Girls, What does it mean when a woman tells me that she's been talking with other men on a first date?

[ProbablyClueless]

I've had several women tell me that I "should know that [they] have been talking to/seeing other men" on first dates, and I'm wondering if I should interpret that as them saying they aren't interested in me.

What do you all think?

[midnightmoon05]

You have been friend zone.

if I am interested in you … I would not be sharing my other dating experience with you.
if I am treating you like my gf…I talk to you like you are my girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

Well they are just being honest but also want you to know that other men are intrested if you are not.
It's kind of a grey area because it could be a lie of omission because she's not just "talking" to 7 other guys.

[ProbablyClueless]

A lie of omission is one way to look at it... I figure that the heads up that I'm not the only guy is more than fair on a first date though. I don't have a reasonable expectation that she's going to be committed to me so soon, you know?

[Opinion Owner]

Also to do with female psychology. A man other women have or want is often makes him that bit more attractive to us.

[AmandaYVR]

They don't want you to be blindsided like they are keeping something from you.

A lot of people are dating very casually these days (if it all). Some people can get upset if they feel there are others in the mix.

I think you should respect them for their honesty, and not necessarily conclude anything more until if and when you get to know each other more. People date to meet people. Often, eventually two people choose each other, and stop dating the others.

[ShesRad80]

basically not really interested in you but keeping you hanging on, in case the others fall through which is odd to me. like a back up plan so they won't be alone. im old school dater i believe in one guy one girl dating to get to know each other without others in the mix. instead of having options take the time to find out if the guy or girl you like is what you are looking for to actually have something with. i work in healthcare and see it with co workers, have 20 or more people in the mix "talking with to date", it would give me a headache. and in the end once you are together how would you trust they wouldn't be talking to others behind your back?

[ProbablyClueless]

I hear that! This girl is actually a little bit odd in a lot of ways, but that's basically fine by me because I've relegated her to casual dating as the extent of our interactions.

[ShesRad80]

like i tell my friends life is too short to stay where you dont wanna be

[ShesRad80]

and odd how?

[Anonymous]

It’s to inform you that she’s not only talking to or dating you. The fact they tell you is great, green flag. They’re being open, honest and considerate of your feelings by telling you right away so you wouldn’t be hurt or upset in case you thought she was only seeing or talking to you and you somehow found out that’s not the case.

[EmmaMary]

She's just forewarning you that you are not solely her only option.

[ProbablyClueless]

That makes sense! I generally appreciate the heads up, even if I'm not the type to care if women date around.

[Nikki1989]

It is a sign she is at least honest.

[Kathy1983]

She keeping her options open. If you think it about it’s kinda like an interview.

[Jade_Plays]

It may be a courtesy to make you aware ahead of time she isn't dating exclusively.

[ProbablyClueless]

That makes sense... I'm fine with women I'm not in a relationship with dating around, but I guess it's always best to be clear about stuff like that.