?"😱

[MCheetah]

Yep. It happened on rare occasion in my early 20's. And no, I wasn't a "Nice Guy" (I was a virgin at the time, so sex wasn't even on the table.) I mostly got rejected though; like 75% of the time, for my height.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, this happens to me about 90 % of the time, and the reason I am over-friendly with people is cause I suffered from being verbally abused by my father and peers from Middle School, and in High School, the bullying wasn't so bad.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Yes and no.

When I was young..( in my late teens I was a bit of a bad boy.) I was dumped for being nice, it's just I was being nice to her sister instead of her.

[AndrewMG]

Not necessarily, but (I feel uncomfortably saying this) I like being nice to everyone I meet in real life and occasionally that may of been misinterpreted lol

[AydenHazor]

I have not been given that reason, but I've had people tell me I am too nice after letting an ex walk all over me for way too long. The closest I've gotten was being told that I'm the guy that every girl wants to marry but no girl wants to date lol

[Anonymous]

I was once rejected for being a virgin. She said I deserved a virgin girl (I was 19 at the time). She thought she wasn't good enough for me.

I feel like this is what happens. Especially for people under 25, hell under 23.

[EnglishEuropean]

I got used to hearing lines like "You're nice but..."

which I interpreted as a polite way of saying "Ugh, get away from me you pervert!"

[Anonymous]

Yes because. I act more like a friend than a hot sexy lover boy... I'm too scared to make sexual talk or saying anything flirty incase she thinks I'm a pervert only interest in sex... But then because I'm more of a friendly non sexual guy... They say I'm like a brother to her and no girls want a relationship with me... All girls I ever fancied have done this to me

[kevyhanma]

I don’t really approach or pursue women I attract a certain type (like everyone else) and they’re the ones I fuck I haven’t ever dated to be honest I don’t see a reason to when I’m already having sex I’ve never been rejected

[Novacane]

Guys always get rejected for being too nice that is a standard, that's why I tell guys don't be nice to women, treat bad and watch how they pay more attention to you.

[Goatmeal]

Many times. I've even girls hit on me, then when they found out I was nice (i. e. not enough of a macho jerk) they suddenly lost interest.

[scott04sa22]

Only the nice part and she was only attached to total assholes and jerks. She says they keep her happy and feel more submission towards them.

[dolemite89]

of course, but it wasn’t cuz i was actually a nice person i was just acting too nice to them. I think girls can confuse when i’m acting cordial with being nice sometimes 🤔

[RHK36]

Yup, rejected by getting cheated on. Her excuse was that I was too nice. Female logic I guess 😂.

[ChiTown33]

How would you tell?
Women generally don't tell you why they reject you.

[blondfrog]

I don't know they just rejected me they never gave me a reason why.

[Iron_Man]

No But if I have to I can be very tough on a woman that’s what she wants LOL

[LemiaOfChampions]

Most girls I asked out say your too nice, we want a meanie

[Bananadk]

I found out that being nice doesn’t get you anywhere. People respect an asshole way more. They will steamroll right over your ass if you treat them too good. And no, it doesn’t always pay to be an asshole. That’s why I do it for free.

[Sambelfast198526]

I have but not over my looks it was over my penis size